Quote From: gypsyscttyMy posts about the whole matter if you'd like you can cruise through the message board to verify my posts as I have copied and pasted them:
You did the right thing by "controlling it before it got out of hand" and thats exactly what the mother should've done with her, not wait until 2 years had passed. She mentioned she was gone for 5 months but they also stated she was seeing him for 2 yrs. The mother knew too...
To go for brain washing...... No one brain washed her , she made a choice to do what she did , and yes the boy's family was in the wrong for going through with it without consent but they didn't force her to go either. She did so on her own free will as I took it when watching the show.
At 16 we are planning for future whether it be college , marriage, work, etc... Some have stated how you can't possibly be mature enough to get married at that age. They would end up in a failed marriage. Well my mother married at 16 and she had 4 kids, still married to the same man (my father) for 32 years now. I don't see that as a failed marriage. 16 Year olds are making a choice to which college they want to attend for what courses , majors,degrees, careers. How do we get our dr's , lawyers, cooks, etc.... Some go to college some don't but they do accomplish what they set out to do as long as they put their minds to it. There are also fabulous mothers out there who DO NOT work and have beautiful families. There is no rule saying every single person in this world needs to work a job (paying job). Yes I do agree with you that if she's not married yeah go to school. If he is working on the truck paving or whatever , what is she gonna do just sit around and wait for him to come home? Make herself useful during those hours and learn.
To me if they didn't marry while she was gone for those 5 months there were no plans of him doing so ... SO yes she needs to be home in school. BUT ALSO remember this .... they didn't steal her away she chose to go.. so besides the fact that they didn't get consent , exactly why is it this boy's fault that Amamnda took off?
judgeing others without knowing them
I just wanted to ask to all who have their opinions on this whole matter these questions and yes comments from myself. First thing is this episode is to do with a runaway right? So far as I read through these posts I have seen accusations made about all parties that no one even knows personally. My opinions are.... Yes she is a young girl that may or may not be confused of what she really wants. Yes the parents have the right to keep her from running off. Yes the boy and his family was wrong for taking her in and leaving town with out making sure it was ok with the parents. No they didn't have the right ( cell phone or not) to bust in on a girl in the middle of taking a shower. There is a limit on how far parents can go when it involves whether you are male or female in bathrooms. People go to jail for things like that.
Like alot of others have commented on , do we really know what was going on indoors of this family's lives before this show aired? Like for instance what was the reason for mom and dad splitting? was it to do with Amanda? was he cheating? was the mother doing wrong? NO ONE knows because it wasn't shared or investagated. What was the core of this girl wanting out so bad? At the end of the show the parents already made their minds up without bothering to listen to her of what they were going to do. AND what was it ? NOTHING they would rather ship her off to have someone else fix her so they didn't have to deal with it. My opinion on that is they all as a group / family should have gone through counsling to work things out.
To go for the gypsy thing would it matter if it was a gypsy or a non gypsy? Either way she ran away. AND for those who want to put "US" all in the same catagory as that family that took off with her. Yes as you can tell by my name I am one or as we call our selves travelers. I have a high school diploma , 3 kids who are in a Christian school. We are homestead my husband was born and raised here. I have my own business and he has his own , yes its paving, painting, roofing, all which he is lic, insured, even a member of the BBB. When those who attack other race , cultures etc... you are looking at a one sided issue. Not all are the same as others have posted. There are some good and bad . When you call us all bad you must be one of those who see blacks to be drug dealers, whites to be in the KKK , mexicans illegal imigrants, muslums to be carrying bombs. etc etc ... when it all boils down to this, we are all different in many ways , some high class , some middle class , and yes some poverity but just because you are of another race or culture doesn't mean you are all one in the same. You are judging with out knowing .....
For those that think you are better than anyone else, I am sorry you have competition on your paving business but we all try to get a better deal on any type of work or business , isn't that how certain companies get ranked for the best ? No I don't believe in taking advantage of elderly or anyone for that matter some do and NEWS FLASH !!! it's not just gypsies.. SO get real snap into reality.
Now back to Amanda , she needs to be heard her feelings are welling up inside of her she needs to get it off her chest to someone who really cares about how she feels whether or not they are the right feelings. The parents do need to get respect from her as they need to respect her. Goes both ways. A child can't feel comfortable talking to their parents if the parents are constantly denying her of her feelings .. SO THAT I will end this....
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(Original Air Date: 02/07/06) Follow Dr. Phil inside an incredible family drama. Sixteen-year-old Amanda has been missing for over four months. Her parents, Paul and Linda, say she ran away with her boyfriend, George, and what they call his "Gypsy family." Dr. Phil puts his own investigator on the case in a hunt that stretches across 10 state lines. See Amanda’s tearful reunion with her mother, but then learn why their sweet moments together soon turn sour. Dr. Phil hears the teen's emotional confession about where she's been, and where she hopes to go next. Plus, the family erupts in a conflict so explosive, authorities have to be called to their hotel. What sets Amanda off? Dr. Phil puts some tough questions to George, and Amanda's family makes a heart-wrenching decision about their daughter's future. Can Amanda's life be set straight? Talk about the show here.
