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November 1, 2005, 4:52 am PST

I Agree

Quote From: dianac

I think that Parker is an ungrateful kid. It is one thing to whine to get things that he wants but it is another thing that he uses his mothers illness to get those things. Really Parker, do you think that she planned on getting sick and not having anymore children just to make you lonely. Give me a break. If you were in my house, you would have a bed and a clock, AND you would be grateful for that. I think that you should take Dr. Phil's advise about using his belongings as currency. Take them all away and give one piece back at a time when he proves that he deserves them. If he is going to act like a small child than treat him like a small child. 

If he's going to act like a baby, than treat him like one.  I think Dori needs some help also.  All she did was sit a giggle.  That drove me.  She made herself look like a fool, plus to admit that the only reason he went was to see what he would get?  Nuts.  She may think her son is precious, but I found him obnoxious.
 
November 1, 2005, 10:18 am PST

I Agree Totally

Quote From: sb1119

My husband had nothing when I married him.  He is now a self made multimillionaire due to an incredible work ethic, brains and a bit of luck.  So we ARE able to give our kids everything they want.  But we DON'T and guess what?  I do not feel one iota of guilt because I know that by not giving in to all of their material desires, I am actually taking care of them better than the ridiculous moms on this show.  It is absolutely a disservice to your children to give give give.  They couldn't possibly appreciate the value of a dollar and the work that goes on behind that money if they do not work for some of the things they want.  When humans don't ever do without they become unable to appreciate what they have.  I am not saying that you should make your children go without food for a week so that they have compassion for the hungry or wear tattered clothes so that they empathize with the poor, but they should be taught how to control their buying impulses, how to plan and save for something special.  They will have a much greater sense of achievement the day they can point to their new x-box and tell their friends, "I bought this myself!"  They should be told NO from time to time so that they get the sense that the world does not turn on their wants and desires and that sometimes they will be disappointed in life but learn that they can and do get over those disappointments.  Our girls are expected to give some of their allowance at the end of the year to a charity of their choice.  They spend a lot of time researching this every year and it means so much more for them to do this themselves with their own money so that they get a feel for sacrificing some of their own funds for the greater good of their fellow man.  They are getting practice in the art  of giving at an early age.  It would mean very little to them to know that Mom and Dad donated funds to whatever in their name.  Big deal. 

  

What we never skimp on is spending time with our kids.  They benefit from that so much more than a TV, phone, or computer in their room (not happening in our home).  We are giving them a great education and we go on some great vacations.  We allow them to play club sports (expensive) because they get great lessons in teamwork and they learn how hard you have to work to be successful.  They learn about goal setting and how you truly only get back what you are willing to give.  They get so much more out of these experiences than any material thing could ever give them.  

  

Neither daughter has ever had a designer purse or shoes.  They wear uniforms to school and have a decent but modest after school wardrobe. But you will never meet two happier teens.  They never complain or whine or demand because they learned from the very beginning that this behavior does not yield results. 

  

So next time your kid wants the latest doodad say NO but do not say   "I can't afford it."  Tell them they don't need this item but perhaps they could save their allowance or work it off by doing odd jobs for you around the house or at work...AND DON'T FEEL GUILTY!!!! 

My husband I are in the same boat with you and can more than afford to give our children anything they want.  I never started this when they were young and continued to keep the same rule throughout their childhood.  Even though we could afford to make their college life easy, they both got jobs and worked while attending college.  It didn't hurt them one bit and I know they appreciate everything they have due to it.  They have never begged for anything.  When Parker said "you can afford it", I wanted to scream.  There are parents who will put themselves in debt to keep up with the Jones's or to just ward off a scene.  I would take everything away from that kid.  What happened to RESPECT?
 
November 2, 2005, 4:29 am PST

Followup

I would like to see a followup show on this to see if the parents toughened up and started to PARENT their children.  I would love to know if after the show aired, Dori saw what all of us did.
 
November 3, 2005, 2:06 pm PST

Good Point

Quote From: judyblue22

My husband and I will NEVER forgive or forget what these horrible people did, they robbed us of the most important day of our life.  

  

That is sure extreme language! Your wedding day was the most important day of your LIFE?? Are you kidding me??   Our wedding day was nice and all but it sure wasn't the highlight of our lives together.  Not even close.  It wouldn't even make the top twenty days of our life together so far (28 years) and we plan on being married another 50 years if we live so long.  I hope  that in the end it will barely hit the top 100. 

  

It is a choice you are making not to ever forgive your husband's family.  You have made a decision to hug all of your anger and bitterness instead of people.  That is sad for you, but even more sad for your husband because they are his people. 

