Quote From: sam1280_1This story could be mine, only I don't have a home anymore. I live in the basement of my son's house and his wife doesn't want me here. I awake to verbal and sometime physical abuse between my daughter-in-law and my grand daughter nearly every morning. George, my husband, stole from the company I worked for, leading to my firing. He spent 30 days in jail and is working out his probation in a rehab center in St Petersburg. I haven't seen him since July, but will probably visit him in December. In my heart, I don't think I could ever trust him with money anymore. (Like Lyle, he couldn't hold down a job and drinks) I suppose it doesn't make any sense after the 10 years of living hell we lived through, financially but he gave me the best years of my life in terms of being kind and caring. It was trying to be all of that and knowing he was not that finally led to the crisis. Looking at Lyle's wife, I now know why my friends and family are worried about me. I think they can see in my face the damage and know that I might take George back. At this point, I don't know what was the bigger mistake. Marrying George or giving in to my son's pleadings to move back to Michigan and stay with him. In my little trailer, on my own for the first time in my life, I was beginning to find me. But I thought it would be good to go home where I had friends and church I love and to be near my boys and their children. I want so much to go back to living by myself again - I've found an apartment, but my unemployment has run out without one bite on my resume. I have filed for disability, because quite honestly, I don't think I could keep up emotionally or physically with a full time job. I have fibromyalgia, felt like a million - did things slowly, but got them done on 8 mg of prednisone (the first thing in 30 years that has worked) but the doctor is taking me off of it. I am now at 6 mg, have fallen 2x in the last 2 weeks, can't get my left arm above my head to praise the Lord at church, left leg needs help getting into a car, have to walk down steps one at a time carefully, chest is starting to hurt again and I am exhaust.ed I would sleep 12 hours a day if I didn't feel guilty doing it. As much as I would like to have George around again to help me, and as much as it hurts to let go, after seeing that lady's face this morning, I kind of suspect that even after therapy, we aren't going to be able to live together again. The director there wants to take him to a therapist for medicine for his depression and an evaluation. He threw the idea back at the director and said: "don't you think it's stupid for me to be in a substance abuse program and then go take drugs?"
I have an idea for a business and have taken baby steps at starting it, because I have so little money. But I could work it at my own pace, be independent and still take care of me. - If my daughter-in-law doesn't kick me out first. George was my 2nd marriage. In my first marriage I walked on eggs for nearly 20 years.......but it was never as bad as this. And I never felt so trapped, because I had the health to go out and plow new ground. At least Geroge took the time to show me that he loved me. No one in this house speaks to me and sometime when I speak to them, they don't answer. Pray for me, I really need a place of my own to heal find out who S____ really is...............
I, too, have fibromyalgia and other health problems, and know how difficult it can be. Poverty and sickness can cause people to remain in often unbearable situations. From my own experience, worry will only increase the severity of your physical symptoms, so try to avoid the "what if" thoughts that race through your head. As Christians, we can pray and expect God to do His part when we do ours. He knows just where you are and can help you out of a bad situation. Just hang in there and don't give up.
"Every end is a new beginning" is one of my favorite sayings, as well as "Today is the first day of the rest of your life..." A fresh start can begin today. I think in your heart you know what you have to do with regards to George. As far as your granddaughter is concerned, I'd try to just love her and be a godly example to her, as well as to your son and his wife. Even though you don't feerl well, try not to complain, as it only pours salt on wounds. Look for something good to praise your daughter-in-law about daily, as well as the others in the household. Try to become the virtuous woman as spoken of in Proverbs.
Starting today, right now, with God's help, you can become the person that God intended you to be. The first steps are the hardest, but eventually it will get easier. God has a plan for your life--to give you a hope and a future. His plans toward you are of peace, not evil. Trust in Him with your whole heart and He won't let you down.
(Original Air Date: 12/05/05) Breaking up is hard to do -- and it's even worse when it destroys the entire family. When Pat announced he was seeking an annulment after 31 years of marriage, his three daughters felt betrayed. Jennifer and Kellie are doing their best to accept what's happened and repair the relationship with their father and his new wife, but their sister, Mynde, says her father is "dead" to her. Can this fractured family find a way to come back together? Plus, Mary Anne lost count of how many lies her husband, Lyle, told her, and after nine years of marriage, she kicked him out. Now Lyle says he's a changed man. Can he be believed and should she take him back? Share your thoughts.
