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February 22, 2006, 10:37 am PST

Wake up call!

Grant needs a wake up call!  Make him run the house for three days without any help from his wife.  His first priority is to make sure the children are taken care of and then he can do the house work.  When his wife gets home from his job, Grant can have dinner ready and she can tell him how he did.  I would hope she would be as hard on him as he is on her.  I can't believe Dr. Phil didn't tell him that he is not living up to his part as a husband.  How would he feel if his wife didn't wear her ring?  I just want to screem at Grant and Dr. Phil! 

  

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February 22, 2006, 11:06 am PST

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Grant needs a wake up call!  Make him run the house for three days without any help from his wife.  His first priority is to make sure the children are taken care of and then he can do the house work.  When his wife gets home from his job, Grant can have dinner ready and she can tell him how he did.  I would hope she would be as hard on him as he is on her.  I can't believe Dr. Phil didn't tell him that he is not living up to his part as a husband.  How would he feel if his wife didn't wear her ring?  I just want to screem at Grant and Dr. Phil! 

  

Rebecca 

  

  

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May 16, 2006, 9:26 am PDT

Don't miss this show!

Hi!  My name is Rebecca from Utah and I am one of the women that Dr. Phil recruited who helped with this project.  Get ready for a show that will blow your mind.     

   

                     "Tell all of your friends to watch!"     

   

I can't say anything about the show until after it airs, but I will be on this message board today to answer any questions as soon as it's aired.  I will check the message board every 1/2 hour and answer any questions you have for me.  I loved working on this show and I'm very happy I was chosen.  I'm very happily married and I have 2 children of my own.  Can't wait for you to see this Dr. Phil Show!   

   

Rebecca***A.K.A.*** "SpitFire"   

 
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May 16, 2006, 11:06 am PDT

You are wrong!

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I agree it's not that he is wrong or she is right. If they discussed the roles that each would have in their marriage then there wouldn't be a problem. I know plenty of marriages like this where the man does the outside chores and the woman the inside. Here we have another woman who has been influenced by feminist. Did you see them all trying to empower ( indoctrinate is more like it ) her at  the retreat? I could just imagine what these feminist were saying off the air. Were gonna fix you so, you won't need him anymore. You don't need him. He is a pig. Your the boss, not him. The problem here is she does these duties around the house not because of her love and devotion to him. But, out of fear of his tounge. The tounge lashing she will get from him if she doesn't do it. So, both are wrong. Another feminist in disguise that wants it both ways. We will see how happy she is as a single mother all by herself out there. Not only will she have to clean house and cook for herself. She will have to maintain the repairs on the house, mow the lawn. Keep the vehicle maintenanced. And a whole host of other things that she took for granted that her husband did without a second thought. Car mechanics will take advantage of her ignorance. So will home repairmen. I think the husband should be nice to her and that she should do her house work willingly and out of love. And then if she does not do this. Then he will know that this was just a ploy to get him to do more housework. And to take her place as Queen like the Black woman who demeened him and the drill seargent white woman with lungs like bellows yelling at him. They humiliated him and they enjoyed it. We need to get back to our God ordained roles in the family and quit messing around with these experiments. 

I am the woman who yelled at Greg and I would never speak to my husband like that in a million years because my husband treats me with respect and love, so I would do anything for him.  We only did  to Greg what he does to his wife on a regular basis so that he could feel her pain!  He said to me a couple of times, "Yeah I guess I could do that a little different".  A good husband does not make his wife so scared of him that she retreats to the bathroom to throw up every day.  Greg is not doing his job as a husband.  This guy has issues and he needed to feel her pain even if it were for just a day or two.  I am not a feminist by any means, but I do think that all humans should be treated with respect.  I would do the same thing if this were a man being treated this way by his wife.  So for you to take the stance that  this didn't help, is dead wrong!  I saw lights go off in this man's head every time he was treated the way he treats his wife.  Now it is up to him to decide if he wants to keep treating her like an animal or save his marriage.  He was given a wake- up call and that's all we could do.  I'm am very proud of the experiment and would do it again in a heartbeat. Yes,  God is good and there ARE roles in families, but God didn't say that the man should take out the garbage and the woman should make the bed.  He looked at roles as ways to treat and respect one another.  One of those roles is to love and honor your family!!!!!    Think about that one and maybe read your Bible a little more closely. 

