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Gwen started life with the odds against her. Her father died tragically in a fire the day she was born, and doctors told her mother that because of a life-threatening illness, Gwen probably wouldn't live past the age of 7. For years she struggled with her illness and, just when all hope appeared to be lost, everything changed. Find out why her family believes they have received two miracles this year and what Dr. Phil has planned to make this holiday the best ever for her. Then, David suffers from hemophilia and feels excruciating pain every day. He hasn't been able to work and says the worst part is knowing he is a burden to his family. See Dr. Phil's life-changing surprise for David and his family. Plus, Kathy defied her verbally abusive husband to appear on Dr. Phil recently and determined that she needed out of her relationship. Follow her journey since then and see why she believes her miracle -- is Dr. Phil! Talk about the show here.

 

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December 20, 2005, 4:31 pm PST

12/20 Christmas Miracle

I loved that show!  I am a stay at home mother to four children under 4yrs.  I often feel overwhelemed, underappreciated, and depressed (especially during the holidays when I have sick children and a lot to think about).  However, It is because of people like the guests on this show that I am humbled.  I am thankful and can say that I love my life!  Also, all the generous donations made,restore my faith in mankind (even if it is done for publicity).  I also would like to say that I do believe in miracles and I also believe in science.  I believe that God gave some very special people the ability to save peoples and make miracles happen everyday.  That is amazing to me.  Merry Christmas and God bless everyone!!
 
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December 20, 2005, 4:32 pm PST

12/20 Christmas Miracle

I was so moved by the stories on today's show. I especially identified with the second segment. My father is a hemophiliac. Thankfully his case as not as severe as this man's. But my grandparents were also told that my father would die before his teens and would never walk. My father is 50 years old and living strong and walking. Medical miracles happen everyday. My thoughts and prayers are with this family. I know what it is like, as a little girl, to sit and watch her father in a hospital bed and not know what to do or what will happen next. But I even today as an adult, I am constanly amazed at the miracle that is my father. That is an amazing family and wish they many happy years.
 
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December 20, 2005, 5:04 pm PST

12/20 Christmas Miracle

Last year I lost my step mother to complications of cf. She had lived until she was 34y/o. She had been in the hospital for five months when she passed away. We were praying that she would receive her new lungs in time but God gave her the ultimate healing when He took her home. This year has been very hard on my father, myself, and the rest of our family. Seeing todays show put a tear in my eye, well a lot actually, and a smile on my face. I think that part that stuck out the most was when they were both roller blading.
 
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December 20, 2005, 5:19 pm PST

12/20 Christmas Miracle

I am 21 years old and suffer from CF, it is a horrible disease, not to mention, very scary at times. I woke up in the ICU on 10/19 of this year- I did not know what was going on- I had major complications from my CF . I pray that someday I can have a miracle story like theirs, because I am engaged to be married too and would love to be healthy  the day I get married. Their story really brought tears to my eyes.  I think its great that Dr. Phil is helping them with their wedding because the medical expenses for this illness are huge. They really are a deserving couple...  

 
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December 20, 2005, 5:24 pm PST

CREATIVE MEMORIES!!!

I was so THRILLED to discover that Creative Memories donated $10,000 to David's children for their education. I am an independent consultant for Creative Memories (in addition to my OTHER career AND being a new mom) and I LOVE the company! Now I'm even more impressed with their giving nature. Thanks to Dr. Phil and Robin to presenting David and his family with such a wonderful gift - PRESERVING HIS MEMORY and the family's MEMORIES by giving them a scrapbook with pictures and stories. Creative Memories has been spending years helping people preserve memories by teaching consultants and their customers how to create beautiful scrapbooks! It's now one of my favorite hobbies. THANKS DR. PHIL!Rachel B. (to learn more about preserving your memories, go to www.creativememories.com)
 
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December 20, 2005, 5:46 pm PST

Poor Kid!

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I just loved the "Believe" song on the show today. It is so very true. I believe everything in life happens for a reason even though we may not see God's plan for a long time. And, I believe that we are never given more than we can handle. However, I am at a point where I am literally at the end of my rope with our family situation. I have never written on a message board before, but I thought it would be good "therapy" and we can use all the thoughts and prayers we can get! 

