Messages By: pearlhanna

I want to thank you Dr. Phil.  Your expression "Can't change what you don't acknowledge" has hit me like a brick wall these past two days.

I have had an awakening that I needed.  LOL I didn't "want" it but I accepted it anyway. 

A group has betrayed me for the past 7 years.  I allowed it and I kept trying and trying to prove myself.  They got richer and I got no thank you of any kind.  Well today, for some odd reason I played back a segment of one of your broadcasts and you said those six words.  I hope you don't mind but will keep that tape so I can replay that expression when I need it in case of lapse of judgment and need from people not worthy of my time.

I thank you from the bottom of my heart. 

Even though I didn't play a game like soccer; and lost, you tossed me a lifesaver (peppermint) and gave me things to think about.  I have choices.  I AM NO ONES PAWN ANYMORE.

I didn't tell these people to go scratch but my attitude of ever emailing them with ideas or suggestions will be a cold day in H E double hockeypucks.

Thank you Dr. Phil.

Pearlhanna 

I put all my efforts into the relationship.  It didn't work out.  I lost contact with all my friends.  Any good places, besides bars, to meet friends?

I am considering a volunteering organization and wonder if any of you folks went this route to meet people.

I am also wondering if there is a NAAFA type group for singles or a group that accepts people of size.

I took back a boyfriend that I kicked out in August via restraining order.  I hate to sound superficial, but he's a burden.  He doesn't make much money.  His priority is different than mine.  I pay my bills first than see whats left over to go out and have fun.  He is in over $1,800 in credit card debt and insists on paying the minimum payment.  If I can't pay it off, I don't buy.  When I kicked him out he preferred living in a book store saying he didn't have the money to pay for an apartment.  With affordable housing, assistance with food, utilities, its an excuse... especially when he unpacked 8 weeks ago when he moved back in with me.  He had money for a CD player, clothes, CDs. and a stuffed animal that sings and flaps his hands and legs.  I was like WTH... instead that junk find a roof thats not cardboard.

My problem is I felt sorry for him.  I should have stayed foot loose.  I figure I deserve someone who makes equal or a bit more money than I do and has similar priorities to mine.  Between you me and the sun, I don't pay for clothing (except underwear and shoes) or other things, I get a lot for free bidding on Freecycle.org.

Dr. Phil, I was going to ask if you ever did a topic on ended relationships..when a relationship is  over uis it worth giving another try or do a titanic --  let it sink and float away...fast!  I did the pro and con list but my lonliness got ahead of me.

...the only problem is where do they live?

pearl

Join freecycle.com.

There you can post what you wanna give away and also look at what others are giving away.

Be aware though no one that obtains stuff on freecycle.org will be on Antiques Roadshow... Freecycle is more like "one man's trash is another one's treasure."

Pearl

Asperger's syndrome?  If he got off his "asper" he'd have a new syndrome called Iwannawork. 

Dr. Phil's theory; "can't change whatcha don't acknowledge" prevails.  Dr. Phil, sorry but I use that quote every chance I get.