  

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May 16, 2006, 11:29 am PDT

Typicl guy stuff--Not!

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Rebecca, aka "SpitFire", I missed some of the show but I caught most of it.  So--did Greg do "twice the work in half the time" just like he bragged?  Also, does Greg do any of the typical "guy" stuff around the house like mowing the lawn or home repairs?  Anyway, hope you set him straight and enjoy the spa trip!

Greg did a few things around the house that some guys do, but he was not doing his job as a man and husband.  When he met Amy he did all of the right things to get her where he wanted her, but now  he says he doesn't have the "TOOLS"  to keep her happy.    I hope this slap in the face leads him to see how bad he made her feel, and helps him make the right choice  by treating his wife like a human being.  He needs therapy and a willing soul to help him now.   I hope he sees how this is effecting his young daughters too.  If he can realize that he can love his wife to do anything he wants, then he will have it made.  Thanks for you comment. 

  

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May 16, 2006, 11:44 am PDT

What a guy!

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i havent rolled on the floor laughing so hard scince i was a child,and im still rofl  you gave that jerk just what he needed lol  hahaha, god made women to give us a companion not to be a slave or a servent and i was very upset to see how he was theating his wife he was blessed with a good loving woman,she deserves to be treated as a equal as all women do its a sad thing to see somany women bein mistreated by men, i relly didnt see a change in that mans future other that the noumber of people living with him he will be alone dr phil please keep an eye on her i think he will try to make her sorry for coming to you for help i saw that in his eyes, call me crazey if you like but i have that gift i see things from within,  i loved it when you said he was like a dog runnin up nad down the fence barkin and reached a open gate come on out and lets see what you got im rotfl now at that you hit the nail dead on the head  lol   

job well done i watch ur show every day and this was by far the best ive seen, ohhh to the women you got to teach him a lesson ladies well done  lol i too believe a man should cook clean house and do laundry, its not ur job to raise ur husband,thats mamas job when he was a child,i grew up with 5 sisters, and i love to do my part in helpin out and feel every man should as well you guys and ladies gave my heart such a uplift today thank you all,and may god bless every one ,just sign me as one crazey guy but lovin every day of it  

I'm so glad you enjoyed this experiment as much as I did.  I have a wonderful husband and would never yell at him like I yelled at Greg, but someone has to stand up for the treatment of other human beings and I was proud to do it.  I would do the same thing if it were a woman treating her husband this way.  You sound like you have a good heart and I'm so proud of you for speaking out.  All people deserve to be treated with respect.  Thanks for your comments. 

  

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May 16, 2006, 1:09 pm PDT

Sorry

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How did you get to help Dr Phil with this "male chauvinist pig intervention"  

I was surfing Dr. Phil's web site and came across a question of -what would you do to this guy?- I simply answered the question.  I said I would take away his power and make him feel like he makes his wife feel.  I said that I am a strong woman and would not back down from anyone.  Then I got a call from the show asking me to send in a video of how I would get Greg to do the dishes, so I did.  They receive many entries and then chose three wives that they thought would be good for the job.  I was one of those women.  Yeah!!!!  I Loved every minute of it and hope to get to do it again.  I know that it doesn't look like Greg took anything away from this but I saw his face and I have hope that this will give him a wake up call.  Thank you for reminding me about your question because I'm just learning how to respond.  My wonderful husband is helping me. 

