Messages By: kendyf

Quote From: jettav

personally, i would want nothing to do with a person like this, if he has cheated otehrs out of their money, he will do the same with you. now, I do believe a person can change and all, but if he has complete control of the money, and has these type of secrets, I say get out while you can, don't fool your self.

Quote From: strodek

 

I just want to say from experience that parents are way too pushy with their kids when it comes to "making them a star".  We had an experience with one of our sons who at a very young age was a phenonemal baseball player.  Upmires would come up to him after games and talk to him.  He was always small until about the 11th grade, but beginning at age 8, he started playing with older kids, and not "sissy" little league (I'm not calling little league "sissy", that is what the "SELECT" baseball coaches called it.  Well, we got sucked into this fast paced world of "SELECT" baseball, and my son even won a World Series at the age of 10, and then came in second place at another world series at age 13.  BUT, it was not worth it.  Not only were we shelling out money we didn't have, and always out soliciting sponsorships, but our son was EXPECTED to make phenonemal plays.  The "great" plays were not enough!  I remember watching other players' parents on the bleachers sitting there hoping their son didn't make ONE mistake, and if they did, everyone in the bleachers on both sides could hear the parent angrily yelling at their kid.  (that is just stupid).  And our children know, they know if we are not happy with their performance.  Beginning at very young ages, our kids just want to please us.  Our son still plays ball a lot and he enjoys it.  He can pitch 90 miles an hour, BUT he doesn't.  In high school, he said he missed "PLAYING" baseball.  It wasn't "fun" anymore.  If he played a "perfect" game, there was always something else he should have done better.  And also, our kids were expected to take "private lessons" if they were in select baseball.  I know of parents that paid hundreds of dollars "EVERY" week.  I take full responsibility for my part (being too pushy and always telling my son how to be better).  Some of the parents on our team had horrible attitudes.  I stopped buying my son the "Baseball is Life" t-shirts, because it is NOT.  I remember one of the first tournaments that we had "boy pitch".  My son pitched the first three innings (that was the maximun at his age, and then his good friend came in and pitched the last three innings.  We were leading 5-3 in the last inning with two outs.  The other team had 2 runners on base, and their #9 hitter (this tiny little kid) came up to the plate and hit his first home run and we got beat 6-5.  My son ran up to his father and I and said, "mom and dad, can I have "2" hotdogs????  But most of the other boys AND THEIR PARENTS were crying!!!  If we would have won, we would have gotten to travel and play in a "real tournament".    My point is (and by the way, the boy that was pitching and gave up the winning homerun,   he cried and was upset for a long time an  blamed  himself for the loss.  He now is playing for the Astros and played with them at Spring Training in Kissimmee this past Spring) and so like I said my point is that we all need to "calm down" and let our kids have fun. I remember very specifically in one tournament when we were ahead by one run, and the other team had the bases loaded with "NO" outs.  They brought in my son to pitch.  He had a huge grin on his face as he struck out the side and we won the game!  And it was because he was having fun, and had the confidence, and was just "playing" baseball.   I was probably one of the worst parents, always wanting my son to do better, while in fact he was "SO" good, and I never slowed down and shared with him more positive than negative comments.  Eventually, the stress caught up to him.  The huge smile that was always on his face had been replaced with stomache aches before games.   When our children make mistakes (in ball games, or in gymnastics, or whatever they do) don't you know that they aleady know it?????   What they really need is an icecream from TCBY instead of more private lessons.    I wish we could go back and start over again, and not have let so much pressure be put on our son.  I remember the morning when the coach called and told us that some of the parents had a problem with our son "always" having to leave for church.  (We go to church 2 hours on Sunday morning and 1 hour Sunday night, and then 1  hour on Wednesday night).   The coach said he personally did not have a problem, but several of the parents did.  I gladly told him that he had just helped me and my husband make a decision that we had been struggling with WAY TOO LONG.  Our reply was, then our son can't play with yall, but thanks for everything.  My son is now  21 and when he goes and plays ball, he is really fun to watch.  He'll catch a fly ball in centerfield bare handed, or climb the fence and rob someone of a homerun, or throw someone out from centerfield that is trying to tag up and score.  After the games, there are always guys that come up to him and ask him if he ever played pro ball.  He just smiles and says "no".  I'm just happy that he is having fun ---- something that we should have made sure happened many years ago.  SO for you parents that are just starting out, PLEASE HEAR ME, don't fall into the same thing we did.  It is NOT worth it to your child or your relationship with your child.  Let you kid have fun, because one day some stupid game won't even matter.   But how you loved your kid will!   And by making your child be subject to angry, degrading, & cussing coaches is not at all appropriate or okay!   Good Luck, and I'm happy if just ONE person listens. 

