Topic : A Child's Voice Connection, Prevent Child Abuse; Abductions

IF YOU CAN BELIEVE THIS, EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE A GROWN WOMAN, I CAN GET A GRASP ON THE CHILD IN YOU, THE PART THAT IS STILL HURTING! 

As you, and the rest know I am not a doctor, but I understand where you are coming from.  Many health professionals only see the black and white they read in the books.   They cannot begin to comprehend the REALITY of what they are treating unless they have been there. 

My heart goes out to you, sincerely!  I wish I could protect the child in you!  I wish I could have been there for you to defend you against your tragedies. 

I am so sincere.  As I told my wife many years ago, when we were teenagers, I wish I could hold every child in this world who is subject to abuse and protect them!  I still feel that way.  And I know the pain never goes away.  And sometimes it takes a lot to bring tears to my eyes, but not at this moment.  You sound like you need someone in your life whom you can put your total trust in, and to tell you everything is going to be ok! 

DR PHIL. I AM CALLING ON YOUR SUPPORT FOR THIS INDIVIDUAL. 

AND I AM ALSO CALLING ON THE ALMIGHTY GOD IN MY PRAYERS FOR YOU!  

This brings home the realization of what I am fighting for.  I know there are many grown women in our society, and this world who were molested as a child, and this pain is deep, BUT THERE ARE ANSWERS. 

And again, I can only offer my opinion, but just the term "Self Worth" comes to mind.  I haven't read the book, but I can imagine it's contents.   

And let me offer one other small bit of connection.  When I was in Jr High and High School, I was bullied.  Nothing compared to what you and many young girls go thru.  But I was beaten to a pulp on more than one occasion.  And simply because I was smaller in stature and number.  So to be over powered, this is only on example in my life.  I was humiliated, and it still crosses my mind frequently.  I carried my Bible to school, thus I was a "different" character and deserved to be punished in the minds of those individuals. 

But I have my family, which is my security blanket. Every man, no matter how tough, mean, or strong has the need for acceptance, and the need to be loved and the need to feel secure.  Even grown men with great strength have the need for a feeling of security! 

I wish I knew the answers, I wish I knew what to say.   

I wanted to related to your counselor.  My doctors seem to be the same way, just because they do not see any thing in the ex-rays that will cause pain, they assume I have no pain.  I had to stand my ground just to get pain meds from my MD, because she has gotten so arrogant, she believes her staff is perfect,  but they made the mistake of not mailing my Rx of the Patch. 

Then I had insist on speaking to the MD, no matter how long I had to wait to get an Rx for pain. 

Then they called in Propoxy, which I told them specifically not to call in because it is ineffective, and it increases my depressive symptoms. 

I have had too many experiences with MD's who think they are god.  They only think they know, they don't really know what is going on. 

I am rambling.  Sorry.  I hope you feel well, and post me anytime.  I am still working on that email issue. Looks like I may have a virus that some how interferes with the email. 

Take care 

djmatt AKA djphil 

And of course all the parents of these children. It's just when I saw Carlies name it made me think that I saw her mom on TV the other night because she was arrested for prostiution and drug charges. I am sure she had problems before Carlie was killed but I think that it has definetly sent her deeper into trouble. 

Thanks, 

heather 

And of course all the parents of these children. It's just when I saw Carlies name it made me think that I saw her mom on TV the other night because she was arrested for prostiution and drug charges. I am sure she had problems before Carlie was killed but I think that it has definetly sent her deeper into trouble. 

Thanks, 

heather 

OUR MISSION is helping others......I would love to go and speak for the victims  to be there voice.  Besides the minimal triggers I do have myself together believe it or not! 

I have climbed so many big mountains. 

You are correct about the self worth issues.  I want to feel needed and I want to put a face on this topic and to say you may have tried to destroy me but I LIVE!  No matter what I HAVE LIVED! 

DEAR Dr. PHIL If ever you need me to give a speech for your foundation I am your girl just give me notice and I will be there! 

DJMATT I am so proud how you had a vision and how GOD has worked thru you and depite your illness he is using you as a tool to follow thru and is being productive and the word is getting out! 

THANK YOU FOR YOUR PRAYER's my brother...I need them so much and I appreciate them.... 

Thank you!  xoxox 

like me I am now 42  years old or if you are a kid now and are being sexually abused you may speak here and we will listen and BELIEVE YOU!  WE ARE A SAFE HAVEN FOR YOU! 

