Topic : 01/18 "Fighting Over the Will"

Amber is disgusting and Davene has completely failed as a mother with a daughter who speaks to her grandmother the way she has.   

Based on what I saw today on the show,if I were Aileen, I'd be tempted to leave the farm to a charity or establish a foundation w/ proceeds from its sale and cut Davene and Amber out completely.  But, my second thought would be to leave it to Davene for her lifetime and upon her death, have the farm go to a charity or establish a foundation.  That Amber is a selfish, disrespectful and self-absorbed person. She needs a real life lesson:  you get what you give. She shouldn't get a damn thing. 

I also inherited a significant amount of money when I was 18. My mother kept it from me and it caused problems between us for ten years. Long story short, I put myself through college, graduate school, and a post master's program. If she had given me the money at 18, I never would have been this sucessful. I am very grateful to her for her "tuff" love. By not giving me the money, not only did I better myself as a person, but the investments grew expodentially.  Seventeen years later, I used a portion of the money as a down payment on my dream house. Thank you mom. 

When you put your daughter's name on title with you, you give that person a share of current ownership in the property.  That means: 

• if she gets divorced, her spouse can make a claim to share in her interest in the land.
• if she dies, her estate would include her interest in the land.
• if she has creditors that she doesn't pay, they can register a lein against the land.  
• if you want to take a loan against the land or sell it, you need her consent.
• if you change your mind about who you wish to leave your land to, you can only change it if she is willing to sign a transfer of her interest back to you.

As you can see, this is a big step and is very risky.   There are times when it does save time and money though.  Before you take such a drastic step, please ensure that there really would be a substantial tax savings (check that with an accountant) and determine if there is a way to accomplish the savings without changing ownership of the land.   

If you decide to put your daughter's name on your land,  consult a lawyer about getting a trust document for your daughter to sign first that establishes that the transaction was for estate planning purposes only and is not intended to give her any rights to the land during your lifetime. The document should also include a promise from your daughter that would be binding on her estate to transfer the land back to you at any time at your request. 

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Dr Phil. I live in Ireland,and am desperate to visit my sister in the united states.she went there to live with my aunt.when she was 10 years old. I am 56 years old now,and want to spend my first x-mass with her. I live on a disability allowance of 148 euro per week. The problem is I cannot afford the air fare, and spending money while I,d be there. I have been to see her twice, i was working then, and her husband was very ill,so we didn't have a chance to get to know each other.I really want to know, why she was sent to the USA, and never wanted to come back. I was sexually abused as a child, i am having councelling, and am praying that she didn't go through the same horror as i did 

Most people can't possibly work a life time and make a Million dollars, but losing a parent is not 

worth all the money in the world. The two women who want their mother to leave them all that she has worked for b4 she is dead is ridiculous. For safety reasons only the grandmother should have made wills and power of attorneys, but if the two women want the land for greed, then granny should maybe change her will. My mom made my brother and myself equal partners with her b4 her death, so everything went to him and myself. Even tho he was older she gave us both equal amounts. So when the time came all we had to do was split what my mother left us, there wasn't 

a pennies difference. There were no arguments, or greed involved, well, there was the wife. But, 

my being the REAL DAUGHTER she quickly found out whose name was on everything. and it didn't 

spell Diane. 

The daughter and granddaughter are unbelievable.  They are the most selfishpeople I think I've ever seen.  They can't seem to stand on their own feet and are just after her money.  They said they worked but complained about being on welfare(I don't think they understand accountability). Sure they work!!!! Apparently mostly at trying to get her money. 

 It really doesn't matter what they want.  It is hers and should be up to her.  They even came up with I just want to keep the farm in my family but at the same time said they may sell it.  I hope all the people in their lives see exactly who and mostly what they are.  That woman should probably be afraid for her life and should never trust those two. 

 You're wrong This is Canadian Law-not U.S.