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Topic : 03/30 Is This Normal?

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Created on : Friday, January 20, 2006, 03:07:28 pm
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(Original Air Date: 01/25/06) Have you ever found yourself in a bizarre situation? Do you think the people around you are acting unusual, and you want to know why? Dr. Phil helps his guests distinguish what's normal and what's not. First up, Lynette doesn't think it's normal for her 78-year-old father, Forrest, to want to be a country music star. Forrest feels like his daughter is discriminating against him because he's old. Then, Suzie says her husband, Steve, won't get rid of the family dog -- even though it recently bit their baby girl in the face, and she had to be rushed to the hospital! Steve wants to know if he's crazy for wanting the dog back in the house. Plus, a guest says she's able to see into the future and wants to know if she should alert her friends to the visions she has about them. Share your thoughts.

 

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January 25, 2006, 7:31 pm PST

Shave it!!

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 i'm sure this will seem silly to lots of you but is it normal for a 53 year old man to spend 30 minutes every morning arranging his 6 remaining strands of hair?  I'm sure there is much underlying my intense dislike of this practice as well as the result...after 20 years of being embarassed and watching strangers do a double take I feel at my wits end as to how to help free him from this crutch.  any suggestions?
I understand that it would be very hard, but I think you should shave off all the hair. I see men doing the 'If I just arrange them right, I can make my 10 hairs look like a thousand!' thing all the time. I wish that I could tell them that they would look so much better with a good ole bald head. I like shaved heads, bald heads. Its when men start trying to hold on to the little bit they have left that it looks bad. I think that Patrick Stewart (the actor who played Capitain Picard on Star Trek The Next Generation) has it right on. He has his mostly hairless head shaved. He is SO sexy! Completely bald is better than sparse. But I do understand how hard it is to let go of hair. Though I'm female and am blessed with a thick head of hair, I am terrified to cut it. Or do anything to it really. But I make myself. Its just hair, I tell myself. It doesnt matter really. And anyway, if I cut it and it looks horrid, its just hair. I'm not my hair. Im me! So I encourage your to try cutting it all off!! Its really scary, but liberating.
 
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January 25, 2006, 7:39 pm PST

Dalmatians and deafness.

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Why do breeder's of Dalmation, still breed a particular line of Dalmations when there is so many deft dogs born of that line.  You obviously found one that was either bred properly either by a respectable breeder that culled the bad line from his program, or just plain lucky.  I love hearing sucess stories like yours.  Thankyou.

There is no one gene that has been found that controls this.  Many top breeders, and I am on a Dalmatian message board with other owners and breeders of championship dogs from around the world, will not sell a deaf Dalmatian until it has been spayed/neutered and kept long enough to see what it's temperment is going to be like.  And they fully screen potential owners of every pup they sell.  And most have a takeback agreement.  If the pup does not work out they take it back and find a new home for it themselves. 

  

Some, and I do not agree with this, kill puppies that test as totally deaf.  I know quite a few people with deaf Dalmatians that have never had a problem because they know the limitations of their dogs.  They did their homework and knew what having a deaf dog safely would take.  Just like if someone has a deaf or blind child the person that has a deaf dog of any breed has extra responsiblities to make sure that the dog and people are both safe when in each others company.  

  

The highest rate of deafness in this breed is with dogs with two blue eyes and very few spots.  Dogs with two brown eyes and especially patches of black or liver on the ears are much less likely to be deaf.  Deaf dogs can produce a litter of hearing pups and hearing dogs can produce litters with deafness in one or both ears.   

  

Most top breeders do not breed Dalmatians that have deafness in even one ear.    

 
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January 25, 2006, 7:40 pm PST

Pits

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I am sorry, but finally a different breed was on the show today!  It seems all attacks are pit related, but we all know that dalmations, chows, rott, doberman, and even cocker spaniels, plus ANY DOG can bite!   

I am a dog lover, I have three pits.  When my husband said lets get one, I said are you crazy?  I had always had german shep, rotty, doberman, never any trouble, but I was the same as every one else.  I went by what I heard, so did my mom.  But when I showed up with her, everyone fell in love with her.  Now we have three.  One weights close to 90 lbs, he is a lapdog, does not matter who you are, he wants to sit on your lap, the other two are smaller, they are shoulder babies, due to the way I held them when they were small.   

