Messages By: yoshiyoshi

I'm pretty ignorant about the detoxing processes, so sorry if this comes across as obvious to some people. Why are they pushing Tacoa to be up, and running around when she's detoxing? I agree with her sister, what's the point of pushing her when she's suffering? Why not wait until she's detoxed, and then start to work on issues? I mean, she hasn't been shooting up, or smoking, why isn't that good enough for now?

I found it very interesting, that this show was all about supporting the parents of these Deaf/Blind children. Where when most people hear of or deal with a child with Autism, they offer little empathy. These Deaf/Blind children act very much like an Autistic child. So I ask you, if they were classified as Autistic instead of Deaf/Blind, would you care?

There's a positive documentary on these Deaf/Blind triplets, yet what do Autistic children have? A propaganda film called Autism Every Day, which shows MANIPULATED Autistic children. Who have INTENTIONALLY had their structure, and environment messed with. So that what you see is out of control, tantrum throwing, Autistic brats. To further the idea that Autistic children need to be prenatally tested, so they can be aborted.

I'm not seeing anyone saying these Deaf/Blind triplets would be better off if they weren't born. However, while they are seen as little miracles. Autistic children are seen as suffering, and as "Not exsisting" or "Not being there", while most people don't question that. Dr. Phil brought up that these Deaf/Blind children sense their parents love, even if they don't formally communicate it to their parents. I don't see many people saying that in regards to Autistic children, when the statement is also true for them.

If you really care about these children, then go and try to help Autistic children, who are very similar, if not, in the same situation. They may not be deaf, and blind, but they also don't communicate by NT standards, which our society seems to think is a great problem. I'd even make the allusion, that they see Autistic children as being a problem, as much as Hitler saw the Jews as being a problem.

If none of this affects you, then just think that the Eugenics starts with those who are Autistic. It will continue until there are only "perfect" children born. Which means these triplets would not be able to access life. Maybe you wouldn't be able to access life, because of some issue you may have that isn't seen as you being worthy of life.

I think there should be much more discussion about this very important issue. I'm not trying to diminish the struggle of the parents of these Deaf/Blind children. The fact is though, because their children are disabled in a standard sense, they have it much easier. Than parents of Autistic children, who are constantly told their child is just a burden, who don't get support. Unless their child is visibly disabled, or physically disabled.

Mental disabliity is seen as a curse, it should stop being promoted in that way. At the very least, to stop this growing sense of disabilism, where if someone isn't physically disabled and needs help. They will grow a resentment for those who do, and refuse to understand their struggle. Seeing as, they get all the help they could ever want, while the child who is mentally disabled, is left to struggle on their own.

What I meant by the statement, that physically disabled kids get all the help they could ever want. Was meant as from the perspective of a child  who has mental disabilities. I have Asperger's Syndrome, and I was in the Special Ed system. Alot of times I was dismissed, as not needing help, because I didn't demonstrate needing help in a physical sense.

Also, now these days they are putting kids with drug problems, in Special Ed. So there also is a sense of, why's that druggy getting help when I was born with a disability. Why should they be getting babycoddled, when they had the choice to disable themselves with drugs. I never had a choice, I should get priority over them.

This is also an issue when it comes to the issue of mental, and physical disabilities. Alot of higher-functioning Autistics, or Aspies (short for Asperger's Syndrome), feel they're not being helped because they don't look autistic. Alot of times it seems, we'd get help if we acted Autistic and then said, "There now I look Autistic, now you'll have to help me." This would sound very crass to parents with classically Autistic children, but the reality is that's what it's like.

I've been sent to support groups who have told me, they support Asperger's Syndrome people. At one, I was put in responsibility of babysitting other lower-functioning Autistics. At another, I was placed in a therapy group that helped druggies. Nobody would put up with a classically Autistic child being sent to a help group, only to be told that they would be put in responsibility of the other children there. Yet, if someone doesn't look like they have problems, or if they act smart. 

Most people will assume they don't have problems, and then act surprised when someone has a meltdown because they put too much pressure on someone who was Aspie, and realize that person needs support. That they might be smart, but that doesn't mean they will be able to, or put up with, being a babysitter rather than getting the support they were told they would get.

So as you can see, growing up not being retarded enough, but not being normal enough is very difficult. Nobody is out there giving support, because both sides have their excuses for why they don't need to help those on the higher end of the spectrum. So they simply don't get help. Then they wonder why higher functioning Autistics and Aspies aren't more social. When society has thrown them off to the side, to help everyone but them.

I have a version of what Joan has. It's a hearing sensory issue, where you have more sensitive hearing than others. I would like people to hopefully learn from Joan's story, that not everyone has the tolerance for sudden loud noises.

Almost everytime I go out to eat I ask not to be seated by children. I cannot tolerate their screaming, or loudness. Usually I have people who ignorantly assume this must mean I hate children, or that it's a sign that I must be "retarded". I also have delt with resturants who cannot seem to understand what don't sit children by me means. Apperantly there are alot of ignorant people out there, who do not consider babies to be children.

I hope Dr. Phil your making people aware of this problem will change things. Maybe now parents will understand that when someone says please sit somewhere else, it's not a personal issue. That confronting the person who asks you to move, with some juvenile argument that you're claiming something is wrong with their child.

What Joan has is a invisible disability. People with invisible disabilities are constantly stressed out, by a society that insists on beliving, if I don't see a physical disability it must not exsist. When someone tells you they cannot tolerate something, it doesn't help to say you are being a problem, or it's not so bad. How would you feel if there was something you couldn't tolerate, but others could. So that if you explained your inability to tolerate that, you would be made to feel like a freak.

There used to be a time where there were places for adults, and places for children. If families want to be able to eat out with small children, they should be understanding of the effect of their children on other people. Otherwise they should be advocating for child-only areas of the resturant. It is not unreasonable that when someone says I do not want to sit by your child, that they don't have to be lied to. Told that they won't make noise, or they will behave. They're children, they want to run around. Just because you're being so selfish as to take them somewhere where they will have to sit still rather than a Chuck E Cheese, doesn't mean everyone else should suffer for it as well.

It is not children I have a problem with. It's parents who refuse to understand that there are people in society who do have a low-tolerance for the peircing sounds of children yelling and carrying on. Dr. Phil, I think you should do a show on how people who have hearing sensory issues are almost virtually shut out from society, because if anyone these days says a bad word, or doesn't fully accept someone's little aaaannngggeeelll, they are considered to be in the wrong. To be a problem, or making up issues for attention.

A part of being a parent is teaching your child to behave, not for the sake of just teaching them politeness, to keep them safe. Children do not know they are pushing other adult's buttons, you are supposed to explain that to them. Not behave like a child, and pitch a fit when someone has a reason for not being able to tolerate the noise of children. Being a parent of a small child, does not entitle a parent to behave like a small child themselves.

Clarity, I'm so glad to hear you say that it's not a choice. I have had so much trouble all my life, with the sensory hearing issue. I think alot of it was, I grew up being in Special Ed in public schooling. They act as if your problems are your fault, or you are just craving attention. That it's no big deal, you should just be able to get over this.

I didn't realize last night until I saw Joan on TV, the reason I was so angry at parents with loud kids, was because I was upset with myself. I kept blaming myself and saying, I'm a freak, I'm the one with the problem. That is not true! People like us need to advocate for child-only areas in family resturants. I don't go to a Chuck E Cheese and harrass the children, why should they be allowed to bother adults in a adult resturant?