Topic : 06/22 Nasty Breakups

I was astounded at the constant lies Kyle tells his wife.  He has no right whatsoever to ask her to take him back, especially after what he did after getting caught  going to a strip club. He has no right to put his hands on her and choke her.  When I read Kyle and Mary Anne's story, it was like reading the horror tale of my own marriage, except my husband did not go to a strip club (that I know of).  He'd lie about anything and everything, from money to who he was and wasn't calling and spending time with, to when and where he was or wasn't working to what he was doing at his (wild) buddy' s house to whether he'd pay the bills.  It was a living nightmare.  Any questioning from me would provoke indignation, threats, hostility, sarcasm, and rage.  Questioning his strange behavior would get me a sarcastic, smart-aleky, hostile retort  and malicious threats with a full blown fight resulting, with me receiving most of the physical injury.  My husband also enjoyed choking me.  I went to work numerous times with dark marks on my chin and/or neck, complete with splotches of bruises on my arms.  He also lied to both mine and his family about everything; he drove my reputation into the ground with lies.  My family took his side and believed him in almost everything; to this day they still blame me for most (if not all) of it.   And like Kyle, he has not been accountable for his actions, but has tried to keep an emotional chokehold on me- he's asked me to take him back, swearing things would be better, that he'd changed, that he still loved me, etc...(along with a reminder that "I was his wife whether I liked it or not).  I am still battling the emotional and psychological damages he inflicted. 

The cowardice of these men just blows my mind.  I hope that Mary Anne doesn't end up in the pitfall of taking Kyle back.  He is only saying he's changed to see if she'll take him back and let him get away with what he's done!!!  Don't buy it, because it's garbage!  Women deserve so much better than that!  We don't deserve to be lied to, cheated on, played, or physically attacked, ever.  No, I don't think Mary Anne should take him back.  She deserves so much better. 

Men like that DO NOT CHANGE, and they CANNOT BE TRUSTED.  PERIOD.  

Thanks so much for your words of encouragement; over the past four years, they have been few and far between (I hate saying that, I WILL NOT be a victim!)  I don't think it will ever return or he will be back and luckily I have friends that would kick my rear end if I even thought of giving him the time of day. 

You are right about God's help; my faith has helped me beyond what I ever imagined and has gotten me through this nightmare.  I keep reminding myself, He doesn't give us more than we can handle. 

Thanks again and good luck to you! 

The lady who will not forgive her father is only hurting herself.  Forgiveness sets us free.  Anyone I cannot forgive is in control of me.  Forgiving them does not say what they did was ok. It says I'm not going to be bound to the misery of my resentment. 

Michelle 

I think mynde is being a big baby. doesn't she want her dad to be happy. i thinks she's making a big deal out of nothing, it's not like her dad got a divorce because of  his new wife. she is not a "bastard" child now just because her dad got an annulment and i think it is wrong for her to use it.