Topic : 03/31 Love Smart, Part 1

You went on a national TV show which addressed a topic that is prevalent in our society.  How can you be surprised that people have an opinion about what they see.  Just as you have an opinion about the problems you have in dating and your solution was Dr Phil, others are going to have an opinion about you going on TV to resolve those problems.  Did you really think it would not be seen as a step over the edge.  If you got what you needed from the show then take it and move on.  The thing about free speech is that it applies to every one, and you should already know about what they say about opinions.  Live with it!!!! 

Barbara 

I was 35 when I met my husband....just when I had finally made up my mind that I was destined to be single forever, and that maybe it woudn't be such a bad thing! What was funny is that the night I met him at a baseball game, I had on a t-shirt, baseball cap, and no makeup. And I am not a beauty by any standard, but I am smart and easily able to engage in conversation (I've always been the girl men love to be friends with but aren't interested in dating). Our personalities clicked, though, and I pursued him for a date.  

Thank God I did, because the relationship I have now  is an absolute gift. He may not be the George Clooney look-alike who strung me along for eight years (who said that while he loved me deeply,just wasn't physically attracted to me because I was chunky) but he is the smartest, funniest, most easygoing and interesting man I have ever known. His sense of who he is and his level of integrity blows me away. I think part of finding that right guy is how you behave on that first date, but it also comes down to being open to someone that you may not initially consider to be your "type". We get used to they way people look, and when we really love them, their inner beauty comes to the surface and really shines! I find that after a few years of marriage, what my (pretty, thin, divorced) friends envy isn't that I snagged JFK jr, but rather the deep love, mutual respect, and great friendship that my husband and I have. 

Personally, those celebrity interviews have no interest to me either because I really have little interest in what today's "hot" celebrities are doing. For those who do, more power to you.  

The only celebrity interview I watched that she did was of Sir Anthony Hopkins, whom I do truly admire due to his long catalog of work. Not because he's some young stud that People magazine loves for a month or two. 

I haven't seen the show yet so I can't comment on its content, only the subject itself. 

I was single until I was 35. It was hard at times so I think it's good that Dr. Phil is doing a show on it. Finding someone to spend the rest of your life is no picnic as you get older. Sometimes it takes stepping back from "the hunt" for Mr. or Ms Right for You (as I see it) and just enjoying your life as it is to get perspective.  

Now that I'm married, I can see how many good times and travels I had as a single person. Enjoy the aspects of single life that are good and keep your eyes open. That guy/gal you might not have given the time of day might be the one for you. My husband was a co-worker and I wrote him off because he was younger. I'm glad I woke up and realized what a gem he was. 

It appears that most men in my age group (early 50's) that are eligible are looking for that 20's - 30's range female.  i.e. a local professional man has been widowed for several years.....a friend of his was talking to me about him, I said, well, would he like to go to dinner?  My friend replied, "sorry, you aren't young enough for him...he likes 'em' young.  That's not the first time.  So, Dr. Phil, how does a 53 year old female, hard working, nice looking, caring and might I add, likes to cook and keep a clean home; find someone that (isn't a dead-beat) that has something to offer in a relationship other than headaches and looking for someone to just take care of him?