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Created on : Friday, December 02, 2005, 03:45:39 pm

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(Original Air Date: 12/06/05) It's Dr. Phil after dark! Dr. Phil is having a champagne party - with an audience full of single men and women looking to meet Mr. and Ms. Right. Using his new book, Love Smart: Find the One You Want - Fix the One You Got, Dr. Phil teaches these singles how to be smart when it comes to love and relationships, and how to "bag 'em, tag 'em and take 'em home!" Noelle says she's a horrible dater and never gets called back for date number two. Dr. Phil sends her out with a man and critiques her technique. How is she sending the wrong message? Then, a beauty queen who never thought she would still be single at 37 says her biological clock is "gonging!" Does this mean she'll put up with just about anything? Dr. Phil puts her to the test. And, three single women who are looking for love in all the wrong places want Dr. Phil to help them find Mr. Right. See what happens when they participate in revolving dates while Dr. Phil coaches them through an earpiece. Whether you can't find a good candidate, can't close the deal, or get them home and realize they aren't who you thought they were -- you are about to earn your black belt in relationships! Talk about the show here.

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groovy

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December 6, 2005, 2:52 pm PST

BINGO!

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Mis Jane. I agree with SOME of your comments. You have a good point about acting youthful rather than talking about illness, aches and pains etc. But I don't think it is so much what attracts men to younger women. I think it is a basic shallowness, a need for an ego boost and arm candy that attracts fifty-somethings to 20 year olds. Lets face it, how much can they possibly have in common?? It is a no-brainer why the 20 something girls go for the older guys. MONEY, MONEY, MONEY!!! If Billy Joel, Donald Trump etc. were not rich would these young girls have married them?? Hmm...would be interesting to know that. As far as interesting conversations, I am still waiting to see a 20 something that can converse without saying 'I am SOOOOOO..or "I was like...." Bottom line...he wants the bimbo arm candy and she wants the dollars.

Basic shallowness & a need for an ego boost. BINGO! Although there is some evoluntionary biology as they would like a "healthy" young specimen with big boobs to have & nurse his babies, even if he has no intention of having any. And would the current Mrs. Trump be married to The Donald if he wasn't a billionaire (or at least multi-millionaire?) NOT a chance IMO.

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sad5999

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December 6, 2005, 2:58 pm PST

12/06 Love Smart, Part 1

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I'm a forty-something year old guy divorced after 16 faithful years of marriage. I have no children, a flat stomach and am often told I look thirty-something. I've a college degree and dress to kill. I get all the first dates I want but no second dates (with the ones I want to go out with again). I'm not too picky, I just want a girl that is smart, humorous, pretty in the face and not larger than me. I am a slim, 140#, 5'9" well proportioned man with broad shoulders. Most of the girls I go out with 30 to 50 year olds, want a rich guy. I am not that! The girl on the show that went out with the fake Doctor and he was sooo rude to her, she only liked him 'cause he pretended to be a Doctor, sooo shallow! HELP ME DR. PHIL!

Wow where do you live. LOL You sound like the perfect guy. I am in the same age group as you and yes I have had the same bad dates. It's very difficult to find the chemistry. I find many great friends because the chemistry or attraction isn't there. I'm like you I'm not picky I just need to have all of the keys elements to be present, good communication, great sence of humor, active and outgoing, great socializer. Introverts need not apply. Which seems to be all I attract.

Sherry

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groovy

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December 6, 2005, 2:58 pm PST

Well...

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It's hard for us guys too!

1. Girls, I don't care to hear about all your guy friends that are "more" than friends! aka FB's

2. Just because I am not rich, I might be a good guy.

3. If you are just interested in just having fun, find a manwhore!

4. If you are not "into" me, please don't offer to pay for the date. Big turnoff.

It's hard out there guys. Single for three years and counting first dates...

Many guys are offended when we DON'T offer to pay for a date. They think, "women have jobs, why the hell do they expect the guy to pay?!!" So we might end up offering to pay or not offering, & the guy might be offended either way.

Most women IMO are NOT looking for a rich guy, but they would like the guy to be employed (or comfortably retired), able to pay his bills & not living under a bridge.

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timboinnj

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December 6, 2005, 3:14 pm PST

Translations of Women for Men

I realize I'm not the demographic of the show or book but what's the deal with women and what they mean? What about the things about women that they don't necessarily want you to know? Where is that info? How do good guys like me find the love of our lives? Far less has been written about that then what a dopey guys says and means.

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atlswan

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December 6, 2005, 3:17 pm PST

Right with you..

