Topic : 03/31 Love Smart, Part 1

I would like to comment about the show.  I did not get to see it because of having to work, but  

in signing in on Dr. Phil's web site I read up on the shows.  I am a 53 yr old women that has been married once and have since been divorced. In my previous relationship,  it was a very bad and demeaning one.  I am overweight and am in  decent health, but I am not looking.  Because of my previous relationship,  I am now happy being single.  I have my job and my family around me to support me.  If the right person does come along,  that person will do the asking.  I'm not going to do the looking.  I was brought up from the old school that the other person ask's first. I would just sit back and relax and that person, if he's good enough, will come to you.   

After my divorce I didn't date at all because I felt that raising my daughter was the most important thing in my life.  There came a time in her life when she said, "Mom, you need to date!"  So I went on M*tch.com and talked to many people who interested me and began dating.  I dated 12 guys before I found the "one" who is the man of my dreams!  He is very sensitive, romantic, funny and sees all the good in me. We are engaged to be married and will wed wed when our kids are grown and gone.  Meanwhile we are together all the time.   My advice is start walking and lose some weight and start looking!  There is someone for everyone, but you have to find them.  Chances are they won't come to you.  deb 

Ok, this is just a quick note to cover lots of messages.  I agree with both sides of the issue here on age.  Prettty women do sell advertising dollars, and it would be interesting to see Phil take on some older or less pretty women, and some men.  I am almost 40 and still single.  Always been the best friend, or the third wheel.  But in the end, I think its all in God's timing so I try not to worry about it too much.  Then again, I also would feel a little strange jumping right to such straightforward questions as were on the show today, although they did say they only had 3 minutes.  I'm not sure how that works, I'm a little out of the "popular" loop.  Most men want eye candy, and women want money & eye candy, but I would rather wake up next to a less attractive woman and happy than next to a model and miserable. 

PS.  I've watched alot of people over the years, and here's some advice: I know if you get someone in the bar to leave their significant other for you, you'll feel special, but don't be too shocked when they leave you for someone else in the bar.