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Topic : 06/26 Twisted Love

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Created on : Friday, January 27, 2006, 02:41:03 pm
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(Original Air Date: 02/02/06) Charles says he has exhausted his relationship with his wife of 19 years, and he's ready to try an alternative lifestyle. Instead of getting a divorce, Charles wants to explore polyfidelity -- a relationship where he is shared between his wife and his mistress. The mistress says she'll give it a try, but his wife, Tracy, says the thought makes her sick. Can Charles convince his wife to share him for the sake of their marriage? And what does Dr. Phil think? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

 

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June 26, 2006, 4:47 pm PDT

Helllllo!

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I hate this guy. 

  

I HATE this man. 

  

I HATE THE PERSON! 

  

I HATE this person so much I cannot even articulate it!! 

  

(I hate that man so much....) 

  

  

Dear Charles........... 

  

What you so obviously failed to see or hear in my post was-- the humor. 

  

I hate...HATE ... this man!  (Can be said with, yes, humor, and not venom) 

  

As always, you have your head up your *** and need to be seen as, what else, the victim and not the victimizer.  Typical YOU! 

  

(Think "Seinfeld"....................................."I hate that man.  NOT IN A BAD WAY!") 

  

Sigh.  You're just such a jerk, Charlie. 

 
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June 26, 2006, 4:51 pm PDT

SWEEEET!

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I am pretty sure that Dr. phil said that he wouldn't support her if she started dateing someone else..  what a cocky jackass.  she should defiantley leave him as soon as the shows over and same with the other woman.  that would take him down a notch or two. 

Wouldn't that just be a delish dish?! 

  

And every woman in America could be on Alert status and not touch him with a ten-footer.  I think Dr. Phil should have diagnosed him with a Narcissus Complex Maximus Muchisimos!  That man is so in love with himself how can there possibly be room for anyone else?  Wheeeweee, what an ***hole!  Good thing God loves him, 'cuz none of US can standz him! 

 
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June 26, 2006, 5:01 pm PDT

Been There, Done That

Sounds like Charlie has an ego that defies explanation.  Leopards don't change their spots, if he has done this once, he'll do it again.  Get out now, you don't need this and your sons sure don't need this kind of example.  I know where you are at, I was there too and after much soul searching, I decided that I didn't deserve to be treated that way.  It was extremely hard in the beginning, but each day is easier.  I wouldn't go back for anything in the world.  Let them have their life,  they deserve each other and you will be alright.
 
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June 26, 2006, 5:05 pm PDT

Oh Please!

I was married to a guy like Charles in the early 70's and he wanted it all , too.  Women on the side and me.  I finally had an epiphany and got out of the marriage.  You just can't have it both ways.  When you get married, it's a commitment.  If it's not working, go to counseling.  If it's still not working, get a divorce.  Stop dragging yourselves and the kids around.  As Stevie Nicks sang with Tom Petty, "Stop dragging my heart around".
 
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June 26, 2006, 5:16 pm PDT

"Lifestyles"....call it what it is, please

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Aside from a vary narrow viewpoint of what is "Right" this show bothered us mainly with it's use of "POLYFIDELIS" it does NOT mean: a guy with two women.  POLY means many and FIDELIS" means, roughly, 'exclusive'. To those of us in this lifestyle polyfidelis is a term used to indicate a Triad or more of conscenting adults that keep their sexual intimacy between them, not stepping outside of the immediate group. The gentleman on the show kept throwing this term around, not knowing at all what it ment. The term he should have been using is Triad, or Polyamorous.  This is also not Polygamy (Polygamy is being "MARRIED" to more than one person) 

  

If anyone would like to find out more about the realities and possabilities of a polyamorous lifestyle there are many sites dedicated to this lifestyle.  

  

  

Righteous anger.  

   

It is about time Americans, GOOD Americans everywhere, rose up in righteous ANGER.  

   

Stop with all this "lifestyle" BS.  Lifestyle KNIFESTYLE!  You are hacking America TO DEATH.  

   

You have cut the moral underbelly of America from coast to coast, stem to stern, side to side, internal organs hemorraghing to the brink of moral death.  What part of that do you not understand?  

   

You bandy about terms like "rights", "narrow viewpoint", "define", "intimate", "exclusive", "consenting adults"....yeah.......?  WHAT KIND OF ADULTS(?) is the only question you should be asking yourselves.    

   

You have pursuaded black robed justices to forsake the Constitution and "community standards" and the true rights of communities to set standards.  Consequently, nudity, prostitution, pornography, homosexuality, rape, adultery, murder, sexual disease, community hospital's going bankrupt under the strain...you name it.  The collapse of society--why?  Because men have failed to live the way men should live anymore.  THAT simple.  "Narrow viewpoint of what is right"???  Don't give me that CRAP.  God just tried to make it EASY for us and gave us a simple TEN COMMANDMENTS and you couldn't/wouldn't/don't/can't even do THAT!  

