Topic : 06/02 "My Annoying Family"

it was relly funny to me, not to her tho, she would out run me tryin to get away from me,lol she told me she didnt want people to think she did it, well i fixed the problem of her being able to out run me i would just wait till we were in a long cheack out line, and when she would turn around and give me the look i would say loud enough for every one within 15 feet ( dont look at me i didnt do that  lol) and people would move to another cheack out line, well i got a taste of my medicin, i was at the hospital with my wife to visit my best friend while his wife was giving birth to thear daughter, well why she was still in labor my wife my friend and i all decided to go down to the eatery in the hospital they had a mc donnalds express in thear we all got a ice cream cone got back on the elevitor and proceded to go back up to the 5th floor, the elevator stoped on the first floor ,3 other people got on well a guy with them cut one that relly put all mine to shame my ice cream tasted like the air smelled  lol  we were all gasping for air my friend was hitting all the buttons on the elevator trying to make the thing stop so we could get off, when we finley were able to get off i looked at my wife and she was laffin soo hard she had tears in her eyes so i thought it was her she told me no it wasnt me im laffin beacouse you should have seen your face when the guy on the elevator ask you was your icecream good, lol it relly wasnt funny to me cause i had to throw away my icecream cone,but that little incedent broke me from ever expelling gas in front of her or in public, i got to relly see just how funny it wasnt,      ps. to this day i wont ride a elevator it i have to walk up 25 flites of stairs  i will   lol 

my grown son doesn't know when to stop! He carries jokes or pranks to the extreme, continues to talk even when you ask/ order/plead/beg him to be quiet, says hurtful/racist/stupid/untrue things and will argue till the end of time. He quotes movies and shows acting the scenes out as well but can't remember to put away his clothes/ the peanut butter/ his smokesand ashtray/ or what time he's supposed to be at work. He is due to be out of our house in january and frankly, I love the boy but I can't wait! My gosh! He served as a marine in Iraq! I thought that would make him grow up!

Sometimes I worry about taking the next step with my long time boyfriend. We've been together for ages and sometimes the M word comes up. However, I am seriously concerned about tying the knot because of his mother's boyfriend.

I have given the man an honest chance, but every time I have visited the family he has offended me horribly in some way. He's rude, sexist, condescending to my bf, his mother, his sister and to myself. He forces his will on the dog to show off that she is so obedient and it makes me want to walk out and sit in the car. We can't have a conversation without him picking an arguement or choosing to disagree for the sake of starting an arguement. On a good day he's annoying and on a bad day he's an overbearing control fiend. He's even made remarks on our sexlife in front of my boyfriend's mother- a topic he knows nothing about! He's also commented rudely on my bf's sister's breasts.

I don't know why he's allowed to get away with it and I know for a fact my nature will not permit me to tolerate this behavior much longer and it'll only be more tempting to speak out when I have an official place in the family. I've "been good" at the request of my boyfriend, but it will not last and I will tell him off eventually. After going on two nightmare family trips with him I have vowed to never get in a car with him again, or spend long amounts of time with him.

Should this man's annoying behavior keep me from committment? At this point it is and I am afraid of causing a rift if I speak to him.

In my situation, I have to take this a step further. It seems that where I live is a hotbed for this kind of behavior shown on this episode that aired today. 

  

I currently live in Pennsylvania. Now, PA is a place where people, in my opinion ONLY,  just DO NOT have very good manners and social skills! One example is that having a conversation with a native Pennsylvanian is very annoying due to the fact that... 

  

A)The Pennsylvanian will be very quiet and talk in one, two, and three word answers. Once in awhile, you are lucky to get a full sentence. Or... 

  

B)...the Pennsylvanian will dominate the ENTIRE conversation! They go all of the way to the OTHER side of the spectrum! And you can't get a word in edgewise. 

  

Thus, having a conversation with a native Pennsylvanian is, to me anyway, like having teeth pulled! It's like people here aren't aware of "social cues" as they pertain to when to talk and when to be quiet. Frustrating, to be sure!  I use the word "native" due to the fact that I was born out in the Midwest, and my folks were born and raised out here. My Dad got laid off from a job before I was born, and his company offered him a transfer to one of their Midwest branches and he took it.  

  

After awhile, they got homesick and finally moved back here when I was nine years old. My Dad took a job where he took a big pay cut compared to his previous job, but he felt it was worth it because he would be able to "go home" again. However, I feel the midwest was my home because I was born there and picked up that general personality. I've always felt that Pennsylvania was somewhat of an alien planet. 

