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September 20, 2007, 8:05 am PDT

Dr Phil is wrong!

I think Dr. Phil is wrong about Joan. I was shocked that he implied that she was the one that needed help! I think her family are the ones needing sensitivity training along with manners classes. I am constantly reminding my family about their manners and they are doing the same things as Joan's household! Dr. Phil, would you sign me up too!?
 
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October 29, 2008, 5:39 pm PDT

20%?

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i have to say i think in this show not every point of view has been considered. Dr. Phil said that only 20 % of transgendered children grow up to be transgendered adults, but he didnt mention that a huge percentage of transgendered adults say they knew from a very young age that they were different. That 20% that does grow up to be transgendered makes up about 90% of the population of transgendered adults. I dont think Dr Phil showed that side at all. i hate to say it, but in this show Dr Phil let his own conservative beliefs shade his questioning. I think a transgendered adult should have been added to the conversation. So much of the conversation was based on discussion of how or what the child would grow up to be, & i think a first-hand opinion from a happy, healthy transgendered adult would have added an important side to the debate.
 also, i don't believe bringing David Reimer into this particular discussion is appropriate. He was raised as the opposite sex without his knowledge or consent, because of an accident that destroyed his penis as a baby. He never professed to feel differently than the sex he was born with, as the children in this show did. it is a completely different subject.

      Dr. Phil said that only 20 % of transgendered children grow up to be transgendered adults!

Where did this stat come from? I have been intimately involved with the transgender community for over 5 years now and I have never heard these numbers. I have also never heard of Dr Daniel Seigel, who was on the show today. (Don't want to know the other religion guy.)

My support and information comes from Dr. Virgina Erhardt, Ph.D. (http://www.virginiaerhardt.com )and from the Southern Comfort Conference(SCC) in Atlanta in the fall each year. 

Dr Phil, . . .now that's something worth looking into.

 
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October 29, 2008, 5:54 pm PDT

Where did this stat come from?

      Dr. Phil said that only 20 % of transgendered children grow up to be transgendered adults!

Where did this stat come from? I have been intimately involved with the transgender community for over 5 years now and I have never heard these numbers. I have also never heard of Dr Daniel Seigel, who was on the show today. (Don't want to know the other religion guy.)

My support and information comes from Dr. Virgina Erhardt, Ph.D. (http://www.virginiaerhardt.com )and from the Southern Comfort Conference(SCC) in Atlanta in the fall each year. 

Dr Phil, . . .now that's something worth looking into.

 
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October 29, 2008, 6:16 pm PDT

We Should talk

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  I am married to a cross dresser. I have trouble dealing with this. He didn't tell me this until after our first child was born.  Then it became very difficult to be intimate because once he told me, he was very uninhibited and even took off what I had on and put it on himself during sex so he could climax.  I felt very unsexy, and was devastated.  How can i compete with my clothes? He would then have the guilt attacks and couldn't even face me. We have an understanding now. He has friends who do the same thing and he gets together with them 3-4 times a year.  I just don't want to see him when he is dressed as a woman.  I love him dearly but cannot endure intimacy with him. It is too painful for both of us.  He loves me too and I am sure he is not gay. But I do fear that some day he will decide to truly "cross over".  He says this is not that he wants to change his sex  but that he just feels more comfortable dressed as a woman. Is that possible?  Or is he still suffering from gender confusion? I know I have blinders on but its the best way I know to deal with this.

Dear Choirmouse,

I also found out about my husband's crossdressing after we were married. I was very hurt, confused and overwhelmed. I understand what you are saying. The best thing I ever did was go to therepy with my husband, but it needs to be with right person who is a specialist and can answer your questions. Your husband might need to learn to communicate better wth you about his needs and you should also set boundries. My support and information comes from Dr. Virgina Erhardt, Ph.D. (http://www.virginiaerhardt.com ) and from the Southern Comfort Conference(SCC) in Atlanta in the fall each year.  Dr Virginia's book, Head Over Heels is excellent. Many husband's and wives go to SCC together and there is a wives group called The Comfort Zone. It has been a blessing to me and our marriage.( http://www.sccatl.org/comfortzone.htm) I wouldn't let my husband meet with his crossdressing friends without me. We should talk.

Cyndi

 

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