Topic : 07/04 Old Flames

After 14 years of marriage we had moved off a farm ....bought a new house in town.....the kids were grown & gone.....we had new jobs and a new life......we had always gotten along well and were the best of friends.......or so I thought........he had gotten a call a month later from an old flame.......after chatting she said he was the father of her 22 year old daughter.....and had a new grand child.......after paternity test it came about that this was not true but the time they had spent together continued.....he had always loved her he said although they had only dated a couple of months as kids......I had no idea that he was sneaking out to meet her on a regular basis......he had said there was no more contact and as a fool I believed him........a few months after the initial phone call I came home from work to find half my house missing......there was not a stitch of his memory left in it.........I got a phone call from her husband that she had left him and her 3 kids the same way........it lasted 3 months and now we are trying to pick up hte pieces of a good marriage that had gone bad .......everything is the way it was and although we get along famously and he always thought we had and have a wonderful marriage I am not okay.....I will never look at him the same and can't seem to get passed  the hurt....humiliation....and worthless feeling.....how do I accomplish this.......I have no trust.... my heart still aches...and somedays I want him to pay for what he did to us.....so old flames are wonderful except to the families that are destroyed because of them.........