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(Original Air Date: 01/20/06) Dr. Phil fields questions from teens across the country. Alysia, 17, wants her mom to approve of her 30-year-old boyfriend, Jamie -- who's in jail and has been charged with domestic violence. Her mother, Linda, says she's living a parent's worst nightmare. She says her daughter was working hard and headed toward college until she met this man, and now her future is at stake. Next, Kaylene, 15, is upset that her mother has banned her from using a Web site where she posted pictures of herself in a bikini. Is the Internet a safe place for a 15-year-old girl? Then, Brittany, 14, says her family moved to Nashville to pursue her dream of being a singer. But now that her parents are having marriage problems, she's caught in the middle and thinks it's all her fault. Plus, see the exciting new project The Dr. Phil Foundation is working on to help some wonderful children beat the odds! Talk about the show here.

 

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March 21, 2006, 6:50 am PST

House Rules

The rule in our house regarding teen use of the computer is "The computer is not the first point of contact for a relationship. It only supports the relationships you already have." I have all the passwords for MYSPACE, Yahoo and others. And we have a hidden security program that allows me to see a video of absolutely everything the kids do and say on the computer. I am the parent, I own the computer and its my job to be vigilant. The best news is that I found my teens to be on a better course than I imagined - and I compliment them all the time for that.
 
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March 21, 2006, 10:45 am PST

The Internet is a tool

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I'm 19 years old and use Myspace. Myspace is not the problem. Parents should not have to monitor their children and have access to their emails and all their passwords. All that will do is cause the child to get pissed off and rebel against their parents. Minors need to realize that people aren't always what they seem, and they shouldn't go meet someone they met online without some kind of protection. It doesn't just happen to kids under 18. It happens to people over 18 as well. Some 20some year old girl was murdered in my state by some 20some year old guy she met on Myspace. It's just plain stupidity is the problem. People need to be educated on what to do and what not to do.
Just like any other tool, the internet can be used for good or evil. Most tools come with a manual, but the Internet relies on common sense. Parents should learn specifics before allowing children to use any site or service. (You wouldn't let a 4 year old use a jackhammer, would you?)
 
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March 22, 2006, 12:50 pm PST

im sorry i disagree

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Just like any other tool, the internet can be used for good or evil. Most tools come with a manual, but the Internet relies on common sense. Parents should learn specifics before allowing children to use any site or service. (You wouldn't let a 4 year old use a jackhammer, would you?)
i am a parent of 4  a 8, 12, 13 and 14. they are NOT allowed to use myspace have emails, or meet others online. harsh? no, I'm a mother a protector and if they want to meet friends they know how to do it, and that's  in the old fashion way. I'm 32 yrs old, and people tell me i don't look like i have 4 kids, when we are out together, Ive been out there and had gone through so much drama in my teenage years and in my 20's. so i know whats out there and the reason why some kids will rebels, is because they are not explained WHY they are not allowed to do certain things. its a privilege earned, not a right. and if our children want to use the computer , we need to be there in plain view, in the family room. and my children respect that. A's and B's in school, honors in geography all this they present to me. so, i know I'm doing a good job being firm with them. myspace and other services on line should be not allowed to our children because the risk of them getting harm is higher. (c'mon is it worth it? our kids getting hurt?) but sad to say,  its a fun past time for some people, but its a scary thing just thinking some perv could be lurking around and targeting our loved ones.  so, for as much as i can, i don't allow none of that online stuff in my home because for as long as i can i will hold on to their innocence. in comparison to my sister with her children of the same ages of mine, she does let them surf the Internet gone to cartoon porn, are registered on my space and the result to that is this. they are failing in school because they are more involved with socializing with people and dress baggy, very baggy clothes and my niece who is 14 dresses provocative. and my sister got to the point that she rather ignore it, and act like theire friendinstead of a parent  that should do something about it. and my brother in law just lets it happen. its a shame that our children are exposed to many things and now we need to worry about this. so totaly not worth it.  
 
