Topic : 11/11 Dating Disasters

From the header info: 

"Dr. Phil's Dating 101 is for you! Lexi thinks her cousin, Angel is too shallow because she will not date a man unless he's a perfect 10. Dr. Phil puts Angel to the test by setting her up on three blind dates — and she’s the blind one! " 

I've tried the internet dating thing forEVER and they all suck. Didn't matter how nice of a description I put in my profile, the only thing it got was cobwebs.  I'm pretty much sick of the whole dating thing and have just concluded that I'm going to walk the earth a lonely old lady.  Internet dating sucks, any kind of dating sucks and it's made me bitter. 

I just watched a repeat of the "Dating Disasters" show.  I was very shocked and dismayed by the attitude expressed by Lexi.  I believe that she will wind up being a lonely, sad person if she continues to focus too much on the looks of a man.  Sure, most people would like to date someone who is attractive, but that can't be the only thing between two people.  Looks fade, people grow older, or they may become disfigured, is that any reason to leave someone that you profess to love?   

I also believe that her real problems revolve around  her insecurities about herself.  To my mind, any person who refuses to date someone of their own race does not love them-self.   As she sat there with her fake, blond hair flowing, I think she didn't remember or know that she is black.  When she had the nerve to tell Dr. Phil that she had nothing in common with black men, I thought I would throw up.  Also, she must not believe that she is beautiful herself because she needs to have someone handsome to validate her own attractiveness.  It's like she's saying to the world "look at who I've got, I must be pretty too".  I hate to burst her bubble, but she would be lucky if most men rated her above a 4 on a scale of  10.  

 Finally, I was outraged because she had the nerve to say that she would accept being treated badly and would take a man who was unemployed as long as he was good looking(and white).  She was mess.   

Does anyone know of a site where discussions occur about those men in match.com who try to conn women?  I would love to know about some of the men on there because I dated one for almost 4 years and he turned out to be a fraud.  He had 50 credit cards, 10 year old photo, lied about his age, etc.  Severely overweight, too.  We never had sex, and I only dated him that long because he went to my high school and I thought I could trust him. 

Please Advise! 

I know Anita personally, from working with her. I'm 23 and married. To the person who says she needs to get a life - wow you don't know how wrong you are! She is the most active and social woman I have ever met! As for sending the ex-boyfriend on the trip - they are friends. If you have the means, why not?  

Please tell me you were kidding or being a smart aleck 

J Paul Getty Museum 

http://www.getty.edu/ 

Would like to see Roy back on the Dr. Phil show!!!   

He seemed like a very interesting, pleasant, down to earth guy, and with his winning smile and good looks, I would like to see more of him. 

You are not an old maid, I am 46 and have the exact same fears as you do.   

My best advice to you is this: NEVER SHOW YOUR HAND.   

As in all good card games, don't lay it all out on the table.  You still have good years ahead of you to fulfill dreams. 

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