Topic : 06/22 Nasty Breakups

I am 15 years old and when I watched this show today I was in shock that the dad got off the hook that easily! My mom and dad divorced when I was 13 and at the age of 14 my dad stopped talking to me. I have two little siblings and he still picks them up for visits and he calls them. But he never talks to me. My mom is very very supportive of my decision not to talk to him. HE IS THE PARENT! It is not my job, especially as a teen, to WORK at having a relationship with my father. He has also lied under oath to the judge that he has two children with my mom when he actually has three, and he just wasn't counting me. Although the court knew he had three children, he got away with it. He has done numerous things that have hurt my family and I think that the father in todays show needs to step back from the situation and do something about it. He is losing his daughters. I have also read people saying that Mynde is a big baby and she should grow up. Now, listen, no matter how old you are or how long ago her dad started acting this way. IT HURTS! And it will never stop hurting until that relationship is rekindled. Seriously.  

As I watched today's show, I got very frustrated that a grown woman was acting like a 6 year old. I feel that she doesn't know how to handle issues and/or problems in an adult manner. I can understand her feelings toward her father. But at some point, she should realize that people make mistakes and that people are not going to handle things like she would. She should also realize that she isn't 6 years old.  I just want to yell, thru this monitor at her " HOW OLD ARE YOU AGAIN?" "GROW UP!" She should charish the time she has and live everyday as if it was her last. 

  I think the Daughter has problems getting over things. I realize that what Dad did might have seemed in her eyes to be a disaster. But over all it was just a thing he though was right before he married his new wife. And the Daughter MUST realize is that he is and ADULT and her DAD. He doesnt have to answer to her. And she should respect what he did.was for his OWN personal reasons. I think she should grow up and make up with her Dad. And I know how wonderful it is to have Holiday`s and Birthday`s together with All the Family.  I lost my Dad about 8 years ago this Wed. the 7th. And as he was on his death bed, I was sitting there telling him how sorry I was about all the things I did as a child. Even though when my Dad passed we were really good friends and Loved each other dearly. I still felt I had to do that. So try not to be in that situation and air all bad things now. So you`ll be at peace in the end. 

          Good Luck 

           and God Bless 

It is unfathomable to me that a man must illigitimize his children to re-marry. If that is what I had to do to my children to get married again then it would not be worth it. It is so obvious how much this act hurt this man's daughter. How can he be so selfish to essentially say that she was not born within a marriage. That is what divorce is for. The Catholic church needs to examine their practices to see the real life effects this has on real people and their lives. It appears to me that annulment after this long was put in place so that Catholics could get a "divorce" and still remain true to the church. You can't have it both ways. You are either married for life in the eyes of the church or you are not.   

Dr. Phil you were way too easy on this man. He was ICY COLD and unfeeling. I didn't see anything in him that said he felt any compassion for her at all. He said that he would not do anything differently. It looked to me like he annulled his daughters when he annulled his wife. I am truly surprised that you let him off the hook like that. Yes, he has the right to have a life. However, he could have remarried after a legal divorce that did not illigitimize his children.  It did not appear that he cared enough about them to even consider this option. 

I understand what the lady is going through w/ her husband. The profile of this guy fits my ex-husband. Dr. Phil's explanation of why he lies is accurate. And I hope he carries through on his promise to provide for her. She needs her OWN lawyer, and to let the lawyer do the discussing with his lawyer. He will continue to lie to her and con her. I know that she probably loves him, but she needs to think w/ her head not her heart. I've been through it and I came out w/ nothing b/c i listened to him and his lies and was told that he would provide for me. And like Dr. Phil says w/ o strings. I broke the strings and lost it all. It's a long story, too long for this missive. I just hope that the lady gets the right advice. AND does not continue to rely on husband to help her b/c he won't!