At the time, people think the wedding is the most important thing.  I loved my wedding day, but it was our children and family that made our memories.  There are too many people that put more emphasis on the wedding and not the marriage.  In saying that, I do feel bad that the couple felt that had to take that drastic of a stance.  Maybe they know more than we and know she would have done or said something.  Either way, it is a sad situation and hope that they take Dr. Phil's advice and let this pass.  

 
November 4, 2005, 9:32 am PST

Good Point

Quote From: bixxli

I was disappointed Dr. Phil didn't question the Aunt more.  Wasn't she truly the one who was gossiping and causing trouble?  If the mother was escorted from the wedding then the Aunt should have been also.  Theresa needs to smarten up and her new husband Steve needs to stand up to her.  I never thought I would be on the side of the mother in law as I have had problems with my own mother in law.  However, she is still my husband's mother and whether she likes me or not is no never mind to me.  I am polite we get along it's not like I live with her.  I could not come between my husband and his mother. 

  

Theresa seems to be very manipulative, selfish and immature.  I wonder how she would feel if her husband left her after many years of marriage.  If she doesn't shape up her marriage is destined to fail sooner or later.  She really made me angry. 

I agree with you.  It was the Aunt that went back and started the trouble for what the mom "supposably" said.  I like the Dr. Phil told Theresa to not come between a mother and son and vice versa to the mom.  This might come back to bite the dauther-in-law, as she may be controlling him now, but things may change. 
 
November 17, 2005, 10:07 am PST

Who's the Boss?

My main problem with these people is it seems like the kids are running the parents.  The parents say it is what the kids want, but hello?  How old are these kids.  When the one family is being put in debt because of it, or they are begging grandma for money, I think it needs to end or cut it back a bit.  That mother bugged me.  It's like Dr. Phil said, it's like the tail wagging the dog, but I don't think she was bright enough to catch on what he was saying.  Thank god the little girl has an aunt who cares.   

  

The mom with the singer, seemed mean.  I know that we only see what is an edited version, but the father pretty much came right out and said if she sucks, he tells her.  I found him to be a bit of a wimp when it comes to what the wife wants.   

  

I hope they both have put some money away for counseling.   

 
November 17, 2005, 10:11 am PST

Just Asking

Quote From: cablekidz

Geez, lady (I'm assuming you're a lady.)   Surely you'd flunk the interview portion in a pageant if that was your response to "What do you think about the posts regarding pageants on this board?"   A couple of other posters had me convinced that pageants could be a fun, positive experience for kids in the hands of responsible adults.  In my opinion, your judgmental comments reinforce the notion that in the wrong hands it can be about a bunch of snotty, catty women getting together to judge other snotty, catty women's kids.
I am glad to hear that there are several things that they are judged on, as I feel if it were just looks, some of them are going to have a sad reality in their future.
 
November 18, 2005, 4:27 am PST

I Agree

Quote From: drumcat77

This topic has become one pathetic excuse after another of why "My child LOVES to do what he/she is doing no matter HOW hard I'm pushing/not pushing them"!! 

  

Watching this episode of Dr. Phil was tough -- if ONLY for the 9-year-old country "singer" girl's parents.  What an embarrassing display of pure defensive, clueless, downright arrogance!!  

  

WHY even go on this show if you're not going to even attempt to listen to Dr. Phil???  Every response to any of his questions were answered with, "Well, NO... it's not like that...."    

  

I'm sorry, but VIDEO doesn't lie!   The mother was just horrible  in how she talked to her daughter !!  Absolutely, positively HORRIBLE!!! 

  

Get a clue!!  I truly feel sorry for this young girl to have such defensive morons for parents!!    

  

Way to go!   

  

I don't know why these people go on there, they feel they aren't doing anything wrong and you can tell have this wall built up.  I'm sure in their minds, they are thinking FREE EXPOSURE.  Hello?  She's 9.  She may do okay, but look at the price she is paying.  I was equally annoyed with the father as well, especially when he said that he is going to tell his daughter how her performance was..no matter what.   I won't even start on the beauty pagent mom.  She will be living in the poor house and won't be smart enough to know why.   I like the one suggestion that a viewer said about hiring a talent expert for their child.  Let them decide if they are talented enough to do these things.  Most of all, who is the parent here?  I felt the worst for the 9 year old singer.  Her mom was harsh and she seemed like a nice little girl who wants to have fun, but her mom is seeking perfection.    Let's home the parents of both kids are seeking counciling. 
 

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