Topic : 12/07 Love Smart, Part 2

Kaayla.........I can't believe a woman who wants to hear a man's side of the story? 

I am impressed. 

Dr. Phil give us guys a chance. 

Hello I read your message and I would like to say that you sound like a person who will be able to find love!  I understand your worries about debt and living at home, but this does not mean no one will be interested.  There are bound to be nice ladies out there in the same situation or will understand how you got there.  And not that you have to explain the reasons you are still at home, if a lady is understanding she may see that you are not planning to stay for good at home.  Start some kind of plan on when to get out on your own and what steps you can take to do so, eg Savings, pricing the market for rentals ect. 

As for being not social enough, I would suggest first off making a list of what you want in a date ro girlfriend, what you could not stand, and this will attract to you what you want.  It's like ordering from the universe what you would like.  I don't know if this is something you believe in but it's something called the power of intention, kinda like karma!  Anyway, then make a list of things you like to do in public, a variety of activities like bowling, watching a game, shopping, walking, music, animals (volunteer at a shelter or something) and do these things at least once a week with the intention of at least speaking to people you don't know, maybe not for a date, but just to get prepared, you will never know where this will lead until you try.  Then consider doing the same (taking to strangers casually, not too deep of topics like religion, politics or really personal stuff)  in places that you may not enjoy so much like the dry cleaners or waiting for a bus ect.  Keep your own focus on being happy with who you are and what you have learned in you life, also your dreams other than having a girl.  Women like men who are confident, but not cocky, who have goals and dreams of their own, but may be willing to share with someone special.  Try this advice and see what comes to you! Good Luck and Best Wishes!    

And he's been happily married for decades.  What the heck does he know about being dating & being single?  Just b/c you're a famous psychologist doesn't make you an authority on everything.   

Good point about helping singles other than the "beautiful people" who need less help than the rest of us. 

Hi Dr. Phil, 

I bought your book and I'm reading it. All but one of the women on your show about meeting men were in their 20's and 30's. How about reaching out to women in their 40's and 50's. We like to date too. Of course the book applies to all women but it would have been nice to see women of all ages on the show and in the audience. 

SLP 

Dr Phil I want to thank you for the show...which I was watching while visiting my mom at the nursing home...a male nurse's aide took pity and set me up with a friend of his...haha...and I AM almost 53 so there is hope...but it makes me think I HAVE been divorced over 10 yrs and maybe I am being too  picky..problem is when he described the person I laughingly said, "well as long as he hasn't done any jail time and he's still breathing I'm willing to meet him for coffee..." turns out he HAS done jail time for a restraining order on his x wife...the guy setting me up got real indignant as he is also single and evidently I offended him with that remark....now I am willing to overlook some things and said I will still meet this man but I mean anybody have feedback on if I'm too critical over this restraining order thing? and now am I a dope if I do meet the guy?I just wish there would be truth serum you give a guy who would just tell you right off what the worse thing he's done..the internet has  not been too productive but I at least have gotten some practice. Also I did a cruise by myself a couple years ago and had a blast..anybody have any suggestions for singles on vacation? I would like to plan one and although I had a great time would like to know if any club med or other singles on trips worked out...did do a singles cruise that bombed as well....all women....not a single man on board..only thing worse than being single on Valentines Day is being at sea with other depressed woman on Valentines Day.  Ok that's 2 questions...pick one...for you guys please fix those teeth...I'm reasonably attractive and last singles dance I went to I looked around and the guys that could dance Dr Phil were at least holding someone...and some of those guys didn't even have teeth and I know a few that were missing original body parts....there needs to be more of Carfax type report on these guys...like you get with used cars...preferably from their x-wives...I think there's a business plan in there somewhere... 

where did hers come from?