Topic : 06/26 Twisted Love

Quote From: charles_

 
                        From Charles on the show

Like I said in earlier posts (in March) ...(as a matter of fact you can query all my post's)....

Most of the women who were dumped or jilted are the ones posting venom....... and here is your chance to take it out on a guy you saw on TV.......... Go ahead  throw your best venom on the posts.......


This fact remains ...We are a family and We are Very Happy now........

Charles

Quote From: jettav

Well, the first thing you need to do is ask your self why you want to be with a self centerd guy who has no respect and committment to you, go get some good counseling for your self, for a good counselor will help you feel good about YOU and you will begin to love and accept your self.............You deserve to be loved and respected but you are allowing this guy to damage you and thatis a choice, remember, we teach people how to treat us and until YOU make a stop to it, it will continue and it will get worse.....No, it will not be easy but if you want to be happy then you need to step up to the plate and help yourself. I have seen several of my friends go through this crap and I see how it changes a person for the worse, while they are at home miserable wishing for their partner (so called) to love them and long to be with them, the partner is out having a good ole time, do you think this guy is sitting around crying and feeling sorry for himself? I highly doubt it, so why is he worth this to you/..............I have one particular friend who did everything in her power to save her marriage but in the end they ended up getting a divorce, and within months of attending a divorce recovery group, she met a guy and they became friends, shared ine anothers experiences and eventually they started dating and now they are married and as much as I loved her ex as he too was a good friend as well to my hubby and me, I am so glad that he is out of her life, makes me sad to think this of my friend, but he made her life miserable and now when I see her, she glows, she's active in church and involved in life itself, and her boys, the oldest just graduating from high school did a complete turn around in attitude and life style and it was a good change, teh negative energy in the home made life miserable for them too but now, they are a happy family and life is good....You deserve this as well, get your self some help and begin the healing processs, not easy but will be worth it if you put your whole self into it...I have also seen broken marriages put back tog ehtre but it took one to get the ball rolling, but what ever the case, if you sit bnack and do nothing but be miserable, you will die an unhappy person and that to me, my dear would be sad, all over a a disrespectful, dishonoring, self centered guy, SO NOT WORTH IT!

Quote From: charles_

 Thanks for you support and kind words...................

Been stirring things up abit today...... but it is all in good fun.......

We are really  focused and still have a ways to go, we still have our moments...peticularly when we are introduced to someone with the same name as the OW.

I was intoxicated with confusion and arrogance when we appeared on the show ....its really different now...... we learned so much ....it was a wake up call.

But, time is on our side .....

Quote From: gmbsand

 he has others he can talk to and it is not your place to be his friend , Dont call him or talk with him ever again unless you want to be a selfish amoral human being.

Quote From: jenn93

If this man was my husband, 

  

I would have kicked him out of the house , out of my life , but not before putting some lube on my shoe and kicking him right in the ass!  He should be ashamed of himself for even suggesting such a pile of crap to his wife.   If you didn't want to be tied down in one relationship, you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place, as far as I am concerned this man is what I like to call a "man whore". 

Quote From: smoochie1

I just watched the show and realize it is a rerun but I couldn't resist posting my reaction to this situation, at least my reaction to what the situation was at the time the show was aired. Is this guy for real?? I don't buy this alpha male crap either, I really believe he had to validate himself as a male, as a lover, as being desirable, etc...he was outright bragging about how he was able to "satisfy" the two women for 3 months and he is so superficial, mentioning numerous times how "gorgeous" the other woman is, like that could be so understandable as to why he would be interested in her. Yes, giving birth to and raising 4 children and apparently putting up with the likes of Charles for 20 years and God knows what else, will take its toll on a woman, not to imply that his wife by any means is unattractive. He mentions that the other woman has "time" for him unlike his wife: did he ever think to get off his lazy a** and free up some of his wife's time by helping her and making her life easier instead of finding some "gorgeous" woman to amuse him? Charles, move in with her, knock her up a few times and when she is too busy washing your clothes, feeding and raising your babies we'll see how much time she has for you and how utterly attractive she remains.  

Also, did anyone notice how the whole show was about him, why HE didn't feel remorse, why HE this and that, etc...? And how he continuously talked about the other woman like his wife wasn't even there, mentioning her apparent beauty, how attracted he was to her, how she had awakened his senses, how he loved her, blah blah blah? He has no respect, not an iota, for his wife, for women in general, nor for his children, who will one day see how shallow and conceited and arrogant their father really is and let's just hope that they learned their values from their mom who apparently isand has been the main influence in their lives.  

What a first class jerk, alpha jerk no less! How come jerks don't know they're jerks? I would NEVER find this man attractive in any way, he exudes patheticism, for lack of a better word. I think he and the "gorgeous" woman deserve each other and should ride off into the sunset together, one more pitiful than the other. I wonder if he was able to watch the show later from an objective point of view and realize how ludicrous he was? Is that posting really from him?
As for his wife, I hope she has since awaken from her hurt and moved on to realize she is worth so much more than this creep has led her to believe. Poly-fidelity, ha! What a joke! Maybe he should move out of America and go where poly-fidelity is accepted. Which on a last note, how would he like it if his wife took an interest in having another man and maybe have him meet Charles and get along and car pool and take turns in bed with HER? She has to much class for that from what I saw but that would have been poetic! I though Dr. Phil might have spent more time exploring this angle, turning the tables on Chuck but he only gave it a passing mention.
Uggh, I have such a bad taste in my mouth having seen this guy, yuck!  

Yes, I must be a "vemonous" women to have such feelings and thoughts about poor, misunderstood Charles. 

Quote From: sbrlimey

Your are probably right Charles.  Most of the women are responding are or have been "duped".  To believe, love and support a man that when tested, will "jump ship" to "gratify"  his/her own feelings.  My husband left 3 months ago after 20 years of marriage.  He left me and our children to go "see" if there was anything there was to pursue with another woman.  The pain and humiliation - deception - you will never feel.  Your wife would never do that to you.  I can certainly understand you were looking for something knew/different... but that is the time to turn to your spouse and ask for more.  You never know, you may have not been fulfilling her needs as well.  I don't understand duplicity...I don't understand anyone thinking that there are just that wonderful that all should share them.  What hurts most of all, is the betrayal.  In your situation, you had the sense and the spirit of familial bond, to do the right thing for your family.  My husband, is still "trying" to make it work with someone else while asking me to hold on and wait.  I would not do what he did to me and I don't think I will wait for him to "figure it out".  My convictions and beliefs are clear.  I will not let allow anyone to make me believe that I - alone- is not good enough to last the test of time.  God Bless you and your family.  I applaud you for being a real man and doing what was right for your family.