Quote From: luckylady3

I live with my fiance and have been for about 2 years- we've been together for three years.  I leave my bills and pay stubs out- he knows what debts I have and how much money I make- but he is extremely secretive.   I've asked him to be more open about it - he says he'll try- he hasn't- and that for him money is tied to pride and his sense of self-worth and he has a hard time talking about it.  I've seen some docs (via some snooping which began accidentally, then the curiosity got the best of me) which shows he owes the IRS thousands of dollars and how much he made a couple years back.  He doesn't know that I know about this.  He bounces checks frequently- those little slips from the bank that come in the mail are unmistakable.   I think I make about twice what he does and i know he probably feels shy about his financial situation.  At what point does it become my business?  Now that we're engaged, or only once we're married?  I feel for you and your situation; I think as your relationship becomes more serious you have an increased right to know, but I'm not sure exactly where to draw that line.  I will say though that if you're not engaged, and don't share any financial responsibilities, you don't have a right to know just yet.  But I can't say for sure where to draw the line.  I also wonder if I'm being too nosy since we're not yet married....  any suggestions for me to encourage him to share?  Do I tell him what I know? 

  

  

Quote From: metalchic6969

I absolutely agree with you. I already posted my message but I was wondering if I ws the only other person that thought there was something going on between Heidi and Amy...or Heidi and brandon.

Quote From: davia77

i'm really sad that Britney has to be under the camera 24/7.....Britney is a good mommy and maybe she is going through some hard times right now but people are making a huge deal out of it. she is human and its sad  her every move is being watched....poor gal cant even pick her nose without someone making a headline saying "britney put drugs up her nose" when all she was doing was picking a lil boogy LOL ..GET OVER IT PEOPLE.....Britney will be fine and she will get her boys back soon......and 1 more thing... Kevin is making such a big deal about getting Jayden and Sean but is he ever with his other 2 kids by Shar Jackson??

Quote From: kellydr19

My question is "Why did Britney not comply with any of the Judges orders except the one to turn her boys over?"

Quote From: dougharvey

I cannot claim to speak for my race a whole, but many of my black friends view the OJ trial and the aftermath events as typical of white America's perception of black men as boogie men.  It was about a white woman being victimized and a black man being the culprit.  The victimization of a white woman by a black man historically invokes fear and anger from whites in our society and frustration and dispair from blacks.  If this would have happened barely 50 years ago, OJ would have been hanged before the facts were even argued at trial.  Thank God for progress.

 

I personally think that OJ is innocent, at least there is definitely reasonable doubt that he is guilty.  For this book, I believe he pulled deeply from his imagination to help develop it.  He's had over 10 yrs to think about it and like most best-selling authors, he brought forward a provocative tale to sell the book.  I know that actors have the talent to bring out emotions to make their performances come to life and feel real to the audience.  Why couldn't he have done that for this book?  Plus, who would read a book from OJ about how he didn't do it.? The 1st trial has already accomplished that.  Plus, according to the show, his children signed off on it.  If his kids (they are adults now) believe that their father is innocent of the murder of their mother, why can't the rest of America?

 

Clearly the author is biased.  Certainly today on Dr. Phil, we only heard one side of the story.  If Dr. Phil could bring on OJ or his children, it would be great to hear the whole story.   

 

My heart and prayers go out to the Goldman and Brown families for their losses.  I pray that the Goldman's pursuit of vindication leads them to the love of Jesus.  No one should have to live which that much hate in their hearts for another person. 

Quote From: jeichor1

Many years ago--back in 1965 I was accused by an exwife of being the "Other woman" although they had been separated for many years. and I met him in Iowa--she lived in Maryland  I watched the man I loved give his son to the other man.--he signed adopten papers  Jack and I were happilly married for 32 years and have a wonderful daughter and 2 Grands and recently a Great Grand--and still the exwife is the one my in-laws gave care to--hey--it happened,  I still hurt over the way I was treated..  I had romances that did not work well when I was single--doesn't everyone?  But for all these years of a good marriage I have heard "You don't know how hurt she  was(cannot remember her name)  I think carrying a hurt hurts only you.  I think her name was Betty--she stole his son, and hurt him so much--he never forgot--or stopped loving his son--he-Jay was always within his heart.  I believe that he was betrayed by his ex--using Jay-my step son whom I have never met--I no longer have a relationship with Jack's sister--and no longer care to--when he was dying he said "I do not know her anymore--when did she become God"--