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December 11, 2006, 8:03 pm PST

Pet peeve about Christmas

I love Christmas and the idea of sharing gifts and love.  But I have a peeve about people sending x-mas lists of gifts they'd like.  I love buying surprise gifts.  Gifts that say...hey, I thought alot about you and am hoping you'll like this present i selected. 
 
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December 13, 2006, 7:39 pm PST

Where did that come from?

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So Val has eleven kids and she mistreats them! Why did she have all these children if she lacks the kind of love, patience or knowledge required to be a good parent? Has she heard about birth control? Or the population problem in the world? Unfortunately, many people who have the most children are the least equipt to properly care for them. We need education about birth control and the financial and emotional impact of having more than two children in this country! I worked at an agency where children were at risk of abuse (and at the poverty level), and every single parent had four to five children! It's been said before, but we need parenting education in our schools!
She doesn't mistreat them at all - how did you get that from this show? 
 
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December 13, 2006, 7:44 pm PST

Get a grip

To the lady who cannot let go of her husband's error in clothing choice - get a grip lady.  I read a post tonight about a woman who buried her child on Christmas and she managed to turn it around and be an inspiration.  What is wrong with you that you cannot see your incrediable selfishness? 

If you hate it so much, why don't you try to capture some spirit by helping others during this season.  Giving of yourself, your time, your money is the true spirit of this season.  You don't want a tree in your house?  How about buying a small one and bringing it to a local women's shelter and giving it to a women who's been beaten and has children to support alone? 

I don't blame your husband one bit for his non-gift attitude.  You owe him a huge apology for your selfishness.

 
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December 13, 2006, 7:48 pm PST

You are the gift

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I too hate Christmas but not for the same reasons as your first show guest but I dread every second that bring me closer to Christmas.  U, Dr. Phil have the resources to enjoy Christmas.  U CAN AFFORD TO LIGHT LIGHTS AND NOT WORRY ABOUT YOUR UTILITY BILL; U CAN AFFORD TO GIVE NICE SIGNIFICANT GIFTS AND TO CHARITIES AT THIS TIME (I CANNOT AND IT IS NOT GIFTS I WANT TO RECIEVE; IT IS THOSE I WANT TO GIVE TO MY ELDERLY AUNTS AND MY KIDS AND MY GRANDKIDS AND MY COLLEAGUES AND MY FRIENDS AND MY CHURCH MEMBERS AND SO ON AND SO ON.)  U can afford to have the meal that u want to have - while I am making a scrimpy Kroger list and wondering if I will have enough in my paycheck of Dec 22nd to even do that or do I put meds first?  U can travel at the holidays in your private jet or nice car while my sweet little Ford tempo hopefully (Please Lord) will keep going and maybe I will have enough gas left for at least church services.  I love the carols but I hate the holidays!  ABSOLUTELY HATE HATE HATE THEM.  I am sad, depressed, broke, 'po' and very dissalusioned at the commercialism of it all.  I only tolerate Christmas because everyone else is so happy and I know that Jesus is true reason for the season.  My grandson asked for Leggos but there will be no Leggos from Granny.  He asked for a movie - we will see but but will I have to sacrifice that is truly needed to even do that ? OF COURSE YOU LOVE CHRISTMAS but get off you high horse and enjoy your holidays and remember all of those who do not and cannot and will not even in the future.  Will ya?  We are not a minority here, those that hate Christmas.  I can hardly wait for December 26th to get here but at least this year I have had the good sense to stay on my antidepressants and surround myself with my church activities and perhaps will not have to attempt to sleep until Dec 26th and then get up happy that day.  Get a grip Doc! 

Sincerely.  S. Elaine

Don't underestimate yourself grandma - you are the gift here.  Even though you're cranking on the Christmas thing, it really sounds like you are a nice lady and those grandkids love you anyway.  Try to re-frame Christmas and make it YOUR holiday of love - just that - just love.  I know if you are poor it's hard to move past the commercialism, but you're a big girl now.  YOu are capable of being bigger than your bitterness. 
 
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August 25, 2007, 5:15 pm PDT

Contemplating! What is there to think about here?

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I have been married to the same man for 23 years and have two children. My children have been bullied by their own dad. He has called them names and occasionally gotten overly aggressive with them. I have had to step in on more than one occasion to stop what he was doing. I think on the part of my husband the bullying goes back to how he was treated as a child. His mother was abusive both verbally and physically. It is hard to stay married to someone who wants to bully his way through life. I just have to bully him back when he gets out of line and straighten him back out. I have contemplated divorce many times because of his bullying behavior.

This is a no brainer here.  Who cares about his childhood?  What is it in you that would make you stay with someone who is abusive to you and your children? 

Men like this make me sick, but the mothers who stay make me even more sick.  I cannot imagine even tolerating this for a day, much less 23 years.  Stop looking at him and take a good look at yourself.  You are the abuser here too - any women who stands by it and watches should be held as accountable as the father. 

 

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