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Created on : Friday, January 13, 2006, 02:18:32 pm

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Does your child rage, scream and kick doors? Is his or her behavior the typical brattiness of a spoiled child, or involuntary behavior beyond the child's control? Dr. Phil sheds light on a pair of widely misunderstood extreme neurological disorders. First, he looks at Asperger's syndrome, a high-functioning form of autism which can cause a person to lack control over his or her emotions, including anger. Rich and Karen's 15-year-old son, Alex, was diagnosed with Asperger's at age 6. His sudden fits of rage and erratic behavior have put a strain on his whole family. Should his parents be afraid of Alex, or is there something they can do to bring his behavior under control? Plus, Craig, 37, can't control his physical tics, nor can he keep from constantly uttering obscenities, literally hundreds of times a day. Craig suffers from Tourette syndrome, an affliction that's gotten so bad, he won't go into grocery stores, movie theatres or any public place for fear he'll be kicked out. What will the disorder mean for his plans to start a family? Talk about the show here.

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kathyf11

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January 17, 2006, 5:42 pm PST

it's mercury

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I have a 17 year old son that has been diagnosed with Asperger's syndrom, tourette syndrom, Obsessive Compulsive disorder, a thought disorder, and ADHD. I received these different diagnosis from different doctors. Everyone I went to would tell me something different. This has been very confusing and frustrating. I found Dr. Phil's show helpful and would like to find out more about the brain clinic mentioned.

our boy was just llike that we did chelation and he is better. It's mercury get it out of him.

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January 17, 2006, 5:44 pm PST

Tourette's Syndrome

My 20 year old son has Tourette's Syndrome. He has a numerous amount of tics, and sings a lot. He clears his throat constantly and is very touchy feely. When he was born, he was diagnosed with craniosynostosis, which he had surgery for at 12 weeks of age. After that, he had a pseudomonas bacteria move into his sinuses and ears and destroy most of those working membranes/organs and caused right frontal lobe brain damage. He was diagnosed with Tourette's at a later age, even though I think he had it much sooner. Andrew has graduated from high school and college and can function fully to his abilities. A year ago, he came to pick me up from work after tarring a roof in 90 degree weather all day - the owner of the business decided that Andrew was drunk and didn't bother to come get me - he just called the police. The police came, and by the time I was notified what was going on, they had surrounded my son and were asking for his license and a breathalizer. I, of course, went ballistic and told them that they should not pick on disabled people. The police backed off and told me to be calm (not happening) - they didn't do the breathalizer and ran his driver's license to make sure he wasn't a wanted criminal. Then this summer he volunteered at a local St. Vincent de Paul store and the manager, who by the way has known him a long time, accused him of being drunk while he was volunteering his time to help people worse off than he is. We sent a letter to her asking for an apology which we never got, but she did sign a letter from the local Catholic church asking us to go to church on Christmas Eve. Andrew went to church and still did not receive an apology. Andrew doesn't drink or swear, tries very hard to control his tics, is taking Orap which makes him very tired. He reads the Bible and is a very accomplished carpenter. He has never been mean or hateful to anyone. Why do we see a disability if people are in a wheelchair and not anywhere else? People don't know what Tourette's is, and if we don't fit into the "normal" box, then we don't fit in at all. Andrew is afraid that no girl will ever accept him as he is, and doesn't and never has had a girlfriend. He lives at home and he has been a blessing in my life. My daughter doubted the existence of God, and Andrew made her think of what a miracle he truly is to all of us and she now believes. I think that Andrew has been the greatest gift I could ever receive and he could teach ALL of us compassion and true love. He has tics and he makes noise and we don't care. He is who he is. He has more to offer this world than ANYONE I have ever met. The more we educate the world on mental or brain disorders, the better off this world will be. We are making strides to eradicate the color issue - let's eradicate the issues of mental illness. There is no "normal" for any of us. We all have our quirks and strange things we deal with every day. How can we say that we are "better" than anyone else? Andrew is one of the best people I have ever been privileged to have in my life. Let's all make strides to accept people that we don't think are like us, be a kinder, gentler people and accept that differences make the world go round.

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January 17, 2006, 5:45 pm PST

A little boy lost

I watched the show today and to be honest it scared the life out of me. I have written into the show before looking for help with my son but unfortunately I never got an answer. I watched this young man and saw the rage and it really took me back. I have a son who is 7, almost 8, and he has Asperger's. I have done my homework so I know that the teen years are going to be tough but it scared me that my precious little boy might become that angry. He has a lot to deal with being in school and I have just had twin girls a little over a year ago. It scares me to think that I may have to worry about his anger because I have other children to think of. I feel so lost and alone. I want to help my little boy and I have had him to doctor's and up until this year I haven't been able to get insurance to pay for the treatment that I was told that he needed. I don't know what to do and sometimes I spend all night on the computer trying to read and find ways that I can help him. My son is wonderful and he deserves every chance that I can give him but I don't know what to do or where to go. The information is not readily available without shows like this bringing Asperger's to light. I would greatly appreciate any and all advice.

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Rhonda

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January 17, 2006, 5:47 pm PST

its mercury mercury mercury

as soon as we started doing chelation our boys bad behavior went away a little at a time. 22 tretments later he is almost normal. Our home is normal now. He was ADHD now he is a great kid. We removed mercury, I figured he got 185 micrograms from his vaccines and I removed his silver fillings too he had eight.. It's mercury mercury mercury remove it and you can be happy too.

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January 17, 2006, 5:47 pm PST

Happy hope

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My son was diagnosed with Asperger's at age 5, but was getting services for developmental delays from the time he was 3. I will watch on Tuesday, but from the preview on this web-site, I'm concerned that you're only going to talk about the worst-case scenario--all the problems that Aspies can have.

