Topic : 03/31 Love Smart, Part 1

Here are some more tips for guys from a woman that has been on a few BAD dates: 

1.  Don't blow your nose at the table during dinner and proceed to dig in your nose.  Excuse yourself from the table and take care of it in the men's room.  Also belching and passing gas at the table is RUDE. 

2.  Have a plan when you pick up your date.  Don't expect your date to choose the restaurant and movie...show that you put some thought into it.  It makes you look like you could care less....and also, on a Friday or Saturday night, reservations are usually required.   

3.  Don't talk endlessly about your ex and the great sex you had daily.  I could care less. 

4.  Have breath mints or gum handy - please..... 

5.  Don't be a cheapskate...tip the waiter.   

6.  Know something about your kids...once went out with a guy that had no idea how old his kids were!  How detached from life do you have to be not to know how old your kids are? 

7.  Don't pull over on the road and accost your date by showing how good of a kisser you are....and if you are going to kiss....make sure your breath doesn't stink..... 

8.  Don't make up stories about the credit card company sending you and new card and you throwing it away...it's a renewal....meaning that you throw the OLD card awayl   

9.  Don't talk about mama all night. 

10.  Don't start a date out by saying that you aren't ready for a relationship...if that's the case...STAY HOME.  Don't go out until you are ready...   

It's hard out there ladies.  Single for five years and counting.... 

Here are some more tips for guys from a woman that has been on a few BAD dates: 

1.  Don't blow your nose at the table during dinner and proceed to dig in your nose.  Excuse yourself from the table and take care of it in the men's room.  Also belching and passing gas at the table is RUDE. 

2.  Have a plan when you pick up your date.  Don't expect your date to choose the restaurant and movie...show that you put some thought into it.  It makes you look like you could care less....and also, on a Friday or Saturday night, reservations are usually required.   

3.  Don't talk endlessly about your ex and the great sex you had daily.  I could care less. 

4.  Have breath mints or gum handy - please..... 

5.  Don't be a cheapskate...tip the waiter.   

6.  Know something about your kids...once went out with a guy that had no idea how old his kids were!  How detached from life do you have to be not to know how old your kids are? 

7.  Don't pull over on the road and accost your date by showing how good of a kisser you are....and if you are going to kiss....make sure your breath doesn't stink..... 

8.  Don't make up stories about the credit card company sending you and new card and you throwing it away...it's a renewal....meaning that you throw the OLD card awayl   

9.  Don't talk about mama all night. 

10.  Don't start a date out by saying that you aren't ready for a relationship...if that's the case...STAY HOME.  Don't go out until you are ready...   

It's hard out there ladies.  Single for five years and counting.... 

I met my husband when we were teens, so that might explain my patience.  I didn't find a guy whose manners suited me.  I found a guy who had similar values to mine and a great personality.  Then I communicated with him:  

When he sniffed during a meal, I gently suggested he go to the men's room and look after his nose.   

When he overspent on a gift that made me uncomfortable, I explained how I felt and he returned it and got something suitable. 

When he lived on his own and the cleanliness of his apartment offended my sense of hygene, I helped him clean up once and told him how it made me feel to come to a filthy place.  He didn't have to be told twice. 

And he did the same thing: 

When I had my hair cut short, he explained that he liked it long-no matter what. 

When I was too affectionate in front of his friends, he explained how it made him feel. 

When we were first married and I spent our money without talking to him first, he told me how he wanted us to share our finances. 

Guess what?  He became the perfect guy for me and I became the perfect one for him! We've been married 22 years. 

If you are expecting to meet someone and have him tailor-made for you, you are going to be sadly disappointed.  In every relationship you need to be able to give and take correction. A man with manners that don't suit you can be gently corrected-he isn't a loser to be ditched. 

My wife and  I have been married for 20 years.  The last 20 years have been GREAT and we are still on our honeymoon.  I can wait for the next 40 years.  When you said not to stop dating, that is so very true.  I am in the Marine Corp and Babydoll has been there for me.  I am getting ready to retire after 20 years in the Corp.  My wife is just starting her career as an elementary school teacher.  I only hope, I can help her as much as she has helped me.  I truly believe that if something happen to her and she were to pass, I will be right behind her.  She is my life.  Men need to pull their head out of their a## and treat their women the way they want to be treated.  I have always said you have to give to get, and that’s what I live by