  

Two years ago at this time we were an upper middle class family, living in a nice neighborhood in a nice home. We were the ones giving our annual donations, buying toys for tots, and helping provide food for Metropolitan Ministries. How far we have fallen in that time. It all began on 1/1/04 when I slipped and fell while shopping for bargains and hurt my back. Three herniated discs, pain meds, therapy, cortisone shots, and back surgery followed. I received STD for 6 months and was then told by the insurance company that there was no reason for my constant pain and I should have my head checked out! Since I could not work or take care of our 4 children (including a 6 month old at the time), my husband quit his retail management job of 16 years to start a home business. Flash forward to today, we are renting a home 1/2 the size of our old one, have not paid any credit card bills since 1/1/05, our credit is totally destroyed, our youngest children had to be pulled out of daycare, my husband had clients that didn't pay him, we have sold everything of monetary value on e-bay, our car is about to be reposessed, we are being evicted on Friday, our phone (along with computer access) is going to be turned off at anytime, our kids have been through so much, we have no health insurance, and my parents have turned their back on me. 

  

My husband was able to finally find a job working nights for $9/hr (not even enough to pay the rent). Instead of being in management, he is now stocking shelves. Any money coming in is better than nothing. We did manage to let my son play football this fall, but had to borrow money from my husband's family to live, to have gas to drive him to games, to buy food. His family has been great and has gone way above the call of duty. My parents did loan us some money a few months ago with stipulations about repayment. I let them know that we were served with eviction papers and may be living in our van come Friday and that the phones could be turned off at any notice. Their response was "We're sending a Christmas package, what will happen to it if you aren't there on Friday" and "We were going to call you on Christmas, if you are there will the phone be working". I finally spoke my mind to them and told them how disappointed I was that they have not been there emotionally or financially throughout this whole ordeal. Their response was to overnight the package so we would have it before we were evicted. The $25 they spent on the postage could have bought a Christmas tree for the kids to enjoy for a few days. 

  

My husband is in total despair. He's depressed, feels like he's lert everyone down, could not understand why no one would respond to his resumes, etc. He says the only thing that keeps him going is the kids. Luckily, since I have the "glass is half full" mentality I have taken it somewhat better. Although 80% of the time I don't even want to get out of bed and too keep going for the kids. Our plan now is to try to move to Arizona where my in-law's live and the job market is much better. Since they have been so supportive emotionally and financially, it made us realize how much we wish we could spend more time with them and have our children build memories with their Grandma, Aunt, Uncle, cousin, and other extended members. That is the silver lining I am holding on to and think perhaps it is part of the reason behind God's plan. Two years ago, I would never have given a thought to moving from the state that I love so much. 

  

I guess I am also mad. Mad at the insurance company for taking my LTD payments and then not being there for me, mad at my parents, mad at my back, and I hate to admit it but even mad when I see other people in need being helped out on Dr. Phil, Oprah, etc. In the back of my mind I think, why not my family? My personal goal is to move from public sector sales to private sector sales. I would LOVE to raise money for a non-profit organization by somehow working from home. When I turned 40 I was at the "What's my purpose" state in my life. I always knew that I didn't want to always keep making money for companies, but somehow use my talents to help those less fortunate. Now, that's me!  

  

Anyway, I don't know what the next few days will bring. My husband and I and our 4 children could be living in our van. We don't even have enough gas money to get to AZ!! Both checking accounts have been overdrawn for weeks and when my husband gets his first paycheck it will go toward food. I still "Believe" and know all of this is happening for a reason. It's just a little harder on days like today. Thanks for llistening and I wish everyone a Happy Holidays and a Blessed New Year!! 

You poor thing! I am sorry for all you've gone through- where do you live and are you getting any help from the social services in your area?  How far are you from AZ?
 
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December 20, 2005, 5:47 pm PST

We share the same story, in a way!

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I just loved the "Believe" song on the show today. It is so very true. I believe everything in life happens for a reason even though we may not see God's plan for a long time. And, I believe that we are never given more than we can handle. However, I am at a point where I am literally at the end of my rope with our family situation. I have never written on a message board before, but I thought it would be good "therapy" and we can use all the thoughts and prayers we can get! 

  

Two years ago at this time we were an upper middle class family, living in a nice neighborhood in a nice home. We were the ones giving our annual donations, buying toys for tots, and helping provide food for Metropolitan Ministries. How far we have fallen in that time. It all began on 1/1/04 when I slipped and fell while shopping for bargains and hurt my back. Three herniated discs, pain meds, therapy, cortisone shots, and back surgery followed. I received STD for 6 months and was then told by the insurance company that there was no reason for my constant pain and I should have my head checked out! Since I could not work or take care of our 4 children (including a 6 month old at the time), my husband quit his retail management job of 16 years to start a home business. Flash forward to today, we are renting a home 1/2 the size of our old one, have not paid any credit card bills since 1/1/05, our credit is totally destroyed, our youngest children had to be pulled out of daycare, my husband had clients that didn't pay him, we have sold everything of monetary value on e-bay, our car is about to be reposessed, we are being evicted on Friday, our phone (along with computer access) is going to be turned off at anytime, our kids have been through so much, we have no health insurance, and my parents have turned their back on me. 

