I was only 19 when I got married the FIRST time. I was to ashamed to have anyone come over to the house. By .the time I was 19. My father had been an alchoholic for as long as i could remember. I would do anything just to be away from my father who hurt us girls in many ways.
So I met this fella through a C.B. Radio club. The biggest thing next to the computer to meet people.back in the 70's.
We met and not long after was married. He turned from hero to wife beater overnight. I felt prisoner in my own home. after one very big beatings my neighbors that lived upstairs yelled at him, while they could not regognize me if i did not plaster the make up on.
I finally broke down and called my mother. her and my sister came over while he was at work and I had off. and they loaded my car and theres with everything they could get in, the rest of the belongings that were mine I decided to give them up they were not worth going back for.
I decided to move in with 3 other gals I worked with since I was not ready to go home.Than not long after I became very ill and my sisters big wedding was coming up. I felt like I had the flue and also thought I was about to have my period by the way my body felt. It was so hard to get out of bed. than I began to fall. I was able to go to the wedding, however my brother had to practically hold me up walking down the isle. I finally after 7 weeks of begging the dr's to help me I was admitted to the hospital after 3 ER visits, (it's all in my head- to I had an abortion, and was hiding it from people so i was hyperventalating . This is what they told my mother). on to chyropracters, and again back to my Dr. who said I had a viral infection. I went to stay at home, and woke up and was paralyzed and began to choke, This was the day after my father went to rehab for alchohol. He got into an accident almost killing a young mother and her month old, so my oldest brother and mom took him and admitted him into detox. (to this day he is sober as can be) but next my mom and brother took me to the hospital. and when i began sipping my soda I began choking. a nurse regognized this as a illness called guillian Barre Syndrom from 10 years prior,she had seen a case. I spent almost a year in the hospital only to finally rule it out to be from trrauma from all the beatings i took from rushing into a marriage.this illness is usually called Ideopathic. (of unknown cause) however most cases they had seen were those that had the swine flue shot that they were giving back in the late 70's and early 80's, which I never had.
now at 47 I have lost my ability to sing which I took 12 years of voice and was married to my music, I was in a few groups, and sang my first solo in the 8th grade in front of over 500 people. I cry offten over it. I also lost everything I owned which my roomates took while I was living with them. They took all my clothing and coin collection that i had just appraised at 22,000 dollars my bedroom suit,all my clothes I would wear onstage.you name it. However my voice was my prized prossesion. and I new before when this Dr kept taking the entire tube out, instead of just at the mouthpiece, and than he had to keep puting it back in a total of 4 times which when I went to a Dr at the Cleveland Clinic,who happened to be Bette Middlers Dr. Which I did not know at the time. did a video tape and I was told that my vocal chords were ruined. and I would need a voice transplant. which at the time they did not do them in the states.He also said he had never saw vocal chords as bad as mine were. before I got ill and went home. so by the time I was 23 I was put on total disability. and to make things worse when I got out of the hospital after a long time, I had previously met a roomates boy friends brother who happened to come home from the marines when his brother was found dead in a car in someones yard. He kept in touch with my family even though I had only met him once. the entire time I was ill and when I was able to have visitors after getting out of ICU after 4 months he came see me.
well let me just tell you that history repeated itself after i got out.
It's to bad that when I had it they had no trearment for it.. Now they have plasma pherisis, and IVIG. So I am in the 5% that relapse since I had to let it run its course and was hooked up on a ventalator 4 times, and every inch of my body was paralyed. Yet it's very painful because it deals with the peripheal lining that covers your nerves. they slowly disinigrated. and it feels like bare wires are touching one another.
The most preciouse thing I lost was my voice.
All because I was in a hurry to get married and not get to know them.
thanks for reading
Donna
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