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March 22, 2006, 12:52 pm PST

im sorry i disagree

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Just like any other tool, the internet can be used for good or evil. Most tools come with a manual, but the Internet relies on common sense. Parents should learn specifics before allowing children to use any site or service. (You wouldn't let a 4 year old use a jackhammer, would you?)
i am a parent of 4  a 8, 12, 13 and 14. they are NOT allowed to use myspace have emails, or meet others online. harsh? no, I'm a mother a protector and if they want to meet friends they know how to do it, and that's  in the old fashion way. I'm 32 yrs old, and people tell me i don't look like i have 4 kids, when we are out together, Ive been out there and had gone through so much drama in my teenage years and in my 20's. so i know whats out there and the reason why some kids will rebels, is because they are not explained WHY they are not allowed to do certain things. its a privilege earned, not a right. and if our children want to use the computer , we need to be there in plain view, in the family room. and my children respect that. A's and B's in school, honors in geography all this they present to me. so, i know I'm doing a good job being firm with them. myspace and other services on line should be not allowed to our children because the risk of them getting harm is higher. (c'mon is it worth it? our kids getting hurt?) but sad to say,  its a fun past time for some people, but its a scary thing just thinking some perv could be lurking around and targeting our loved ones.  so, for as much as i can, i don't allow none of that online stuff in my home because for as long as i can i will hold on to their innocence. in comparison to my sister with her children of the same ages of mine, she does let them surf the Internet gone to cartoon porn, are registered on my space and the result to that is this. they are failing in school because they are more involved with socializing with people and dress baggy, very baggy clothes and my niece who is 14 dresses provocative. and my sister got to the point that she rather ignore it, and act like theire friendinstead of a parent  that should do something about it. and my brother in law just lets it happen. its a shame that our children are exposed to many things and now we need to worry about this. so totaly not worth it.  
 
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April 21, 2006, 1:51 pm PDT

Beating the odds

I have lurked on he Dr. Phil website reading about shows for years. I have never uttered one word about anything. One reason for this is I know there are two sides to every story. We don't see the situations first hand so we are missing a big chunk of what is really going on.  

The second reason I have never said anything is I don't agree with Dr. Phil on every little point. I don't think his word is gospel or replacement for my own judgment. I'm sure he'd rather have it that way, and it doesn't hurt his feelings any.   

  

I do think Dr. Phil has brought a good dose of common sense back to the world. I have been telling people in my life for years a lot of the same damn things as he does in his books. Thank you for making people realize I'm not crazy and thank you for helping me realize I've been doing a lot of things right in my life despite popular opinion. That makes it all worth it.  

  

I would also like to say thank you for the Dr. Phil foundation. I wish it would have been around when I was a teen. Many of these kids that you help are in the same shoes I was when I was that age. It almost brings me to tears to know that they have a chance. A little part of me that has been hurting, and continues to hurt sometimes and flares out in to bitterness; is made whole with everyone of them who makes it.   

I can not undo the past, but it lifts a huge stone off of my whole being knowing that there is somewhere for kids to turn who are now where I used to be.  It makes it the world right for me. It puts what I and so many others in my age range went through seem like a nothing more than a bad dream that we can wake up from now.   

It doesn't seem to matter that I didn't become what I wanted be now. I turned out to be a good person, who still has hope left despite the challenges that come along. I'm still a fighter, and this news about the Dr. Phil foundation gives me enough strength to get back up for a few more rounds.  

I don't make a habit of emotional displays in my day to day routine, that is an area of vulnerability I don't like to step into. I know this is one place I won't be made fun or rejected for how I feel. This may be month old news to site regulars but it puts a lot of old dogs down for me right here and now. Thanks to everyone working for this cause. I am very interested in volunteering some how.  
 
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July 23, 2006, 12:07 am PDT

My space-teenagers

Isn't there anyone out there who thinks this MY SPACE thing has gotten out of hand?
 
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