They love everyone that comes to our home, we do introduce first, we do not take chances, there is no animal you can trust ever.  Every night I spend the evening with my three pits around me, there is no fighting.  All they give is love, and get that in return.  I am so glad to see you do this show on a different breed!!!  I feel sorry for the owner, but being a pit owner,  maybe this will shed light that its not just my breed that will bite!  And mine will not.  I think he will be just fine, and yes, there are great fence places out there, have one that keeps three pits in and they are jumpers!!  So don't worry, they won't get out!!  Holding three pits in, vs a dalmataion, I think she will be just fine!! Hope she will read and understand that a fence will do the trick, and a dog is a dog.....I agree with making arrangements so they can keep the dog, and come to a commom place. 

I took mine to petsmart, someone was nasty to us, someone from my past walked up behind her and said I have know this dog owner for 10 years.  She said that I was not dumb enough to bring a dog to a public place if I did not trust it, and sent her daughter over to my very large pits, who thought she was just cute as can be.  The lady said she was sorry, she said she also went by what she read, and also came over.  My neighbors make comments as we walk.  I say the same to them, I am a good dog owner, if there is nothing on their mouth, its because you do not have to worry about my dog!!!  I invite you to come over and pet her, or him.  I know that there are dumb people that own these dogs, I don't want to pay the price for them.  I love this breed, they are so loving to us! 

I own Pits too.  Bred them, showed them, raised, trained, and rescued them.  They are the only breed that had human agressiveness purposely bred or culled out of them.   As their name implies, Pit dogs were handled by strangers and had to be picked up after the compitition.  If a dog bite or attacked a human they were put down, not bred.  Why people breed dog's that obviously have a bad line, is beyond me.  They're just greedy and untrustworthy.  Sounds like puppy mills?  I consider backyard breeder's in this catergory.  They get a pair of dogs and just because they have paper's they think it's just fine to breed them and sell them to just anyone who shows them the money.  People who love their breed want to ensure that only the people who know their breed will give them the proper home.  I have turned down many who wanted Pits for the wrong reason.  Show people are not in it for the glory.  A lot of information is exchanged and standards are set to ensure the breed standard.  Backyard breeder's are changing our breed and edangering the dogs life and the general puplic's.  This is happening more and more with alot of breeds.  How ealse do we end up with so many deft Dalmations?  I am trying my best to be a good representative of the breed, and trying to educate people about all dogs need obedience training, vets, and lots of love and respect.
 
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January 25, 2006, 7:40 pm PST

01/25 Is This Normal?

Quote From: jester

Her name is Haylee and she is a second-hand dog.  I got her when she was a year and a half old.  She will be nine on April 10th.  She is a great dog.  But whenever she is going to be around kids I put a soft mesh muzzle on her.  I also use it at the vets just in case.  She has never offered to bite anyone.  But using the muzzle protects her from her own instincts if someone accidently stepped on her tail or something. 

  

I support Dr. Phil 100% in his handling of this issue.  I have friends with deaf Dalmatians.  They can be a wonderful pet.  But mixing them and a very young child without putting a soft mesh muzzle on the dog is not a good idea.  Dr. Phil was right when he said kids do stuff to dogs and some dogs will let them.  But some dogs won't.  Dr. Phil made a good suggestion that a secure area be built where the dad can still have his dogs and the child cannot get near them. 

  

I was the flip side of the story also.  As a toddler I was bitten twice by the same Beagle that had been tormented by the two boys that owned it.  Both times I was bitten in the face.  The first time I wandered over to the dog while it was eating and it nipped me in the face.  I don't remember anthing about that.  But the second time I do remeber.  I was riding on the shoulders of our next-door neighbor and I saw the dog, not remembering the previous bite, and wanted to pet it.  The neighbor bent over and the dog jumped and bit me in the face.  I have small scars from that bite. 

