Quote From: rajkalranow a days we are lost..in the maze of modernism...and modern women...in olden days love use to blossom after marriage...............there use to be that element of surprise curiostiy anticipation ..but now adays the feelings of lust, teenage infatuation and peer pressure to be in love or to be in a relationship pushes man and women to make wrong choices.....
We in india were use to have arranged marriages ..yet our culture was very sexually active... We gave world kamasutra..... becuase then expression of and talking sex was not tabooed....but was encouraged..now boys and girls attain puberty without knowing what is it and how to react....the age old practice of getting married on puberty ...was safe and sound practice.....thats why till today in many culture attaianing puberty for a girl is celebrated in a big way.....
in modern society we dont let our children marry at the tender age of 14-18 when the biological clock is ready sexually.....and moreover we expect them to remain virgin..till they get married.....sometime which is for next 10-15 years...
the thing is we have to understand...even though human brain has developd and we have reached the moon...basicaly we are also part of the animal kingdon..and we still have the same animal instinct...as any other animal....and no mater how much we try to confine ourself to the so called law of the society.....our animal instinct and beahaviour takes over...we are no different from any lion tiger or a bison we still have the same desires....and we still fight for our mate and at times competion gets violent...
modern women needs to understand ..for man it is very difficult to remain faithfull and pure in body and in mind......what the women expects now days it is against mans nature..it is like training the lion to eat grass thats what society is doing taming a wild animal..
i am sure the most faithful man in the world also looks at passing womens ooozing breast...bulging back side...and thinks wow what a sight.... ....if only i can have sex with her once...... because for men sex is a phycsical requirement....but for a women it is emotional..men canstill ove his wife very much and still have sex wiht another women....and not feel guilty....it is in his genes.....i mean no disrespect to women....but thats how we are made..where as women needs to be emotionally involved to have sex with a man...
.........for man it is very difficult to remain faithful and pure in body and mind.................................because for men it is a physical requirement...but for women it is emotional.
May I ask if this idea comes from your personal experience or as a result of what you learned at home and the cultural attitudes you grew up with?
I am an older woman with 2 grown children and was married for nearly 30 years. My personal experience has taught me that men do get a feeling of physical release, like a release of tension, from the sex act, However..............so do I. And as far as feelings, I have experienced that men also have feelings attached to sex, sometimes they are about ego and conquest. And sometimes they are tender and loving. I have also experienced the physical desire for sex, not entirely an emotional response. You might find it interesting that the men in Nazi Germany rationalized their sexual behavior, forced and consenting, by saying that it was an natural need that had to be accepted. I could use the rationalization that I need more than 1 man because they are so limited in their natural ability to meet my emotional needs.
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