Messages By: tammygann

I just watched the show and the first thing I wanted to know was...Did anyone tell the biological father that he has a child?  How about the mother who committed falsehoods not only her ex-husband, but to her daughter and the real dad.

I am somewhat disappointed that the only "dad" this little girl of 10 knew betrayed her at what looks like was at the behest of the new step-mother. Any dad finding out he isn't the biological father should get over being hurt before he makes a decision to take action. This guy is the father of the little girls sister and the only father she has ever known. It is not her fault that she has a lieing mother. My guess is that her mother didn't admit her mistakes to her daughter but instead focused the words on the guy she thought was her real dad. I think he needs to stop listening to his new wife with respects to the girl he was a daughter to; and go and apologize for how poorly he handled the news. He should be willing to pay child support, but make out the checks to his non-biological daughter as an apology for how badly he handled the news  to date. He should try to re-establish a loving relationship they once had, as I am sure by now he realizes he made a mistake to try and eliminate her from his life. After all it wasn't either of their faults, but instead it was the fault of the person they both thought loved them.

The little girl can decide if she wants to let him back into her life and hopefully someday she will forgive him and let him back into her life. They have a great many exciting events in the coming years to share, it would be a shame for them to both miss out on those precious times because someone they loved betrayed them both.

She should also have the option of whether or not she wants to know who the biological father is and whether she has a desire to see or get to know them. The show did not focus on the mother needing to apologize to both her ex-husband and daughter, but I think they should have.

I am kind of surprised that this lady is remarried and knows what she did to her ex and daughter and would want to stick around. Does he really think she isn't going to lie to him?  If that is the case....he isn't reading the tea leaves correctly.

There was also now real information supplied about how the real biological daugther feels about what her parents both did. It would be great to have a follow up to this story to further look into situations such as this and to see if Dr. Phil can help them all following todays show to offer a better future for all of them.

By the way, we can all argue what should or should not be legally the right thing to do, but the bottom line is everyone involved is dealing with hurt, anger, and betrayal. Whether someone has to pay or not shouldn't be the focus. Healing the hearts and relationships are much more important.