YOU are not dirty or bad or shameful.  Bad things..Have happened to you...You are not a bad person. Sometimes grown ups,  or people close to you or if today you are a grown people close to you might of said no one will or would believe you.... 

WE BELIEVE YOU AND YOUR STORY...IN SHORT YOU ARE NOT ALONE! 

Sexual abuse hurts really really bad...What hurts worse though is to carry the secret all alone.  There are so many of us here who have suffered for so many years in silence and the great thing is today you do not have to be alone anymore. 

I am here for you long with so many others.  If you just want to come here and just say Hi...That is okay...If you want to come here and get information that is OK too.  Whatever your need is all will be respected. You just really never have to be alone crying in the fetal position and someone saying "YOUR CRAZY" ever again  because your not!  Quite on the contrary  your a lovely soul! 

Also  not just girls get sexually molested either  boys and men get molested too! 

That is all I have to say right now but knowing me more is to follow. 

I love you and thank you for stopping by here! 

Very appropriate post.  Thanks, Labelfree! 

It takes courage to put it all out on the table.  To ex[pain how a child really feels when he or she is being abused. 

I wish this post could be posted on DR Phil's Home Page.  Hopefully there will be those who will find this site and find the courage to put a STOP to someone touching them in a bad way, which is sexual abuse. 

My heart and efforts are still with this campaign in a big way.  I believe that we Will move forward and make a difference. 

Remember, "AWARENESS IS OUR MOTTO"  We, as adults need to pay attention to our children while they are young.  We need to slow down, look them in the yes, and see what they are feeling!  The eyes are the window's to one's sole. 

If you look your child in the eyes EVERY DAY, and ask them, how is everything? Or how was your day?... you should see if there is a problem.  All of the studies about facial expressions in response to deception show that the face tells the story!   If that child looks away, shrugs his or her shoulders, looks sad or LOST, then hold them close and ask them what's on their minds.  OR ask them "Is something wrong"?  And even if they deny anything is wrong, which would probably be the case, don't panic, but get to the bottom of the deception in your child's eyes. 

NOTE OF CAUTION: I AM NOT A HEALTH CARE PROFESSIONAL.  I OFFER ONLY MY OPINIONS BASED ON MY EXPERIENCES.  MY WIFE AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 27 YEARS NOW.  AND WE RAISED 3 WONDERFUL CHILDREN.   

But from my perspectives and experiences, if you pay attention, you can see a pattern, or a disturbance in your child's face.  After all, you know your child better than anyone.  Or you should. 

Mothers, fathers, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, neighbors, teachers, preachers, and all others.....Look that child in the eyes and  see if there is something going on that should not be.  If you feel suspicious, I cannot advise you exactly the right thing to do.  But as a parent, I WILL, EVEN TODAY, PROTECT MY CHILDREN FROM HARM. REGARDLESS OF WHAT IT MAY COST ME.   

Contact friends, families, ask questions.  But don't draw dramatic conclusions which could be wrong, but take no chances. 

What I am trying to say is that, for your child to be abused,  there has to be a window of opportunity for someone to do this.  So if you have suspicions, look at any remote possibilities, even if it is family!  And close that window and see what happens.   

Continue to talk to your child, but do not put thoughts or ideas in their heads.  Children are so impressionable.  They will believe anything you tell them. You are their parents.  

BUT! IT IS VERY CRITICAL THAT IF YOUR CHILD IS OR HAS BEEN ABUSED THAT IT IS REPORTED IMMEDIATELY.  IF YOU DENY YOUR CHILD THIS STEP OF PROTECTION, YOU ARE DENYING THEM THE RIGHT TO HEAL.   

I hate to say it, but many times people just let these things go in order to prevent any conflicts in a family or friendship.  In my opinion, I am not sure about the laws, but if you do not report child abuse, you are as guilty as the perpetrator! 

Let's put an end to CHILD ABUSE!  WE HAVE NO ROOM FOR THIS IN OUR SOCIETY.  TO END THIS CONTINUOUS CHAIN OF ABUSE WILL MAKE THIS WORLD A MUCH BETTER PLACE.  BUT MOST OF ALL.    

THINK ABOUT THE CHILDREN. 

May GOD BLESS ALL 

dj