Messages By: jacquee4

Why should Bettie "get along with everyone"? Her sister had an affair with her husband!!!! Can't you see that it was wrong?  Bettie & her husband need to work this out  between the two of them and the mother & sister need to mind their own business!

also her husband is much better since he loves her now and won't cheat. HE HAS CHANGED

Virginia- Get control of yourself, stop being so selfish and one sided before you loose your daughter and grandchildren because of your immature actions and comments. You really need to butt the hell out of their lives and get on with yours!!!!!! Seriously. You are extremely toxic and a major disaster to this family right now. Dont get me wrong, Bettie and John are not perfect and they have numerous marriage flaws but that is in no way any of your business and when you butt in you only make things ten times worse for everyone. Let them handle it regardless what the outcome is and whether you like it or not.

I USUALLY AGREE WITH DR. PHIL.  BUT TODAY,  I JUST DON'T KNOW.  I THINK HE WAS A LITTLE ROUGH ON THE MOM.  IT'S HARD TO BE IN THE MIDDLE OF YOUR 2 CHILDRENS PROBLEMS.  IT'S ALSO HARD TO CARRY THAT KIND OF SECRET.  I THINK THAT DR. PHIL OVERLOOKED THE IDIOT SAVANT TODAY.  DID ANYONE NOTICE THAT ANYTIME THE DISCUSSION LOOKED LIKE IT WAS TO REMIND HIM OF HIS AFFAIR, HE QUICKLY DIVERTED THE ISSUE ELSEWHERE.  HE RE-DIRECTED THE HOT-SEAT TO THE MOM.  I'M NOT SAYING SHE'S TOTALLY RIGHT.  BUT I THINK THAT THIS IDIOT HAS FOOLED DR. PHIL AND THE THERAPIST.  I THINK  ALLS NOT HAPPY AT HOME WITH THEM TWO EITHER.  DR. PHIL SEEMED TO OVERLOOK THE CLAPPING AND JOYOUS REMARKS FROM THE IDIOT SON-IN-LAW EVERYTIME HE THOUGHT MOM WAS BEING CRITICIZED.  I DON'T KNOW BUT I THINK HE IS CONTROLLING AND ABUSIVE.  I'VE SEEN  THIS BEFORE AND IT'S OBVIOUS EVEN ON THE WIFES FACE.  LIKE I SAID,, I MAY BE WRONG,  BUT I DON'T THINK I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO SEEN DR. PHIL TAKE SIDES TODAY.  SORRY DR. PHIL,,, I THINK THIS IDIOT HAS EVEN YOU FOOLED.  WATCH THE TAPE.  LOOK CLOSELY AT THE CLAPPING FOOL.

Ther's nothing more to say.. you are rite-on.  I know that therapy is a helpful tool, but the part about denial is being overlooked here.  And, you are 100% on target with Bettie's attitude toward her mother.  One minute, she wasn't involved enough, the next, she's meddling.  Maybe if Bettie didn't marry this beauty, she'd never know how terrible her mother is.  So nice when a person marries into a family and blows it all to hell...THEN BLAME THE MOTHER!  I wonder why some marriages stay together, with so much negativity, and others that have so much going for them, break up over much less than this.  Go figure, but I had to tell you how I loved your post.

Megan,

I registered on this message board today just to let you know that you really touched me!  I think you are simply beautiful and extremely talented.  Your story touched me because I felt used and abandoned by my mother and I would have described my mother very similar to the way you described yours.  Today I am married and the mother of 5 children aged between 13 and 25.  My daughter is 19.  Thing is, at my point in life, I know that when you hate people as much as you seemed to hate your mother (because I too could have cared less whether my mother was alive or dead), the negative attitude is really detrimental to you and all your future relationshipsthat includes coworkers, bosses, neighbors, friends, family, spouse, and children.  I am still working through my issues so that I can have the best relationship possible with my own children and spouse.  I've lightened up on my mother because I think she did do the best she could at the time (even if she was not as good a parent as I think she should have been) and I live my life my own way.  You owe it to yourself to work through your feelings and come to some kind of peace so you can enjoy your life to the fullest.  I would love to hear more of your music!!  Take it one step at a time.  Im rooting for you!

Wishing you peace and recovery,

Cindy