All I can say is OH MY GOD........I sat and watched this show today with my heart in my throat, ready to throw up in my lap. My former MIL and FIL were just like this pair I saw today. I sat and watched this show and completely relived my past all over again.
My ex-husband was a drunken, heartless jerk and when I left him, my MIL actually said to me, "We'll see who gets _______(insert my sons name there) you or me". And that was exactly what she set out to do. All during my short marriage and after I left her son, she could never get me to buckle under to her and let her control me and so I was always punished for it. After I left her son, I had 7 years of PURE HELL, fighting for custody of my OWN CHILD against my ex in-laws. My ex MIL impersonated me at my sons clinic to get a daycare form signed for when "she got custody of my son". She went to my childs doctor and told them I was starving him! The things I could tell you.........I could go on and on for days. When my son would go there to visit, she would immediately change his clothes when he came through the door because my clothes, which were brand name btw, weren't good enough. She would cut his hair without my permission in a style that SHE preferred. She would hide my sons stuffed animals and toys that he brought with him. She would NEVER allow my son to speak to me on the telephone, even during 2 week long summer visits. It was horrible. Those people did SO much damage to my son. THANK GOD, when he was 7 his father's right were finally taken away and I found a therapist and a judge who would FINALLY listen to my son and not everyone else involved. The grandparents visits were eventually stopped, too. Thankfully, my son is now a happy and healthy 22 year old with no recollection of those dark days.
And to anyone who thinks the judges and the "system" will help. I say, GOOD LUCK! I had SO many corrupt judges for nearly 7 long years. Male judges that sided with my ex simply because they thought he was the poor discriminated against father. Judges that heard over and over the things that he and his family did to harm my son and they STILL continued to give him visitation. My ex in-laws also came up with crap over and over that they said my son supposedly told them about me. It was all lies. I need to remember to continue to thank God every day for finally rescuing my son from those people. I shudder to think what kind of person he would be today had he grown up with them.
The whole time Randy was sitting in the audience, I just kept thinking he was exactly like my ex FIL. SO filled with hate because he can't control his ex DIL and the entire situation. He totally strikes me as a control freak, not a caring and loving grandfather. He only seems to care about winning, NOT about what's best for his granddaughter. I wonder if he's ever even asked his GD if she wants to leave her mother and live with them. From what I saw on the tapes on the show, those girls don't look like they want to leave their mother.
As to what they are saying about Michele and her actions at home in front of her children. NONE of what they said made sense to me. I was so glad when Dr. Phil said he likes to tear things like that down or however he put it. Let's say Michele was so desperate for money that she had to prostitute herself out, which I don't believe she did, WHY in the world would she come home and say anything about it to her girls??? That made absolutely NO sense to me. And the My Space thing.......having a My Space page doesn't make you a bad parent. While I would not care for her having naked pictures of herself on there if she did, and I don't think she did, it's not like she's sitting there showing her My Space page to her kids and discussing it with them! I think these in-laws are just LOOKING for things to pin on her, grasping at whatever bit of dirt they can come up with. Mine did the same thing to me.
To the in-laws, for what good it will do, PLEASE just stop your hatred of your DIL!! STOP IT NOW! For the good of your grandchildren, PLEASE put your hate aside and go on with your lives. Your DIL seems like a decent and loving mother to me. I'll tell you the same thing I told my ex in-laws. You've raised your child/children! If you want more then adopt some, but LEAVE this poor woman and her children alone. You are DAMAGING these children.
To Michele, I have lived what you are living and I made it through. Just keep fighting for your kids and don't give up. I'll be praying for you and your children.
Blessings,
Lisa
