Topic : 08/18 Dr. Phil's Road Show: Newlywed Challenge, Part 2

I for one agree that it seems that some of the men have no self esteem of are not happy with their own life or career and end up taking it out on their wives!  These men all seem to have little patience, though some of the women guests could as well open their ears and listen better.   In my own situation since the communcation sucks, I tend to try and read between his lines!  Does it work, sometimes, and sometimes not! 

I seek advice on what to do with a hubby of 6 years who know that he is working for himself and quit smoking a year ago, seems further and further withdrawn from connection to me - continually says he does not care, angry or has something spiteful or disrespectful to say everyday.........its too hard on the head and I am not sure I can continue to play strong one trying to salvage this marriage. 

Why do men get cokcy after the get what they think they want and act as if you had no part to play in it..i gave up my freedom so he can have a work van.we have only one vehicle now, feel i need permission to use it and so the saga continues...............i ask viewers whats wrong with men who seem so low on themselves that they turn it all on to their partners and even try to create a wall between wife and her adult child....that is not his...... 

I LOVE Dr. Phil so much & watch him every day & these days I feel like I could be on the show.. my life is that screwed up.... My husband & I are married for 3 yrs & we have a beautiful 2 yr old daughter.  We have been together for 7 yrs altogether.  He went away to work this past June & just a month ago he called me & told me that there is nothing between us anymore, he don't miss me & don't love me.  He said that he missed me at first when he left but after a while he stopped missing me completely.  We are separated, to be divorced & when he comes home for Xmas he is packing all his stuff up & going back to the place where he is working for permantatly.  My first reaction to this is that he is seeing someone else but he says he is not (I'll never know) 

A couple of weeks prior to this happening he called me & told me that he ran into an old old ex of his at the mall... and he kept saying that when he told her he was married to me she couldn't believe it.  I checked his email (he used to let me do it) & he had an email from her with pictures that same night & it was innocent enough I guess.  I never told him that I seen that email & he would not have known that I even checked it (he checked it first) & a couple of days later he told me not to check his email & changed his password...  He also took out all of our money out of our joint account & closed out the account! Then he tried to change his story about his ex saying that he didn't run into her but he ran into her brother & her brother called her on the phone so they could chat .   For 2 mths prior to these he was telling me that he didn't want to be married & said "why do u think that I was late for our wedding?"  And "joking" that he was going to call a lawyer & get divorce papers sent out to me.. which he didn't - Yet!     

When he first told me that he didn't love me & blah blah blah he said that when he comes home for Xmas maybe we can see if we can work it out... now it's a different story - he's coming home & packing up his stuff......  

I am a stay-at-home mom (hopefully not for long!) & he totally cut me off & has only sent me $300 here & $400 there over the past 2 mths.  I am home here paying all the bills for us.. He don't want to pay me anything but says that from now on his is sending home money for our daughter only.  I am going to get the job I always wanted & hopefully going back to school in Sept to get a real career.  I am totally hurt & clueless about what happened with him.  He is a totally different person the past 2 mths.. To me it seems like he is seeing someone else.  I didn't do anything wrong - I am hardely anywhere with my daughter.  I practically raised her myself so I guess not having him around wouldn't be much different.  He was never home to begin with! 

Anyways.. that's enough bitching out of me!  Anyone have any advice???????????????? 

Thanks 

Confused & Hurt  

just a little constructive criticism, have seasoned happily married couple coach them on the fine art of compromise a little give and take could help these couples a lot. and, to show them by example that everyday  the activities of daily living gets easier if you both work together. And feel free to use my fathers great  quote, " it takes a smarter person to think of a better word any one can use cuss words"  Thank you, have a great day  

I agree with Dr. Phil, Everyone forgets whats really important!! For a year (minus 15 days of R & R) I will be cooking meals by myself, taking care of two cars, doing my own grocery shopping, forget about the tango! (Even the horizontal kind) Why??? Because my husband is in Afghanistan. My most enjoyable moments are when I have the pleasure of hearing his voice...maybe I get lucky and he can get on a computer with messenger and a web cam, so I can see him!! Instead of complaining about what people don't have why can't they just cherish what they do have???? I can't wait until my husband comes home so we can share and enjoy everything so many people complain about!!! The good news is we have gotten past the mid-way hump!! YEA!! Be happy...life is way to short! Good luck to everyone...support our troops!  

Verbal abuse can be worse than physical which it seems as if that is what he is resorting to also. I would separate and require him to get help. I understand you don't want to leave because of the baby but it would be worse for the baby to grow up in an abusive household. If he is angry he lost his job I understand but grow up, be a man, find another one, stop the self pity.  

Your 12 year old will really be affected by this in later years if you don't do something about it now. You don't want him to treat his future wife like that because that's what he grew up with and that's all he knows. Your son will respect you more if you stand up for yourself.  

Your husband pushing you with your child in your arms is a clear sign that he "NEEDS HELP". Again, I think you should find another place to stay until this is resolved, it may get worse!!! You need to think about your children!! Name calling and tantrums are not a positive way to communicate, you need to help your family. You need to protect yourself and your children. Please take the first step and do a separation... it doesn't mean it will end in divorce but if you don't do something now, you could end up worse than divorced. He could really hurt you and or your children. Good luck to you!!!  

Hey everybody, 

These couples need to communicate. The women should participate in the husbands hobbies. In the Challege with Changing the Hummer tires. Every woman should know how to change a tire.  

I work with my husband on the car. It could be the breaks or the oil changing . The women got frustrated with themselves and took it out on eachother. 

 The ballroom dancing. I always believe when a couple dances it tells a story. When I danced with my husband I just knew he was the one. We moved well together and it felt comfortable. It cant be ackword. 

Thanks for reading, 

Natalie