Messages By: poetmom

People can and do change.........and we should applaud those who take the HUGE step to do so, and those who are strong enough to stand by them, love them, believe in them. Without Gretchen, who knows where Danny might be now? She is his angel!!   :)

I think it does people in May-December relationships a disservice to try to clump them all together and say that age matters, or that it doesn't. Every relationship is different. It's not the age of the two people involved that is going to determine the success of the relationship. It's the maturity of the two individuals, the compatability between them, the communication, the respect, etc.  I've been involved with an older man for eight years, and married to him for four. He is eighteen years older than I am, and it's the best relationship that either of us have been in........ever. We wouldn't trade our relationship for the world.

Both of the parties in the relationship are adults. Therefore, it's not up to "Mommy" to get him out of anything. He is old enough to make his own decisions, and to accept the consequences for them, positive or negative. Give them a chance, and if it DOES last, then you won't have lost your son forever.

My husband is 18 years older than I am, so we fall into this category. Broad generalizations like yours are truly offensive to me. We are VERY happy together, and have found true love with one another. Both of his children (who are 15 and 16 yrs younger than me) say that they've never seen him as happy as he has been in the last eight years....and my three children also say that I have never been happier. Sometimes we get second glances from people when we're walking through the mall hand in hand, but you know what? We don't care!   :)