Messages By: mswing10

I also felt the experiment was flawed for those reasons.  I know that it happens though...sure of it.   

It did surprise me to hear Dr Phil's comment in the end about how he looked perverted.  Kind of unkind and totally what the show was about. 

Just watching the preview made me so sad.  If this is just a few moments of abuse in that girl's life, image how far it really goes.   

One thing it made me conscious of is my own mouth.  Gosh, we have to be so careful how we talk to our kids and not react...just respond.  For example, my three year old is a very touchy girl...this is her way of expressing and receiving love.  But sometimes her little uncoordinated arms and legs cause pain and she doesn't realize it.  Today, I tripped on something she had left out  and really hurt my leg.  i was holding her at the time and rather than do my usual yelping and yes, sometimes yelling...I just sucked it up and kept holding her telling her it wasn't her fault - man it hurt! 

So, this lady may be too late to learn her lesson...but we as moms and dads can learn from her and curtail our "outbursts" more.   

I'm fairly certain that a man of his common sense would be conscious of this.  And, if this happens, I don't think it is necessary for him to personally clean it when someone can be hired to do this.  Your post sounds a lot like  a "not in my neighborhood" rant.  Maybe you should get out there and help some people and really get the sense of what it feels like to lift someone up when they need it the most.  Will there be people who take advantage of this...of course.  However, if you help one person to help themselves - it totally makes it worth it.   

There's nothing wrong with feeding your child in public by breastfeeding...but I also think you should be sensitive to other people's feelings about pulling out your breast and not covering up.  I had no issue doing this and no one ever had an issue with me.  In fact, I got quiet a few smiles from other mothers who understood and were thankful that the baby's crying stopped.   

Trick I learned.  When you are out shopping, you don't have to go to the bathroom.  Ask politely to use the dressing rooms where you can sit quietly in private without being in a disgusting bathroom.  A toilet has one purpose, to rid ourselves of waste - not supply nutrition.  There are also nursing aprons that work great in restaraunts.   

I've found some of the comments on this board to be very judgemental.  Being a parent is very hard work, and an almost impossible task to get perfect if you've had poor parenting in the past yourself.  These people have come to the show for help (even Gotti).  Do you think they want their kids to do this?  This is not how they dreamed it would be. 

All they asked for was help and tips.  These parents want to do better and should be commended for recognizing the problem and asking for direction.   

So, if you are a parent with perfect kids...congratulations.  Use your knowledge to help in a kind way - or not at all.   

Personally, I think it is great that you aren't pushing it too hard, but the bad behavior is unacceptable.   If I had that issue, I'd lay down the law on the poop smearing stuff.   

Give her the wash rag and show her how to clean it.  Then warn her that if she does this again, she will lose a toy.  She can earn it back if she doesn't do it for a day or two.  It is not ok to do this at all and consequence would be appropriate here.  IMO 

2 years old could be too young.  So I wouldn't stress about it.   

You might try inviting another mom and her kid who has potty training down over to the house for the afternoon.  Explain to the mom that you are trying to potty train and would like her help.  Just have her kid use the potty and have her lavish praise on him/her.  They use that in some daycares effectively.  The kids "model" the good behavior (not literally - the the reaction later from the provider).