  

My dad asked them to get rid of the dog but they moved and took "Buttons" with them.  Strange twist of fate....our first grade trip was to a farm.  My mom was a classroom mother so she went with us.  There, tied to a doghouse on the hill was a grandson of  "Buttons".  Not onl had they not gotten rid of him they bred that horrible dog.   

  

On another occasion as a grade school age child I was nipped on the hand by a friend's dog as we ran around in her yard.  I think the dog was excited and playing with us and just nipped me by accident. 

  

The dad needs to step up to the plate and spend the money to create a safe area for the dogs and his child.  He can have both but he has to be willing to spend what it takes to keep both safe.    

Seeing the actual show was a lot different than what was summarized in writing. I totally support the mom on this one! 

  

I think that before Dr Phil gives the advice out he should check if it can practically be done in their community.  For example, in our city they do not allow dog runs to be built within a residential neighborhood.  I wonder if this is true for the community that they live in?  I have worked in the insurance industry for over 10 years.  Many homeowner's insurance companies when they get wind of a dog bite will cancel your homeowner's insurance.  If this couple tries to apply for other homeowners insurance they will honestly need to disclose it to the new insurance company and thus could find it difficult to obtain coverage through other insurance carriers.  If this couple has a mortgage, they need homeowner's insurance.... 

  

My heart aches for that little girl.  When I was about 6 years old I was walking in my neighborhood with my sister.  We were walking on a residential street (no sidewalks in this area but very little auto traffic) and a dog came out of no where and bit my sister.  Although it is nearly 33 years later, I can still vividly picture her frantically trying to shake this dog off her lower leg.   

  

Last year this same sister was bit while she was jogging in her neighborhood.  I hate to say it, but thankfully it was my sister because she had her 3 year old son in a stroller/jogger and her 6 year old riding a bike along side of her.  The dog charged out of the yard and bit her in the upper thigh.  The dog owner said "this has never happened before, he is gentle, must be the hot weather, blah, blah, blah".  She then slowly got phone calls and learned from other people in the neighborhood and learned that this dog had bit 7 other individuals (some kids, some adults).  No one bothered to report it.  So she did report it to the sheriff in their community.  The sheriff said he was going to charge the homeowner's with criminal assault.  She did not go for civil damages - she just wanted the dog out of the neighborhood.  If a human being would have done the damage to her leg that this dog did - he would have been arrested.... 

  

My sister said she would not press charges if they moved the dog out of the neighborhood.  The homeowner's reluctantly did so (moved the dog to a "farm" down south for older animals, etc).   

  

Important, if you or someone you love gets bit by a dog - report it to the proper authorities in your community.   

 
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January 25, 2006, 7:41 pm PST

Forrest Lee's Cd's

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I thought Forest, the 78-year-old wanna-be country star was inspirational. You go Boy! Live your dream. Hell, I hope when i am 78 I am doing the same thing! The Hollywood stereotypes are disgusting and Forest is a breathe of fresh air. Does anyone know where I can get his CD? A website or something? I wanna hear his music really bad but Dr. Phil never gave his last name or any of the guy's album/song titles.
Forrest Lee Sr. has a website: www.forrestlee.net  His Cd's are for sale at Amazon.com!
 
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January 25, 2006, 7:43 pm PST

01/25 Is This Normal?

Quote From: momto2guys

I can't believe the comparison of a mentally challenged 10-year-old to a dog. And you better hope that your dog never bites my child, because I would make sure you are held criminally responsible for your dog's actions. You are right, dogs are not on the same mental level as humans, which is exactly why we humans must ensure they are not a danger to other people. That is why you are seeing more people prosecuted for keeping aggressive dogs that endup maiming or killing other people. How many people does a dog have to bite before you admit they are a danger? Do they have to kill someone first? You are the one that is choosing to live with that risk, not everyone that walks intoyour home or near your dog.

As to the mother setting up her child for a lifetime of fear - what about the next time the dog bitesher child? That should help her heal, right? Dogs do attack for no reason, and she is doing the responsible thing by not allowing that to happen to her child again. If she decides she wants to have a dog-free household, that is her choice to make.

