Messages By: celh01

I saw a man for 12 years and he honestly is one of the sickest puppies I have ever met.
We NEVER did marry or live together.
For years I tried to understand, tried to support how he felt about his mom. Tried to believe he himself would see how his Mom in the #1 spot in his life, couldn't work and hoped he would choose me.
I couldn't even speak his mother's name to defend myself.
He would stop me the moment I said "your mother". No matter what it was about.His mom was right and I was wrong.
Becoming some times violently defensive over nothing more than the attempt to defend myself.
He did the same if I tried to say anything regarding his children.Only his Mom could talk about things about them, with him.
I was never allowed to complain even when she had done me wrong.
When he stood up and screamed at me that his mother was a saint and had never done any thing wrong.I knew he had been so conditioned that nothing I could ever say or do, no matter how I tried could undo the boy she had conditioned to respond to only her. She never had to return kindness for kindness..She was critical and mean about me and his two x wives. Behind our backs in front of his children she told the kids their real mother didn't love them, and that I "hated" them. They of course came to feel that way towards me,
When we wanted to do some thing with the kids as a family she always offered some thing better and told them they could do that instead.
He never got angry with her, rather he got angry with me for not countering the offer and finding some thing more fun.Feeling his Mom was only thinking of his children. His question to me was "whats wrong with her wanting her grandkids to have a good time". She was just thinking of them.
The snottier they got the more I was blamed, it was my fault ..His words to me were "you get what you give"
Telling me his mom told him the kids were only treating me like I treated them..
When it got to the point the kids were barely civil to me things went downhill fast.
I was utterly and totally defeated in eveything I said and did, as she interpreted my intentions and they were always presented as some thing less than nice.
I was depicted as jealous of his kids, resentful of their relationship and of wanting things my way all the time.
She raised them with him. Divorced her husband of over 40 years, when I came on the scene and from that point on she was right there ready to do anything and everything for him and his kids.Making herself indispensable and such a "wonderful" help.
Until eventually the kids were just calling the shots and Grandma was involved in every aspect of his personal life.
I found out later that in reality she always had been. As they owned a family business so when his dad passed away it was his Mom he turned to for help. Not me. He started another business and people were told I did not want to be part of it..When in reality I was not allowed..it was between him and her and she worked (and still does) the schedule around the activities of the kids and of hers and never for me.So when I planned some thing low and behold, he was scheduled to make a delivery and couldn't make it .
I let it go on for far too long, making my own excuses..Trying to understand that since she had been raising the kids it was hard to let go.Never thinking that at her age she would actually have no intention of letting go.
Anyway. It was miserable and painful and my self esteem and my ability to function normally myself was effected..I spent so much time frustrated and yelled down and critisized that I could hardly think clearly..it became so infuriating and oppressing.So unfair and such a farce.
anyway I gave up..
The kids are completely dysfunctional and a mess today.
He still runs the business with his Mother the "saint"
THIS is a Mother in law from hell and a mama's boy beyond reality.

I am like everyone else and can not figure out just what in the world is wrong with this Casey Anthony that she is so nonchalant about her missing daughter.
Has anyone ever questioned whether or not she sold this little girl.?
There are people out there that would pay for a child. And the wrong intentions are as upsetting as the good ones.
Are the police looking for the child at all, or assuming she is not alive?
It seems at this point, after all the lies, and that a little girl's life is at the bottom of all of it, that a lie detector test could be forced.
It just seems wrong and so frustrating that she can't be forced to take one.

I disagree with some thing you said.
Casey refuses a lie detector test. One that would get the police off of her and in another direction. She is not being truthful and has been caught in many lies, and so she herself is keeping the police tied up instead of searching for her daughter.
Her parents are now refusing.
It leads people to believe they are all hideing some thing.Any one that refuses a lie detector test puts suspicion on themselves.
Their attorney could get them one through a private agency, they do not have to have the police do it .
They seem like normally intelligent people, so they must know that by refusing they are casting doubt on themselves, and shifting the investigation towards them..
So why are they refusing ?
You are right, the police have drawn the wrong conclusions many times..But their own actions are a big part of why this is happening to them.