Topic : 12/07 Love Smart, Part 2

  Hi:) I have been watching this series and I love all the tips and makeovers!! I am a 50 yr. old single woman with 2 grown sons, and I need all the tips I can get lol! I live in a small town and it is hard to meet men outside of bars. I am currently unemployed, but when I start making money again, I am going to buy your book "Love Smart"!!! Thank you! 

You've been going to the wrong shoe shine.  But if you've never been, and your footwear is a mess, you're making a poor first impression because research says it is one of the first things people observe.  If nothing else, you come away with a new experience to talk about, and with good looking footwear to improve your chances of making a great first impression in the workplace or the social arena.  Try saying to another customer that it is your first time --- this should open up conversation.   Then ask if this a ritual, and where he works, etc.  But if his head is in the paper, read the signs. 

Above all, stop the negativity, and stop looking for fault, otherwise you may never experience positive change. 

This statement is too general for it to be fact.  Am I initimidated by women in positions of authority? Yes - because I believe women are dirtier (cunning, manipulative, evil) than men when they are in positions of authority.  Am I intimidated by strong-willed (opinionated, outspoken) women? No - that's just a turn off.  

On a separate note, the women walking the dogs had more problems finding guys because SURPRISE one of them was overweight (almost fat) and overly assertive (seemed kind of bossy).  Maybe the guys were intimidated. 

Oh, and did you catch the fact that all of the men and women on the show were tall, young and good looking? Not a short, overweight or average looking person in the room. Yeah, that's a realistic representation of society...

Hey Dr. Phil, how about helping us guys and get real with people from other than the beautiful crowd?Mike.

Sure we would listen.  That's why we watch Dr. Phil.  We want to hear all sides.  I'd love to hear more of the male side of this.  Come on Dr. Phil, let the men be heard! 

Kaayla 

Dr. Phil, 

I have been friends with a wonderful woman for 10 years (give or take).  She and I were, at one time, single with two small children.  As the years went by I met and fell in love with a great guy.  We have been married for just over 7 years.  I am happier than I've ever been.  Meanwhile, my friend has had terrible luck meeting decent men.  She has the best personality, so much fun, very attractive, and I hate to see her in such a slump.  You need to know that she is not desperate, nor is she even bummed about still being single.  She has the best outlook on life, her family and just lives life foot loose and fancy free.  I think it's possible she has just resigned herself to be alone, and just accepts it.  However, I would love for her to be able to meet, and express herself to a conversation with the opposite sex.  If you're interested in contacting her, let me know.  I'll run it by her and see if she'd appreciate getting a call or letter from your staff.  How great it'd be to see her experience something she's been missing for so many years.  That is, if you have plans for another show regarding dating.  Thanks so much!!