Messages By: gjcarr003

From my understanding of the show, her and Lisa have been talking a lot about all of this.  She probably seems a lot calmer than most would be, because it's pretty much all been said before.  I do think she is still in shock.  Did you see her face after Dr. Phil gave his promise as to what all he would do to help find these children?  She was in complete shock.  She kept asking him if he was serious...if he was really going to do everything he just said.  She looked like she didn't believe him!  I pray that those children are safe and returned to their mother very soon.  And I do think Lisa knows something more than what she has said.  This is one of the situations where you almost wish something would happen to her daughter so she really knew what it was like.  I hope she realized that she isn't helping anyone by keeping secrets.  GL to all in helping find these two children. 

I just read something very disturbing on a website about this case. 

"Porter had a history of violence. On Jan. 21, 2004, he held a gun on Tina and forced her to tie her ankles together, and he threatened to kill them both. He pleaded guilty to one count of domestic assault and unlawful use of a weapon and was sentenced to three years’ probation. He also has been convicted of federal firearms violations." 

How could he even still have access to those children just 5 months after doing this???  He is obviously crazed and was willing to do anything!  I feel very bad for Tina, but I'm sorry, he would not be allowed left alone with my children after that.  There is no way! 

This episode is so scary to me.  I know that there are times that I yell and scream at my kids, like after I ask them to do something about 10 times and they still don't, then I yell.  I try not to, and afterwards, when I calm down I go talk to the kids to make sure they are ok and to let them know that I am sorry for yelling and then we talk about what they did that caused me to be upset, then we hug and kiss.  I love my kids, and hate that I do lose it sometimes and it gets taken out on them.  It's not daily, like this woman said, nor is it even weekly...it's just when I get really frustrated with everything else and then they don't listen.  My girls are very spoiled and get away with more than they should...and they are only 10 months, 3 and 4.  Of course, the two oldest are the only ones that get disciplined.  We usually do time-outs.  They get hard sometimes, but being a stay at home mom, it's not always going to be roses, lol.  I know that I am nothing like this woman on the show, but it does scare me that at times, I am a little bit like her.  One thing I am very much against, no matter how upset I get with my children, I refuse to swear or call them stupid or anything like that.  I remember being told that I couldn't do anything right just one time when I was younger, and that still sticks with me.  It only took that one time to hear those words, and I still feel like I can't do anything right.  I don't want my kids to feel that way.   

OK, this turned into a book...part of staying at home 24/7 with little kids, never going anywhere without them, lol. 

I am a 24 yr old stay at home mom of 3 little girls.  The oldest is 4, bron June of 2001.  Then second is 3, born Sept. 2002.  And the baby will be one in just a couple weeks.  My husband is a truck driver, gone all week long...so it is all me, all the time.  I work more and get more stressed now that I am staying home with the kids then when I was working full time.  Luckily, my oldest is now in preschool...but I have to make sure she is up and ready to go, and wait for the bus while still taking care of the other two, and then about 4 hours later I have to keep an eye out for the bus again, while still trying to keep the other two happy.  Some days I get so stressed....usually it is when my husband is home on the weekends....cause he doesn't do anything.  I take care of him, too.  If we decide to go to the store or something, he sits and watches tv while I get the 3 kids ready to go.  Sometimes we argue about it, and it changes for a few minutes, then it starts all over again.  Men just don't understand.  I know he works hard all week long so that I can stay home with our children, but that doesn't mean he can't help out a little bit!  I love him to death, and I love our kids to death, but some appreciation would be nice once in awhile!!   

Anyhow, having three kids so close in age is extremely hard sometimes, but it is also worth it sometimes, too.  They play together, and share toys....and they will all be out of the house about the same time when they are older, lol.