Topic : 03/17 Kids Ask Dr. Phil

And I've seen nothing like what you're talking about. With monitering, this girl could be very safe. Each perso has a different experience with websites of all kinds, myspace or yahoo, hotmail or facebook, whatever they are. If a 15 year old girl was raped because of pictures she had posted, her parents should have been more involved with who she was talking to, what she was posting, and what she was doing. 

If your friend didn't want the video of the woman and dog on her comments, she should have deleted it. That's not the fault of myspace, but of your friend for not being vigilant enough to get rid of filth. 

My daughter and her friends use myspace.  I frequently monitor my daughter's use but it is obvious that many of her friends'  parents do not.  My daughter received a verbal threat at school that 2 girls intended to beat her up.  She went on her myspace and surfed the pages of her "friends". The 2 girls that plannned to "beat up" my daughter had posted threats against my daughter and 2 other girls.  Other girls were cheering them on and asking them to let them know how it went.  I took copies of the threats and cheers to the principal and vice principal of her school.  I also filed a police report and gave copies to the police.   

My sister and I both have "hands up" policies in our home.  When our teens are online and we walk into their rooms they have to remove their hands from the computer and let us see what is going on.  If we walk in and they quickly click closed some windows or sites, they lose the computer.  It may seem like an invasion of privacy, but tough. 

First of all you don't really know how mature she is.  I am in a similar situation and although he situation is more severe than mine I would never leave my boyfirend for anything else in this world.  He and I have ben through alot together. He has ben in and out of court and jail, but not because of himself but because he has an older brother who uses his name when he gets in trouble.  My boyfriend has been in jail 4 times since I have been with him and all 4 times have been because of other people or for something he was innocent of.  The last time he was in jail was when a 24 year old woman accused him of raping her becuase he wouoldn't help her buy some marijuana.  He sat in jail for 2 months without bond for something he was innocent of.  As for not being able to change someone, it IS possible, believe me I know.  For the past year I have helped my man chang his life.  He also has a child from another girlfriend, but she wouldn't allow him to see her until I helped him change his life around. With the help I gave him he has gotten a job, been able to pay child support without settling it in court, and hasn't ben in jail since the last time he was wrongfully accused of comitting a crime.   

Granted not all people are the same, but it is possible to help people to change themselves.  You can give someone who hasn't made the right descions in the past a second chance, if you are careful and watch for the waringing signs then you should have nothing to worry about.  I know you are probably wondering what my parents think of all that I have done for my boyfriend.  Well, my father is against it, but he cannot say much.  He married a woman who is 11 years younger than he is, she is young enough to be my sister.  As for my mother, she loves my boyfriend!  She knows that he has been in and out of trouble, in fact she has helped me get him out of jail when he was locked up for something someone else did.   

All I have to say is if she is going to do it any way let her make the mistake, if she doesn't want to listen let her live her life.