Why cant you believe it? The can be very much alike. Have you much experience with mentally challenged people? They can be seemingly 'unpredictable' and difficult and down right dangerous. I'm certaily not saying that they all are, but SOME are.  

  

How can you ensure that anything is not a danger to anyone? You could easily kill someone with your car. Are you going to get rid of it and never drive again? Ans what about the next time the dog bites? How do you know he will bite again? Maybe this is just the wake up call that the mother needs! She obviously wasnt watching her child well enough. OR teaching her how to behave around animals. She was just 18 months, but that is plenty old enough to learn to not climb on the dogs.  

 

 
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January 25, 2006, 7:44 pm PST

Dogs

Quote From: packlder

Your experience is with your own dog, that is one dog. I never said they don't recognize or remember people, but I stand by my statement that they do adapt. Yours' did, he was with another family for 4 months! That's a long time. What good does it do to *blame*. And I am sorry, but that dog is a "danger"! I understand the dog was startled, but it's not really a good excuse, simply for the fact that he caused alot of harm to this little girl! This dad will have to face this very soon.

Have you heard of the Dog Whisperer?  He is on the National Geographics channel.  He is a miracle worker with problem dogs.  Although, at the beginning of the show, they put up a warning not to try this at home.  BUT, I have used some of his ways with my dogs and it is amazing!  I'm hoping since their dog is def they have taught it hand and touch controls.   

I have 2 dogs.  The golden retriever nipped at my granddaughter when she was almost 2 yrs old.  I worked with him and he never did that again!   She could pull his tail and even take his food.  It only took 10 minutes to correct this.  BUT, if he had bitten her whole face and I had never seen the Dog Whisperer, I no doubt would have put him down.   

My other dog is a rott and she loves kids.  No problem there.  Her fault was trying to be the leader on walks.  That is solved too.  That took about 3 days to accomplish.   

Well, good luck Steve.  Just remember that your whole family can be the pack leaders.   

Good Luck to ya!  ~C~ 

 
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January 25, 2006, 7:45 pm PST

i live with the same fear

i am 24 and i know that being scared of everything is not normal. i live with it everyday.i never open windows or leave my doors unlocked. if my husband leaves i have him lock my bedroom door. i sleep with every door locked and shut. if we go somewhere i make my husband check every room and closet before i go in.i hate to be by myself. i know my kids see my fear and i can see it in them everyday. i will take any advise you have for me.i didnt know anyone else was this way.so please help me im tired of living in fear.
 
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January 25, 2006, 7:51 pm PST

Is everyone so neive????

I cannot believe what I am hearing!!! When did an animal become so inconsequential???? I agree with the father that the dog was his child before the little girl. In my opinion the dog and the child are equal and who is anyone to say any different? That dog is a living, breathing, loyal, loving part of the family. They are not just "pets" as everyone would like to believe as soon as an animal is inconvenient! What if the child beat another child or killed an animal just to see what it would do.....would you get rid of the child for the sake of the other family members and they "may" be in danger? Of course you wouldn't!!  That's in human!! Right??  Same thing.......a pet of the household deserves the same consideration and respect as any other living, breathing, feeling being! I am so tired at the lack of empathy or thought/consideration that people take on when having an animal! They are a responsibility just like any child and should be thought of and taken just as serious as deciding to have a child!!!
 
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January 25, 2006, 7:51 pm PST

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Quote From: atsqueen

As far as the husband that wants the dog that bit his daughter to be back in the house, I suggest watching a show called "The Dog Whisperer"!! It is on the National Geographic channel.   It is very obvious that he allows his dog to be HIS pack leader instead of the other way around.  He allows his dog to be the dominant one over everyone.  When no one in the house is exercising dominance, the dog instinctively picks up the slack and becomes dominant over everyone.  The site to go to for the Dog Whisperer to obtain and maintain complete control over a dog no matter what the breed is www.cesarmillaninc.com .  Maybe Dr. Phil can have him as a guest one day. 

  

  

I just posted a message about the dog whisperer.  I didn't see your "Quote" yet.   He is amazing! 

~C~ 

 
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