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I am a 33 year old newly wed and I never thought I would get married! I am now married to the most wonderful man in the world (sorry ladies). Guess what, he's 25! I was in a bad relationship for 7 years and although I don't hate my ex I just new that we had gone as far as we could go. I needed to get on with my life for our daughters (now 3 & 1/2) sake. I dated a little after we split but my focus was on school so even though alot of the guys were wanting to get serious, I was hesitant. I had a friend from work who was very sweet and we flirted but I'm like that and I didn't give him too much thought because he was so much younger. One day he asked me out, just like so many other times but he followed it with "I'm not kidding". I was shocked!

I never, ever dated anyone younger than me but there are so many things about him that are different than all the others. He turned out to be the most mature, emotionally available man I have ever known. He wasn't afraid of marriage, he was excited. He loves being a husband and a father to his daughter and mine. If I had let the age thing get in the way, I would never have experienced the happiness that we share. The point is, you have to keep an open mind and take some chances when it comes to dating. I wasted alot of time with men who had the "right looks" or were the "right age" but the wrong everything else. In hindsight, I should have gone out of my way to date guys who were not what I was looking for. At least that way I wouldn't be expecting anything but dinner.

Believe me, I have had my share of dates gone wrong so here's my best advice (for what it's worth):

If you ever see your ideal man, ask the guy next to him out on a date.

I'm right there with you. I was 35 and my husband was 25 when we married. He and I were close friends for almost a year before we dated. To think...if I had not woken up and smelled the coffee! I would have missed out on a wonderful man whom I love dearly and laugh with daily.

I'm not saying every woman should marry a younger man. But don't cross him off the list automatically if he is younger. I thought my husband would never want to date an older woman. But he proved me wrong. He wanted a woman who was done partying and was ready to settle down. And I was.

The same can apply to careers. I got the feeling that the beauty queen might not go out with a plumber or a construction worker. Sometimes we have to look past labels to see the person's heart. It can surprise you. So I agree. Don't limit yourself when considering a date with someone who doesn't neatly fit the mold you've created. Think big!

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December 6, 2005, 3:22 pm PST

You Don't look 23...

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I'm one step ahead I just logged on to Barnes and Noble and bought the book. I'm convinced that anything can help. I've been single for 23 years and I've dated a lot and this is hard for me because I hate dating. My problem is like yours getting back into dating scene. It's hard to do but if we both have to force ourselves.

Sherry

You seriously don't look old enough to be single for that long....and... I also hate dating. It seems like some kind of strange, alien game that nobody can win.

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pooh360

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December 6, 2005, 3:23 pm PST

Hello!

Todd, from the first date, is HOT!!! I wish that someone would set me up with a guy like that!

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zapatasred

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December 6, 2005, 3:28 pm PST

Be positive and have a passion in your life whatever it may be

Women who are positive are more atractive to men. If they have a passion for something it shows in their enthusiaim. A sense of humor is attractive. Put downs are not. i found that men from farther south are sometimes more of a gentlemen. Have a sense of fun. I did not care for dating too much but met and married a guy with kind generous and caring for his family and a church backround. . he cooked me dinner on a early date and went to events other than out to dinner like canoeing, plays,etc. although out to dinner too. Sometimes more casual dates are easier - a zoo, museum, amusement park .We met at a backyard barbecue-Bratwurst, beer type picnic. I had been in a long, slightly boring conversation with a guy whose hobby was being a Bagpipe player!!!!! I mingled and talked to the other guy I eventually married and I was quiet and he talked the whole time and I just listened but I'm really not that quiet. Then he got my number and called me a week or so later and he invited me over to see his slides from when he traveled in the service. He must have had 300 slides. Boy, he sure had that one figured out. Want to come up and see my Photos?!!!!!Ha Ha !!! Tricky guy, Huh? So on and so on. It may be true when you give up looking someone shows up. Just don't write the guy off right away. I thought he talked too much and was way too serious. After I gave him a chance, it was not that way at all. I can't remember the black guy's name but he may have been the real catch from his answers.

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December 6, 2005, 3:30 pm PST

ARE MOST FEMALES GREEDY OR LOOKING FOR LOVE

Hi there my name is David and well iam looking for love but same time iam finding ,myself i think most guys do not take the time to really look at what a women is and as time has past i think i am learning more about females inner emotions compared to us men .. Men can be cold why is that cause of past expereimces of course just like u females so in a way i think one of our problems for finding love is that we all dont go deep enough within our souls and hearts so in return we have always will have walls.. true or false

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rockstarxx

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December 6, 2005, 3:33 pm PST

Only for Sherry...

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Sherry

Hey Sherry,

I live in Arkansas, but distance is no barrier for me with regard to relationships. I am NOT the perfect guy, but I am a good man! Yes I agree, chemistry is sooo important. I am as fun a guy as you will ever meet. Perhaps Dr. Phil will "hook us up"?

Tommy Lee

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