Topic : 06/26 Twisted Love

Aside from a vary narrow viewpoint of what is "Right" this show bothered us mainly with it's use of "POLYFIDELIS" it does NOT mean: a guy with two women.  POLY means many and FIDELIS" means, roughly, 'exclusive'. To those of us in this lifestyle polyfidelis is a term used to indicate a Triad or more of conscenting adults that keep their sexual intimacy between them, not stepping outside of the immediate group. The gentleman on the show kept throwing this term around, not knowing at all what it ment. The term he should have been using is Triad, or Polyamorous.  This is also not Polygamy (Polygamy is being "MARRIED" to more than one person) 

If anyone would like to find out more about the realities and possabilities of a polyamorous lifestyle there are many sites dedicated to this lifestyle.  

I applaud your self-respect and strong identity.  You took the bull by the horns.  You responded quickly and with a plan.  Either way, if you went back to him, or went on to someone else, you'd have been a winner.  That's the kind of thing a man would respect, and he did.  Clear and decisive action!  

If more women were like you, men like Charlie would not have a chance.  

I dont understand it, it is one thing to have an affair, but to coerce your wife into having a 'threesome" is sick.  There are so many things going around at this day in age that yall should be afraid to "whip that thing out" at all.  What if your wives wanted to have an "open relationship", what would you really think of her?  I'll tell you what, it is not all that it is cracked up to be. I ended up with one of these kinds of relationships, not by choice, I kept catching my husband with other women to the point that I didnt even want him to look at me let alone touch me so now I have someone else that keeps my company and now my husband knows it and do you know what he had the nerve to say to me? "I will stay married to you but I wont have sex with you".  His dumb @@@ wasnt doing that anyway that is why I had to find it somewhere else. Needless to say we are getting a divorce but it is okay because he has his life and now I have mine because I refuse to be like my brother, he has a wife, a mistress and a girlfriend and they are all living under the same roof taking care of each other's children.....now that is some mess ain't it?  

      I can relate. My husband and I have only been married 4 years come August, and had told me he is unhappy with our sex life and want's to try an "alternative life style". Swinging we've tried it before and I didn't want to but did for him I hated it, but I kept with it. Now he knows I hated it but wants me to do it again and I don't like being with other men nor him with other women. He is a truck driver and is gone 2 weeks at a time, and he stopped in the area and I met up with him. He had sexy pics of his ex girlfriend whom I don't know, but I was very upset. He said he only had them up once but I'm still very upset about it. Does he have a real reason to keep them or am I right, he's with me now and married he shouldn't need them he should just need me right??? Am I wrong in this???? I found more pics here at home and he wants me to keep them for him and I got mad. Am I right or just being Jealous??  

How does one put themselves in the position of not carring for themselves anymore??  She should have gotten rid of him along time before.. The other women and him are both to blame in th situation from the start, even if he was getting a divorce she should have waited till it was finalized to express her feeling's with him... especially if there are children involved  

Chuck.....................this is about YOU................isn't EVERYTHING? 

I have no need to change my profile.  So stop trying to deflect the firestorm onto you with your quips about "it's all in good fun" or any other nonsense. 

Have you lost your mind? 

That is something I would never tolerate in my marriage. I've been through hell & back w/hubby & if this man thinks he's going to say some sh$$ to me like that he better think twice. I gave an oath to my marriage to be faithful & if he doesn't want to abide by that then he knows where the door is. I love him but dare say something like that to me & here comes a frying pan to his head. 

The rationale behind Charlie keeping the wife and the "other woman" is simply this -- Divorce is expensive. Otherwise, why would he even suggest such an arrangement.   Of course a man would rather keep two women than pay for his freedom with a divorce.  Why not have the cake, and eat it too!     

Personally, I don't think Charlie and Tracey are going to make it.  He does not seem sure of what he is doing or what he wants.  She is way too submissive, not a good way to be with any man.