   

A pox on your "lifestyle".  May it become like dust in your mouth.  May you find nothing but emptiness, a lack of "intimacy" no matter how many you screw, no matter how many orgies you go to, no matter how many you "include, exclude", whatever, upside down, inside out, toys, boys, goys, hose, nose, toes, whatEVER.  May you come to nothing.  May you come to the end of your rope, honey!  Can't tie a knot, can't tie a bow.  Don't know if you're comin' or goin'.  Throw down time!  And about THAT TIME, I hope Faith Hill comes on the radio singing, "I Surrender All"  ( to Jesus.  :O)  

 
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June 26, 2006, 5:23 pm PDT

Charlie not happy? :O(

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I gotta agree with Charles here...it seems to me that those of you who are making nasty comments to him since his update are just using him as your personal punching bag.

After all this IS The Charlie Show! 

  

He is just lovin' this. 

  

Siddown & shaddap, Charles!  (This is the Dr. Phil Show and you have simply been outed as the biggest jerk in America and Canada...no, make that the entire world.) 

  

Tell me....what redeeming qualities do you truly possess??? 

  

(This ought to be good, folks....his fax machine will doublessly run all night and day and night...you get the picture.  The New Charles in Charge Show............coming on NBC!) 

  

Stands for "Not 'Bout Charles" to those in the know! 

  

  

  

  

 
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June 26, 2006, 5:28 pm PDT

Lemme get this straight....

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sorry to say this is not even close to what a poly family would be ,this is called cheating!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

yes poly means more then one but that would require both partners agreeing to the terms of polly  

I am currently in a poly relationship.one husband andtwo wives.we are happy oh yes we have our moments of disagreements but we always try to work it out when i married my husband we both told each other that we was polly &  together we seeked out another polly partner 

  

 

Charlie Boy was/is(?) a major screwup for doing/wanting one man/2 women; but  

YOU and another woman and a man are OKEYDOKEY?  

  

No, you're not.  

  

 
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June 26, 2006, 5:34 pm PDT

Just watched the show

I just finished watching the show and then read the comments here. You never get the full effect of the story with an hour show, and I'm sure there are other factors contributing to his decision of wanting both his wife and his mistress. But that being said, if he feels so compelled to be with his mistress, I, as his wife, would be inclined to allow him to do so. But he'd divorce me, and it'd cost him. You can't have it both ways, no matter how much guys would love to fulfill that fantasy. If my husband felt the need to "express himself emotionally" with other women, he'd be out the door.   

   

   

 
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June 26, 2006, 5:36 pm PDT

Unclean, unclean!

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      I can relate. My husband and I have only been married 4 years come August, and had told me he is unhappy with our sex life and want's to try an "alternative life style". Swinging we've tried it before and I didn't want to but did for him I hated it, but I kept with it. Now he knows I hated it but wants me to do it again and I don't like being with other men nor him with other women. He is a truck driver and is gone 2 weeks at a time, and he stopped in the area and I met up with him. He had sexy pics of his ex girlfriend whom I don't know, but I was very upset. He said he only had them up once but I'm still very upset about it. Does he have a real reason to keep them or am I right, he's with me now and married he shouldn't need them he should just need me right??? Am I wrong in this???? I found more pics here at home and he wants me to keep them for him and I got mad. Am I right or just being Jealous??  

Just READING your post makes me have to GO TAKE A SHOWER.  I won't feel clean for a week! 

  

(You definitely deserve better!)  I think.  :O) 

 
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June 26, 2006, 5:42 pm PDT

That does it....

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Charles, you sound so different in this message. I am thrilled for you and your wife.  Marriage and family is the most important thing in life. I know you are beginning to appreciate the wonderful family you have. Stay the course, all my prayers and best wishes for you, your wife and your family!  

This is the side of you everyone in the studio needed to know was there. I assumed that because an incredible woman was married to you, you must have another side. I know my husband did have another side, unfortuneately he lived his life with the wrong side!  Congrats in being someone to figure it out!  

In re to: "Sure stirring things up here today.....all in having a good time this time" or somesuch nonsense. 

  

Click. 

  

I think the ENTIRE BOARD should IGNORE Charles.  Tracy deserves love, honor, respect, attention, counseling, hugs, advice, tips on crappy husbands, dealing with FOUR BOYS, and lots, lots more. 

  

I, hereby, am putting "Charles" on Ignore.  Not worth another minute of MY time.  

  

I've said what I've said and I think I have gotten the truest "bull's eye" of all the posts.  If you want to think he is "reformed", more power to ya.  CLICK. 

 
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