Why people get all up in arms about stuff like this!
My husband's mom has her will made out. She just recently did this, AND she had a power of attorney drafted. She had a copy sent to him so that he could see what it said, and asked that he sign it. It made his sister the primary and only required signature on the POA. My husband got VERY upset about all of this, saying that he and his sister should have equal rights on this. I don't agree...because we are thousands of miles away, and his sister lives a few towns over. If something should happen that requires a VERY quick decision, by the time they notified my husband, got his approval/signature, etc, things could go wrong. I think if we were in the same area, it would be different. He thinks that his sister will come in and start taking stuff out of the house before he gets a chance to get there.
It happened to his father, and he's very untrusting of this now. I think that if you can't trust your own mother and sister to do what's right, who can you trust?
We have wills, too. Both of us have different people we want to care for our children. I have it specifically stated that if we both die at the same time, his wishes supercede mine...but should I pass on after him, my will stands. I hope that our kids don't argue, nor do family members, should this ever have to pass.