  

My husband was able to finally find a job working nights for $9/hr (not even enough to pay the rent). Instead of being in management, he is now stocking shelves. Any money coming in is better than nothing. We did manage to let my son play football this fall, but had to borrow money from my husband's family to live, to have gas to drive him to games, to buy food. His family has been great and has gone way above the call of duty. My parents did loan us some money a few months ago with stipulations about repayment. I let them know that we were served with eviction papers and may be living in our van come Friday and that the phones could be turned off at any notice. Their response was "We're sending a Christmas package, what will happen to it if you aren't there on Friday" and "We were going to call you on Christmas, if you are there will the phone be working". I finally spoke my mind to them and told them how disappointed I was that they have not been there emotionally or financially throughout this whole ordeal. Their response was to overnight the package so we would have it before we were evicted. The $25 they spent on the postage could have bought a Christmas tree for the kids to enjoy for a few days. 

  

My husband is in total despair. He's depressed, feels like he's lert everyone down, could not understand why no one would respond to his resumes, etc. He says the only thing that keeps him going is the kids. Luckily, since I have the "glass is half full" mentality I have taken it somewhat better. Although 80% of the time I don't even want to get out of bed and too keep going for the kids. Our plan now is to try to move to Arizona where my in-law's live and the job market is much better. Since they have been so supportive emotionally and financially, it made us realize how much we wish we could spend more time with them and have our children build memories with their Grandma, Aunt, Uncle, cousin, and other extended members. That is the silver lining I am holding on to and think perhaps it is part of the reason behind God's plan. Two years ago, I would never have given a thought to moving from the state that I love so much. 

  

I guess I am also mad. Mad at the insurance company for taking my LTD payments and then not being there for me, mad at my parents, mad at my back, and I hate to admit it but even mad when I see other people in need being helped out on Dr. Phil, Oprah, etc. In the back of my mind I think, why not my family? My personal goal is to move from public sector sales to private sector sales. I would LOVE to raise money for a non-profit organization by somehow working from home. When I turned 40 I was at the "What's my purpose" state in my life. I always knew that I didn't want to always keep making money for companies, but somehow use my talents to help those less fortunate. Now, that's me!  

  

Anyway, I don't know what the next few days will bring. My husband and I and our 4 children could be living in our van. We don't even have enough gas money to get to AZ!! Both checking accounts have been overdrawn for weeks and when my husband gets his first paycheck it will go toward food. I still "Believe" and know all of this is happening for a reason. It's just a little harder on days like today. Thanks for llistening and I wish everyone a Happy Holidays and a Blessed New Year!! 

I too, was so moved by the song "Believe"  I started a diary  and titled it "Keep on Believing" and felt that was such a nice signal that things will get better.  I too, was in an accident and wrecked my back but good.  It was in a car acciddent back in 1995.  I too had to fight the insurance companies, was seeing a psychologist.  My children's ages at the time of the accident were 8, 7, and 22 months old.  My husband has his own business, I worked full-time at  a job that I loved and was ideal for a working mother.  My husband never believed that I had physical injuries.  My psychologist did not believe that my pain was physical.  I am suffering from Post-traumatic stress disorder from the accident.  He felt that if I divorced my husband my physical pain would go away.  My husband has a drinking problem, never supported me emotionally or financially.  I worked full-time and ran the household expenses from my paycheck and also carried the health insurance.  And I cared for the children on my own.  He devoted all his time to the business and I was fine with that because I felt his business would prosper and eventually we would be well off.  Well, I finally couldn't take the emotional abuse from him and the physical abuse he put on my oldest son.  I had him removed from the house, and told him to sober up and get help.  Well he ended up divorcing me!  He wanted full custody of the children, and because I was on drugs (prescribed by doctors) he was going to try to prove that I was unfit to be a mother.  I had no self-confidence anymore.  He stole all that from me.  He claimed he sold the company and his crooked accountants helped him hide assets.  Well to make a long story short, I made an under the table deal with him and signed his divorce papers(against my attorney's advice) that I would not go after the business, he would take care of us by paying all the expenses and take care of our needs.  Well, I was dupped and now I am in the process of taking him back to court.  I believe too that this is all happening for a reason, that we must keep strong.  My back pain is worse in the winter due to the cold.  I am over-drawn at the bank.  NSF checks. etc.  just as you.  My family now is telling me to get a job!  I just love it!  I would love to work, but with chronic disco-genic disorder, how is this possible.  Just because we look normal, they think we are normal.  That is the thanks we get for never complaining about our pain.  We have no christmas tree, no presents of course, and my family says that I should quit feeling sorry for myself.  I read the book " Purpose Driven Life" 4 times now and finally got the message.  But will our blessings come in this world or when we go to heaven?   

