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Nastassia better seriously rethink marrying someone like Richard!  Of course it is only going to get worse!  There is nothing wrong in saving money.  Also I don't believe in putting big money on a wedding, unless you are rich, but please, buying her flowers from a grocery store.  Nastassia better slow down and maybe even consider putting off the wedding for now!  I don't know how long she has known Richard, but he sounds just a little strange.

NCHorseLady

Shane sounds like a jerk from Hell!  Nikki doesn't need to wait 6 to 12 months for him to make up his mind, she needs to go ahead and put his ass out on the street now.  Nikki, you need to get this self-centered idiot out of your life!  RUN FOR YOUR LIFE GIRL!  Don't wait until he has ruined your self-esteem and you end up on antidepressants and a Psychologist's couch.  Mental abuse, which I have been through, is one of the worst things that a man can do to a woman.

NCHorseLady

If Betty doesn't wise up and if Richie doesn't put his foot down there is a good chance that their daughters could be kidnapped, raped, or think that they want sex until it is too late.  Betty sounds like she was raised by "Trailer Trash Parents"!  The girls will probably end up with bad reputations and good familys will not let their children hang around them, which will hurt their daughters.

NCHorseLady

polishgirl,

I know exactly what you are talking about!  My best friend does also.  All her husband would ever do was get drunk and threaten to take their children away, which I told her he would never do.  Her husband just knew that the children were her weak spot.  Her dog sleeps with her every night.  She doesn't have to worry about her husband any more as he died 10 years ago from drinking and partying too much.  I have been married twice.  I didn't learn the first time, I had to go and do it again.  Evidently I love pain.  My animals (horses, a goat, chickens, dogs and cats) are the only things that I get unconditional love from.  If my husband has made me mad, I go ride one of my horses or just hang out in the yard with all of my animals and after a while I feel better.

NCHorseLady

Christine and Kevin:  Kevin needs to realize that he has a wife and a son that should be his top priority.  Christine needs to check on Kevin and make sure that sports is all that he is doing!  Believe me, Kevin, you will regret it when it gets to the point that Christine has had enough and your wife and son leave you.  Your son, although he is very young, needs your attenton and so does your wife!  DON'T WAIT UNTIL IT IS TOO LATE!

NCHorseLady

Re:  Kristy with over 200 Cats

I appauld this lady for trying to take care of this many cats.  I live in Elizabethtown, Bladen County, NC and we have a lady in our County that is called the "Cat Lady".  It is my understanding that she has over 200 cats.  People that are too sorry to take care of their cats will drop them off in front of this lady's house at night time, or even throw the cats over her fence, because everybody knows that she will not let a cat starve.  The Town that she lives in tried to carry this lady to Court, because of neighbors complaining.  At the Town meeting that night she had many people that went with her to support her.  The Veterinarian Hospital that helps her with her cats, the staff and many friends were there.  The Town and the Cat Lady worked out a solution to help her along with the help from the Vet Hospital.  If people were not so sorry and would have their cats spayed or neutered, it would be a major help to our society.  The are so few people in the world today that have any business whatsoever owning an animal of any type.  To own an animal there ought to be a law that reguired that the person must be able to afford to feed, get spayed or neutered, have all shots kept up to date, and most of all "Have A Heart"!  The Government MUST do something to keep all animals protected and to aggressively prosecute those sorry people that do not do so!

Re:  Tiffany and George

If Tiffany has any brain at all she will leave George's ass in the dust!  My first Husband mentally abused me.  He was always talking about how good other women looked.  He loved to make me cry and at times he would grab hold of my fingers and squeeze them so tight until I cried.  I am not trying to brag about myself but I was in good shape and looked good back then and he never wanted to have sex with me.  This hurt my feelings so bad that I eventually started having an affair.  This is the worst thing that I could have ever done.  I wish that I could turn back the hands of time and I would have left his sorry ass before he pushed me to being so stupid as to having an affair!  I had a very low self esteem of myself.  I loved this man so much that it scares me to think what I would have done for him.  When our Daughter was grown and on her own I finally left him.  After I left him I found out about all the affairs that he had out of his own mouth.  Our Daughter never knew the pain that he put me through.  Since I left him in 1994 our Daughter will not have anything to do with me.  She finally allowed me to have her e-mail address and I e-mail her quite often, but never receive an answer.  I carried a bunch of Christmas presents to her Grandma's (Ex-Husband's Mother) house for her, but never received a thank you, or I liked them, or anything.  I just feel like giving up.

I feel sorry for Jennifer, and if her life is really as bad as it sounds, her name may be in the obituary one day soon!  Unless Jeffrey gets help immediately, she better run for her life!!!  I am in a similar situation.

I am in my 50's and I am unemployed.  It is next to impossible to find a good job if you are over 50 unless you have some kind of College Degree.  I can't afford to go to school as my husband is disabled and I am unemployed.  Social Security Disability is not enough for anyone to live off of and that is all we have coming in.  I have to charge my Health Insurance on my credit card, as I am scared to be without Health Insurance.  I live in a small town in southeastern NC, so there are very few jobs around here.  I have been trying to get a job with the State of North Carolina, since they have good benefits and good insurance.  The jobs that I have applied for do not require a college degree and I know that I am qualified because of my 20+ years of experience working for Attorneys.  I have heard people say that if you are over 50 the State of NC will not hire you, unless you have a very impressive degree or know someone with connections.  That is a shame when there is supposed to be a law about Age Discrimination.  Some friends of mine, who are also over 50, say they have the same problem.  The thing is that we are at an age that our children are grown and gone and we are at a point in our lives that we can, want to and would love to find a good job.  We would probably be the most dedicated employees that any Company would ever have.  It seems like most employers want to hire the young, pretty girls that may or may not have a College Degree, but from my experience in working at different places, the people with EXPERIENCE ended up being much more valuable to the employer than the young ones.  The last job that I had, I noticed that all of the young employees had cell phones that they stayed on many times during the day when they were supposed to be working and they had absolutely no respect for the boss whatsoever.   You need to have a Powerful Show about this problem in NC and I am sure that this is probably the same problem in all of the USA!!!

Anyway back to my home problem.  A few months ago my husband put a gun to my head.  I was in total shock and was at a point that I just didn't care if he shot me or not.  If I go to the grocery store, he times me, and if it takes longer than he thinks it should, I catch hell when I get home.  You just wouldn't believe all of the things that I have gone through.  I have nowhere to go to live.  All of my family lives way out of State.  They might would take me in if I asked, but I have always taken care of myself and I am just too ashamed to ask for help.  I was offered a loan to go to school, but I know how hard it would be to pay it back whenever I finished school and maybe finally found a good job, so I am scared to borrow the money.  I have excellent credit and don't want to damage it.  If I just had a College Degree and a good job, I think that I should be able to make it on my own.  There should be some kind of Government help or Private Charities that help people like me!!!

RideSallyRide

NC Horse Lady

I just left a message a few minutes ago.  If anyone out there knows of any Government Agencies or Charities that help my type of problem, Please Reply to my Message!!!   Most Government Agencies that I have talked to are nothing but a bunch of BS!   If you own anything, you can forget getting any help from them.

Thank you!

RideSallyRide

NC Horse Lady