Topic : 01/12 Racism Experiment

Racism comes about when a few of the worst examples are used to judge a whole race of people.   

You should really look into statistics on crime, poverty, unemployment, out of wedlock births, etc.   It all relates to character, not skin color.  Contrary to narrow-minded viewpoints and negative media portrayals, Africans Americans are not plagued with an immorality gene, promiscuity, or a lazy gene.   

Roughly half of all Black children do live in a two-parent household.  More than half of welfare recipients are Caucasians.  As for unemployment rates, the U.S. Dept of Labor defines an unemployed person as one who is actively seeking employment.  And unfortunately, the number of unemployed Blacks as defined by the Dept of Labor is consistently twice as high as Caucasians.   

You say that you don't want your granddaughter being mistreated by other kids.  But how do you think she feels about the way you treat her mother? You are being just as cruel as the rest of the world that you speak of.  Your granddaughter is being victimized by your actions, and she doesn't deserve it.  Don't continue to feel guilty about what's going on.  Do what you can to mend your relationship with your daughter.  Life is short.   

The bottom line is that your daughter is going to be with this man with or without your approval.  She's an adult and she doesn't need your permission to date a black man or any man for that matter.  How would you feel if you knew that his family shunned her just because of her skin color?  Would you feel like she deserves it or would you feel like his family is wrong for mistreating her?   

If you choose not to accept it, then you're not only hurting her, but you're hurting yourself, your grandchild, and any future grandchildren that may come along.   

I don't know were you get more then half of the recipients on welfare are Caucasian.  I live in Calif,  and it doesn't work that way out here.   

Case in  point, about five years ago when my husband was unemployed we went and applied for food stamps. That all we needed we just wanted help in buying food for the family.  I was setting in in one of the cubicles and over heard a case worked telling a black woman not to claim her child support because she would not get welfare benefits.  I was told to sell my car ( which is needed to get to work) and to cash in my 401K.  

So don't tell  me there are more whites on welfare than anyone else. Go to a welfare office in CA, you won't see that many caucasians.  

I agree with you to some extent, but on the other hand I don't.  I am in no way saying that races should be separated or that you should send your children to an "all white" school so that they don't date anyone of color!!!!  My daughter has always gone to public schools and she has MANY friends who are black, hispanic, ect., but that's all they are ....friends.  Many have tried to date her and she told them no.  She told them that she will be their friend all day long, but dating them is out of the question.   

I guess maybe unless you are raised or live in the deep south you really cannot understand how stigmatized and mistreated people who are bi-racial or date bi-racially are treated.  It has come a long way from what it used to be though because at least now black people are finally treated as equals for the most part.  However, if you're bi-racial even the black people look down on you!!  I guess you just have to live there to know where I'm coming from!   

I do agree with you!!!!!  I was a single mother and I was working 2 jobs (I'm a server/waitress) and was barely making ends meet and I went to get some food stamps and the woman told me I made .50 too much to get any help!!!!!!  Can you believe that!?!  So, I asked her if I were a minority if I would get the help I needed and she said yes that minorities were on a different scale!!!!!  In TN where I live, we have people living in the projects driving almost new cadillacs and selling drugs and still getting the help that they don't deserve!  I don't have a problem with ANYONE of any race getting a hand up, but it really makes me angry when the people who need a hand up can't get it, but some who could work and be on birth control if they can't support a child get all the hand outs!!!! 

I totally agree with cheeker that Dave's parents are foolish!   

I was a neighbor of Dave's growing up, went to the same school, rode the same schoolbus, even went to the same church where his parents were church leaders.  It is true that his parents denied that he was black or adopted, more like a "reverse albino".  Of course, the community never quite believed them.  I cannot imagine how Dave felt being lied to by his own parents for his entire childhood, I am surprised that they finally admitted the truth to him.  I also feel badly for him that his entire family has disowned him, I can't believe that they could be so cruel.  I always knew Dave to be a really great person, one any parent white or black WOULD be proud to call their son.   His parents ARE foolish but they are also hypocrites, and I agree with Dr. Phil that Dave has done enough to reconcile with them and that it is time for him to move forward.  There is some lesson from God for Dave in all of this, I wish him the patience and courage to discover that lesson.   

One more thing, I can't recall that our "milk white" community treated Dave so poorly, with the name calling and prejudice (not even sure quite how to spell it) although perhaps I didn't recognize it being so young and naive.   I was mortified when I heard this on the show and felt very ashamed of  my childhood community.   I apologize to Dave on behalf of that whole little town and time, so sorry that you had to experience that undeserved pain.  I wish you the very, very best at moving on with your life -- may you find His peace. His purpose and His blessings.