I got pregnant by date rape at the age of 15. Twenty-three years later the child from that tragedy found me.
She was given confidential State information illegally by a "birth angel," information that was not available to me through legal routes.
She emailed me, and I responded. I shared stories, medical information and family history. I told her of the pain involved in the pregnancy, as well as the birth and adoption process. I also told her that I was NOT able to be her mother, that I had given birth to her, but that was where my involvement ended. I was a mother to two children now, just as she was a daughter to her parents. Our lives, though connected at a moment in time, had been separated and gone separate ways. This, unfortunately, was not what she had dreamed of.
She threatens to contact family members, to appear in my hometown and make inquiries. She states she has a right to know the people involved in my life. I've had to retain an attorney to pursue legal avenues should she persist in her threats.
I'm sorry she did not have the relationship she felt she deserved from her mother. I'm sorry her life is so miserable that she feels the need to enter mine. The day I gave her up for adoption, I only wished her good things and that wish continues today.
Reunions are NOT always peaches and cream. Please.....think the decision regarding opening the doors of reunion through very, very carefully.