  

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May 16, 2006, 1:27 pm PDT

Great for you

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This guy might be a jerk...OK he is.  BUT...I always have a tough time listening to women whine that they have to do everything around the house.  THIS IS ONLY DIRECTED AT 100% STAY-AT-HOME WIVES OR MOTHERS OF SCHOOL AGE OR OLDER KIDS.  I'M ASKING THAT YOU PUT ON YOUR RATIONAL HAT...BE REALLY HONEST WITH YOURSELF ABOUT HOW YOU SPEND YOUR DAY.  Well...if your husband is at work all day supplying the income that makes that house and everything in it possible...YOUR half of the bargain is cleaning the house and treating it like the job you want it to be considered.  It's called 'Division of Labor'. 

The big thing these days is to attach a dollar value to everything the stay-at-home does around the house. 

  

Well...how would you like it if your husband presented you with a BILL for what it would cost YOU to live in the same kind of house you live in...what it would cost YOU to pay your own utilities, food, clothing, healthcare, furniture, entertainment, you name it.  And you get to stay home to boot.  And all you have to do is hold up your end of the bargain.   

  

Does your husband ask you to come to his office and generate that quarterly P&R spreadsheet? Does he ask you to come to work and write sales proposals...does he ask you to come to his auto repair shop and rebuild a transmission?...and the 1,001 things a working man has to do to keep that roof over your head.  Well then...why do stay-at-home wives ask their husbands to come home from work and the political bullcrap he has to deal with there...and VACUUM !???  Why does he have to help you do your half of the work?   I'm a woman who wonders these things all the time.  I have respect for what I do...take pride in it...and see it as a trade off for not having to deal with a daily commute...office politics...and I TREAT IT LIKE A JOB THAT I ALWAYS LOOK TO IMPROVE UPON.  Just like the pressure my husband feels in his career to stay competitive...to survive corporate shake-ups...to improve HIS skill set so our lives can be supported.   It's a division of labor that keeps our little world turning smoothly.  Stop whining and be glad he doesn't present YOU with a bill for what HE does for YOU ! 

A lot of people feel the same way you do to a point, but if your husband came home and degraded everything you did in front of your children and treated your children with the same disrespect, I would hope that no amount of money in the world would make you stay in your financial safety net.  This topic is not just about who does what, it's about treating another human being with the respect of at least an animal don't you think.  I will to do anything I can to make my husbands day go better because I love and respect him, but his job does not end when he punches out at work.  He is a father and husband and if he can't provide love, respect and emotional security when he gets home, then he is not doing his job as a husband and father.   

  

Rebecca 

 
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May 16, 2006, 2:02 pm PDT

Yeah!

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Todays (5/16/06) show was another angel looking down on me.  I am in this type of relationship; I have been working on exerting my rights to be met with higher stakes.  Oh they are so wonderful when you meet them you think you hit the lottery.  However, the happily ever after becomes a nightmare you can't seem to wake up from.  Then you doubt yourself as they pout, scream, yell, demand to get you back where they want you--afraid.  Then a show like Dr. Phil's comes on and says you don't have to take this for the sake of saving the marriage or it's your second marriage and you don't want to look like a failure.  That little glimpse of a higher power telling you something is NOT RIGHT!  That one show that changes your life.

I am so pleased to read what you have to say.  All people want in life is to be loved and when you learn to love yourself that's when life is it's fullest.  No one---Man, woman or child should be treated like they are less than anyone else in this world.   Be strong. 

  

Rebecca 

 
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May 16, 2006, 2:34 pm PDT

The problem?

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I'd like to ask Amy what her pay-off is.  I'd also like to know what she thinks would happen to Greg if he still didn't have a handle on his job after eight years.  

  

My house is twice the size of Amy's, yet it's spotless.  I have dinner ready to be served when my husband walks in, even though his schedule varies from day to day.  The laundry's caught up, I work out six days a week, and I still have time to watch Dr. Phil and yack on the internet.  What's the problem, Amy? 

His direspect, coldness, anger issues etc.....   Did you not watch the show?
 

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