  

Anyhow, that's the backstory. I reaize that you'll have people like the ones on the show anywhere you go, just more so in some places than others.  

  

Just out of curiousity, does anyone else have a family member, friend, etc. that they have a hard time conversing with? I'd appreciate the input. Thanks! 

Because we are all different, there is a good chance that we are all annoying to somebody. There are annoying habits (like blowing your nose in the shower and leaving it for someone else to clean up) and then there are annoying people (who don't alter their behavior so that other people are comfotable around them). We all have the ability to be annoying and we all have the ability to manage our own behavior. We all also have the ability to understand that others don't always do things our way.   

   

In high school, my son had an annoying habit. When his alarm clock buzzed, he slept right through it and let it buzz. My room was next to his and he would hit the snooze button when I banged on the wall. Ten minutes later it would start all over again. And again, ten minutes after that and again ten minutes after that, etc, etc, etc. Buzzing, banging, quiet, buzzing, banging........He grew up and moved out years ago. I tell this story with affection because I actually miss that annoying habit (and my son living at home).  

   

A lot of the stuff from this show and the message boards is really about annoying habits.   

   

Annoying people don't pay attention to the people around them and how they are reacting. It is pretty easy to read the room and see who is having fun and who is not. I think it is rude and even mean to push people out of their comfort zones, especially in a crowd. Just about any kind of behavior is acceptable (non abusive, of course) with the right company but some people just don't like it. I have do not have a personal problem with swearing or off color jokes but don't find it acceptable in front of my parents, any children or in the workplace. The same with personal issues. Keep the conversation away from a crowd.  

   

But.....life doesn't always work the way we want it to and sometimes people ARE annoying. It comes with the territory of living so get over it and TRY TRY TRY not to be anoying yourself!  

   

Hang in there.   

As a native Pennsylvanian, I understand you may not have "clicked" with someone whom you can relate.  It is a lonely world.  Not all Pennsylvanians live as monosyllabic drones.   

You will meet many people who can hold a good conversation.    

We are here to be found.    

Welcome to Pennsylvania.    

 I think that most of the complaints by the wives on this episode are being taken a bit too far.  They need to loosen up a bit.  So what?  They are having fun.  They seem like good guys who love their wives, and like to razz them a little.  It is endearing to an extent.  I am sorry, I am sure there are people who disagree with me but, It's not really hurting anyone.  Why don't they join in the fun?  I realize there is a line, but maybe if they didn't react to the guys so much, they would cool it a little. 

  

Finally, a terrific topic!!!  

  

Instead of setting these guys up, he should just do an entire show with the four of tem on the stage.  I'd like to find out how many other things they've done [which] the rest of us have done.  

  

The lawn ornaments were hilarious.  I used to keep toys on my desk; e.g., Gumby & Pokey, and if I left my desk for long, I'd come back and find them in all sorts of compromising positions.  

  

"Social sensitivity"?  I don't pee in the shower, but a left cheek sneak on an airplane can provide some levity, especially when it's a full flight, it's late, and everyone's cranky. Besides, if you have to smell the people around you, why shouldn't they have to smell you? 

  

As far as store behavior, don't leave a full cart unattended.  You're likely to find some buried when you get to the checkout counter and are focused on unloading as fast as you can. One item might seem odd, the second makes you pause, but when it's three, four, five, it's worth getting in line behind someone, even if you aren't finished shopping, just to watch them. You can go back & shop more after watching them.  

  

  

My older sister has a mental problem and can be very annoying too.  Live with it.

 I personally wish my husband could loosen up like that more often.  He does, but he is so stressed with work that it doesn't happen as much as it used to.  If he were to tell me 'let's get naked' when I was doing the dishes, I would feel complemented that at that very moment when I am elbow deep in dishes, he finds me attractive.  Not only that he LETS ME KNOW!!  I would love to hear stuff like that more often.  I would join in some of the fun those guys are having because I am sure it would bring out some well deserved laughs between a married couple and probably would enhance the relationship if they could just let loose and have fun and laugh hysterically.  I feel bad for those guys because their wives are making their fun and innocent antics into somewhat of a humiliation!!  They are in a way taking advantage of what they have because there are a lot of women who would love to have men like that.  Just my opinion