Topic : 06/02 "My Annoying Family"

If Becky's family found her behavior so offensive they brought her on the Dr. Phil show, then maybe she ought to get a clue.   

Hi Dr. Phil, 

I just viewed the show today for the first time, (it seemed interesting... 

I do not believe these individuals should change a thing about their personalities - everyone is different, everyone has a "way" about them and their own way of getting along...why, if everyone was the same, wouldn't that be ashame? Wouldn't that be boring? Would not these people (COMPLAINING)  have no one to point the finger and talk about....PLEASE.   

Now, these two women married these brothers, they obviously loved them to do so.....but do you love and marry a person to go about and try to mold them just the way you like, or do you love a person for who they ARE? 

As far as the mother who is being ridiculed by her sister and her own daughter...shame on them for doing that to her, I think this individual is unique in her own way.  Who cares if she is a bit loud and says what she wants to say, the woman has guts and a very, very good sense of humor! and  I love to be around a good "Life of the Party" so to speak..... 

So, lighten up and try to laugh...it's not that serious. 

Brenda 

diagnosed bi-polar.  She was voted loudest mouth in high school and always embarrassed ME until I realized, what the woman on the show said today as true -- she was really embarrassing herself all along.  I am no longer embarrassed when she behaves badly, I feel sorry for HER, not myself.  I am not her.  Dr. Phil made a good point saying that the sister is "painted with the sister's brushstrokes" but any confident person would not need to validate their self-worth or esteem by a relative's bad behavior.  If my sister gets too far out of hand, I simply walk away because I don't want to hear it.  She ALWAYS feels sorry for it and regrets it (unlike your guest) but at the end of the day, she does say, "this is just who I am and either you accept me or your don't."  I accept her.  If other people can't then that's their problem.  Believe me, it's been decades of me working through this to come to the conclusion that she is making a fool of herself, not a fool of me (even when I am the butt of the verbal abuse).  I will kindly ask her to shut it, but if it doesn't work, I let her rant and know in my heart that she is troubled.  Like your guest, I believe it is the same for my sister; it is an issue of low self-esteem and she does want to be the center of attention.  Any attention is good whether it's attention for being a good person or attention for being an obnoxious person.  God bless that woman and her sister.  The consequences are dire, really, when a person cannot adjust socially because I see my sister suffer for it (she cannot keep a job and is depressed often).  The change has to come from inside the person (like Dr. Phil said, the light bulb has to want to change) and until that time, I will be my sister's sister and biggest supporter because she often needs a soft place to land.  

Thank you Dr.Phil for that show with the 2 brothers Erin and Loren. It is so refreshing and so funny to see these 2 grown-up men having such a good time in their lives. I wish more people would be like them. I am a women and I just laughed my head off when I saw these 2 brothers and the way they bevahed. Of  course they should be a little more sensitive in public but you know life is to short not to be happy  and even if the wives say they don't like the way they act I think they enjoy it. Like you say if that's there only problem in life they have it made. 

Who said that the greatest thing in live is the inner child in you. I am going to be 50 on dec,9th and I still feel like a kid and (also act like one sometimes) and I know that's why my husband loves me. So do my reel friends.!!! I make them laugh and life not boring with me most of the time  

THANK YOU FOR THE SHOW I REALLY ENJOYED IT. KEEP THE GREAT WORK YOU DO  

Sincerely,Johanne, Canada 

I was totally amazed that Dr. Phil missed a whole side of the situation. 

The conservative daughter and sister were making demands that their earthy mom & sister adjust to their needs -- they'd been used to her adjusting to their needs their whole lives.  She's lived a rough life giving them what they needed to be prim and proper, and they believe themselves to be far too high above her to offer any recognition, and she's too proud to ask twice for what's hers  -- so she takes what's owed her it by force.   

If the sister and daughter recognized her for what she'd done for them, and condescended to give her what she needs -- the unconditional love she's given them -- she might not have so much the need to shock them into seeing her.