  

I just had to write to you, because your story touched me.  I hope you write more, we have so much in common.  I want to move to AZ, my daughter goes to college there, and I fell in love with the State.  I am now going to watch Barbara Walter's special on Religion.  I hope you watch it too.  Write back.  Hope to hear from you.  Maybe we can help each other.  Anna 

 
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December 20, 2005, 5:48 pm PST

Pessimist wanted

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Dr. Phil does his viewers a huge disservice by promoting the kooky and wrong-headed view that people's lives are improved or saved by "miracles." True, some people benefit from pure luck -- when random events happen to fall in their favor. But for Dr. Phil and his guests to suggest that supernatural powers are at play gives viewers false hopes. The cemeteries are full of people who left the living praying for some sort of a miracle. It's better to trust in yourself, and to try your best to make the right decisions about your life, than to waste time and energy hoping for a supernatural event that will never come.
I was sorry to read your message because you came across as a person who sounded so negative with how you view the world and how it progresses. There are miracles that happen both from our actions but also from other people and even though you think it may not come from a "higher being" sounds completely insensitive to those people who have donated what they hold dear to someone else, when through tragic events, they lose their life. I think that you need to realize that people are enititled to their own opinions. I think that it says something for those people who put their trust and FAITH is someone who they believe is watching out for their best interest. Even if those people don't make it through that particular trial, just having hope can be something in itself to get you through the storm. 
 
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December 20, 2005, 5:49 pm PST

undecided on miracles yet

When I was 13 and starting the dating thing, I became anorexic to stay thin, When I was 16 I became pregnant and still anorexic I only started to eat when I was about 4 months pregnant.  My son had obvious complication  at birth, his heart stopped, his lung collapsed, he was having ceizures.  The doctors did not believe he was going to make it through the first few hours, It had already taken them more than 11 minutes to restart his heart and his breathing.  After a few hours, they told us to prepare ourselves for the worst and to talk to our priest, 24 hours passed he had not had another ceizure, 48 hours passed he was begining to suck on a suther, as the days and weeks passed the doctors were so amazed that they did not know what to think.  We had a meeting with the entire medical team which they announced he was 'lucky' to have made it this far, however we could expect him to not hear, not talk, not walk, not even be able to eat by himself, he would need a feeding tube for the rest of his life, not 4 days later he was eating out of a bottle, screaming his little lungs off when he was wet or hungry, he was moving his head and looking around when people were talking.  The physio was surprised when she went to pick him up one day and was able to bend his knees, cause he hadn't done that yet, his muscle tone was so tight he would stay so straight you could not bend anything.  This boy is now 11 years old, he plays soccer, volleyball, ball hockey, he goes to school in regular classes, he eats anything and everything by himself.  The only thing I have noticed is that he has trouble remembering things sometimes, nothing too serious, but does forget occasionally, but does remember the first hockey game he went to when he was about 2 years old.   So miracles may be farfetched, but this boy has beaten all odds, that even the doctor himself can not believe his eyes when he sees him, when I go to appointments with my other son, who was born 'healthy & normal', now they say he may be autistic, adhd, but he was supposidly a healthy normal boy.  If miracles do happen I hope it happens again for my other son, If not whatever helped my oldest to get through it I hope and pray it will help my second, since he is the one on so many meds. 

One thing I do know is my grandfather just passed away, and I am glad no more miracles happened to him, He was so sick for so many years, and seeing him the day he passed away was hard, he was a skeleton with skin, in pain, sad, angry, but still joking.  He did however get to say good bye to all three of his sons, and some of his grandchildren, the great grand children had not seen him since he had turned for the worse.  The only thing I hope is when I go it is fast and not preknown, As long as I keep living as it is my last day and say love you to everyone I know when I speak to them I will die a happy person, happier if I was thin, but hopefully my weight won't be my cause of death.  The only 'miracles' I need are healthier, happier boys, and losing weight. 

 
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December 20, 2005, 6:09 pm PST

Miracles or hope

For those of you who are so down on the concept of accepting the thought of miracles, I pitty you.  If nothing else, the people on today's show have recieved a little bit of kindness and hope from others that might just make their life a little bit better, and who are we (or you) to squash after all they have been through. 

The term miracles was used in todays show to define the miraculous things that companies and individuals offered to make an unpleasant situation a little more bareable.  There were no guarntees provided and no false hope offered to any of the guests today.  They were gifts and opportunities that they will do what they can with. 

The show was a learning opportunity for us viewers to step back and realize that there is always someone dealing with something a little worse then we are. 

Peace and health to you all. 

 
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