My son is doing fantastic today. He doesn't have rages and gets along well with almost everyone. These days, he accepts change and has a great sense of humor. He's also not as anxious as he used to be. We're still working on building his confidence in unstructured social situations, but his behavior in the classroom is totally appropriate. His teachers all love him and his peers respect him. He even has a date for the senior prom! (The only medications he takes are for asthma and allergies.)

Two things really made the difference for us: early intervention and trying to understand and address the causes of his behaviors, rather than just reacting to the symptoms.

Hi. I was so happy to read your message. My son is 4 and was diagnosed several months ago. He is on the mild end of the Asperger spectrum and I'm often confused as to what therapies to try. May I ask what kinds of early interventions you had? My son has an aid (SEIT) in nursery school and sees a "floortime" therapist. The school district is considering a social skills group for him as well. Thank you.

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January 17, 2006, 5:50 pm PST

chelation

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How did you remove the mercury? How did you know to do that?

I started with heavey metal detox then talked him into the iv chelation. With Dr Cole at the Dallas Wellness center in Dallas tx.

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January 17, 2006, 5:57 pm PST

Aspie Marriage

I am married to a man with aspergers syndrome and he was just diagnosed at the age of 50. We have been married for three years and I would love to hear from couples who are living in an aspie marriage.

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January 17, 2006, 6:00 pm PST

need advice

I have an 18-year-old son with AS. He is in his senior year, and during the second quarter he stopped going to school. He got anxious about one particular assignment, and refuses to go. He also refuses to talk about it. I don't know what to do. Should I take away all of his stuff -- computer, tv, etc. -- until he agrees to go back to school, or should I let him decompress. It's been a couple of months. Also, we feel very isolated and helpless. Do others have support groups?

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January 17, 2006, 6:03 pm PST

Dear Alex

I am the mom to 9-y-o Alex who was recently dx with Asperger's. Kudos to you for trying to communicate with your parents. Perhaps it was just editing, but I was screaming at the television hoping your parents could hear your attempts to communicate. I know I'm new at this Aspie business, but I have devoted myself to learning more about my child and his condition. I firmly believe that, while I continue to make mistakes and parent the way I was raised, at least I know that must change and change RIGHT NOW.

Asperger's is not extreme - it is incredibly complicated and my child has given me new perspectives. He sees beauty where I would overlook it. He approaches life in ways I could never imagine. His intelligence, perception, kindness and affection are overwhelming and I know he is my gift. Yes, he rages, but we try to listen to him and try to include him in our family. That has removed the element of surprise for him and helped him anticipate events so he can be better prepared.

You are to be commended for trying to save your family - just like my Aspie, your perception is amazing. It is sad that the show did not focus on the positive or the fact that simply treating you like a human being would go far to help you anticipate life and adapt to it.

May you make it to adulthood and may you continue to succeed - hopefully in an environment that appreciates you.

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January 17, 2006, 6:03 pm PST

kim THANK YOU

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Karen,

Please tell Alex how thankful I am that he had the courage to be on the show! My son, Aaron, is also 15 years old, is brilliant, plays trumpet, has soooooo many wonderful gifts, yet suffers from meltdowns due to AS. He is so ashamed of himself for it. We too have family strife, even though we regularly see therapists for his condition. We've even gone to Dr. Brenda Miles' seminars when she's been in our area. Aaron has what we affectionately call "The Bat Cave" in his closet where he can go to get through his meltdowns. We have also put away knives. On one occasion I called the police who handcuffed him and took him to the mental ward at the hospital because he locked himself in the bathroom with a knife and was screaming that he was going to kill himself. This prompted us to increase his doses of medication. We just want him to be safe.

Alex, when I saw you on the TV, tears came to my eyes. I just wanted to hug you and tell you that there are people out there who DO care and are NOT afraid to love you. We know that these meltdowns are not done by choice. When my son was younger, he came to his dad and said "Dad, please spank me harder so the bad will come out of me!" It was heartwrenching!

Do you know when the follow-up show will be aired? I've never heard of "brain imaging" and am most interested in the results. For Aaron, we have him on an IEP at school where he has a place to go when he's going to have a meltdown. And, the Bat Cave here. We also have him taking Prozac and Risperdahl, which I pray that someday we can find a better way than with meds.

We have also lost friends due to Aaron's meltdowns. It used to crush me when that happened, but now I'm immuned to it. I'm always so thankful to meet others who want to know more about the condition rather than condemn us for it. Also, there are some great people at aspergersinfo.com. You can also download an actual medical card at that site. I sent the card to our city and to our schools so that people know how to positively react to meltdowns, rather than unknowingly help the meltdowns escalate.

Love and prayers to your family. THANK YOU ALL so much for sharing your story nationwide! You guys are HEROS!!!!!

Kim in Oregon

KIM, I hope others read your message because Alex and I are so happy you wrote. We appreciate your understanding. We are not bad parents as some may think. Yes we yell and scream at him during a meltdown due to frustration. Alex understands why we do this, he knows that this is the only way to break through the meltdown.

WE have lost friends. We have stayed away from making new friends because they just don't get it. A dear friend of mine has been out of touch with me for almost a year and a half. She and her husband were uncomfortable with our problems and did not truly understand them. They pulled away UNTIL TODAY. She emailed me and I had the courage to call her immediately. I thought they were mad at us and I did not have the courage before tonight to try to find out. I had emailed her regularly through out this time (that's how she caught the show and emailed us), we are on the road to friendship recovery. GOD BLESS DR. PHIL.

We are not hero's, we are just common folk who have a problem and want help.

Feel free to continue to write us kikione1@cox.net Karen, Rich and Alex

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