Topic : 06/14 Competition Freaks

Quote From: steph_494

The show wasn't about the people that Jennifer has "helped out".  The show was about negitive behavior.  If the twins were looking for a pat on the back, they chose the wrong show to be one. 

Quote From: steph_494

I couldn't agree more.   

  

And of course they were told to start right in and argue.  This isn't a 3 week reality show.  They had, what, 15 minutes to convey to the audience and the world what their every day lives are like.  If they were to go on the show and simply "ease" on into it, there would be no point.  We would never see the truth.....which I believe, is what we saw.   

Quote From: farmdiva

Since all of the guests were "competition freaks", my vote goes to Tom as the real winner of this show.   He conducted himself as a mature man should.  He appeared to appreciate the kind things that his wife said about him.  He was humble enough to let Dr. Phil recite all of his positive traits and to listen to the fact that his overzealous competitive spirit was unnecessary to validate his worthiness.   

  

Now imagine how different Tom's segment would have been if he had acted the same way as the twins or Alicia.  ((((shudder))))   

It would be nice to say something positive, encouraging and empathetic about the twins and Alicia, but I just can't get past my disgust with their competitive motivations and behavior on the show.    If Alicia treats her co-workers like she treats her daughter, I'll bet there are alot of people who simply can't stand her.   The way to be truly successful in a job is to perform your duties to the best of your ability and, at the same time, to be a positive, reinforcing role model for others on your team.   No one likes to work with people whose goal in life is to bask in their self-aggrandizing glory and who would rather die than reach out  with encouragement and accolades when another person deserves a bit of glory.  I was dismayed at Alicia's constant laughing about her very serious problem. 

  

The twins.  Dr. Phil said it best when he used the word "superficial".   I'll go a step further and add "sick".  These women should be in therapy.   Many other Dr. Phil guests who are in denial about one or another character flaw at least have the good grace to be serious about their discussion with Dr. Phil.  Not these two.  I have never seen any guests absolutely giddy,  unrepentant and non-receptive about their neurosis.   Their  failure to grasp  the seriousness of the emotional damage they have done to each other and to the people around them who have had to witness this, is unbelievable.   IMO, poor parenting is the reason this competitiveness perpetuated itself during their childhood.  But, for pete's sake, they are adults now.  Why has it taken them so long to get an inkling that maybe this isn't healthy?  I'm not even sure that they went on the show to learn how to change.  Their antics were pathetic.   Add "bad manners" to what ails those two.   If either one of them has any sense of decency, they will be ashamed of their performance.    They had an opportunity to have Dr. Phil's full attention and wisdom and they blew it.   

Quote From: navret

The last couple that interviewed on todays show allowed me to see myself thru him, and the gentleman was exactly the way that I am, I ve even noticed that my sons tend to emulate me when it comes to family games and there attitude towards losing even my wife refuses to join in on activities because of my competitave nature. Thanks this show was an eye opener for me now to try and reverse the mess I made... oohhh I just happened to be home early today from work and caught your show. hummm...

Quote From: tandmonium

Today's show was very good, and I really enjoyed the last segment with The Dad.  I  heard his regret that he didn't have a college degree and want to tell him that he should be very proud of himself regardless!  If his co-workers have degrees, that's fine.  He surely excels better in other areas, and his winning smile and personality are much better assets than many people hope to have in one lifetime.  It was so evident, too, that he, his wife and kids share lots of love and respect for each other.  That, my friend, is quite an accomplishment these days, so be proud of who YOU are! 

 

I used to work for Atlantic Records, and I think you look a lot like Tracy Lawrence, and you're more handsome than George Clooney!      

Quote From: calcousin

Hey, Tommy! It was great seeing you on Dr. Phil. Although I can't identify with the competitiveness, I certainly heard what you were saying. I found it amazing that your feeling about not having a college degree was so pervasive throughout our family. Although we don't know each other, we probably have more in common than we both realize. I heard the college degree thing most of my childhood. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that I admire you for being on the show. The amount of love you have for your family spoke volumes. Despite all - and believe me I know a great deal of it - you are truely a very lucky man.

Quote From: freesia83

 Those twins need their own show. Seriously, I was listening to the show and I hardly heard Dr. Phil get a word in edge wise. All I heard was a ton of clucking and more clucking. They should watch this tape so they can see how silly they were being.

Quote From: wooleylamb

Oh please no!!!!!  I don't think I could bear for them to have their own show.  Who in their right mind would actually watch such a show?  My stomach still hurts from listening to them.  I wanted to stop watching them, but being the eternal optimist, I kept hoping the show would get better, but it didn't.  They have way too much time on their hands.   And they actually have friends?!?!?