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May 16, 2006, 3:19 pm PDT

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I am much like you BIFBOBIF my husband works 12-14 hours a day so i can stay home with my kids, and i also feel it is my duty to do the things i do. But i also think you should be appreciated and respected for what you do. I got very lucky when i met my husband i met a great guy. He always puts me at the top of his list, me and our kids are the number one thing in his life. As is he in mine. We have been married almost 9yrs and have been together for almost 13yrs total, and he tells me everyday that he loves me more each day. A lot of my friends and family make fun of me for what i do for him, example: i like to make him a plate of dinner and make it so all he has to do is eat it and they think he is like a kid, i just like to do things for him he does so much for me.........this man needs a good look at a his attitude and the way he treats his wife but i would like to see amy get the attitude she needs to put up with him, make him feel what you feel. I use to let people do and say what they wanted about me but when i had my first child i learned that my opinion counts and that i have a right to be heard whether it good or bad at that time, so my daughter can see she does not have to put up with this from anyone.............

It's not a bad thing to do most of the work. This is why I wanted to do the show. People will do anything for you if they know that you are on their side and that you love and respect them. You can love someone to do anything for you, but when you treat them with disrespect, they shut down and start to hate you. There is something I always say in my family:

"People are like mirrors, they reflect what they see".

Rebecca--

If you are kind and respectful usually people are the same.

If you are mean and disrespectful to others, expect the same.

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May 16, 2006, 3:40 pm PDT

Did this help?

I'm Rebecca the loud mouth on the show. I just want people to know that I would never yell at my husband like this because he is a loving, kind and supportive man, but I had a blast yelling at Greg. Greg needed to feel how his wife feels. I think that we showed Greg how it feels to be treated like a nobody and if he truly loves his wife, he will watch this show back and get the help he needs. If he doesn't get help, I hope Amy does the right thing for her children.

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May 16, 2006, 4:29 pm PDT

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I have been reading your comments and it is nice to know that you three women were not trained professional but real every day wives who have the self confidence to stand up to this man. It seemed rather light hearted though and I am sure this guy could tolerate it for such a short time but how do you think he would have done on a long term basis of having you in his fac?. He is in his wife's face day after day and over time no doubt has worn her down. I bet if this continued for a longer time he would have blown up and would not have allowed you to keep doing it. I sure didn't get the impression he had a wake up call at all; he seemed just as arrogant in the end as in the beginning. jmo

I think that this was too easy for Greg. I would have liked to have been harder on him because I take it serious when one human treats another so horrible. I think everyone deserves to be treated with respect. When the cameras were not rolling, I talked to him as much as possible and tried to let him know what he was doing to his children and wife. There were a few times when he realized that I was not there just to yell at him, but that I truly wanted to reach him. Our part in the experiment was to let him know how it felt to be treated like he treats his wife. Everything we did to him was the same exact things he did to Amy. I had the heart to heart talks with Greg and I still think that if he gets the help he needs, he can change. If he chooses to keep the path he is on, he will never be happy with anyone. I am a strong woman because of my past. Amy will become stronger as she grows.

***Rebecca****

Thank you for your support.

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May 16, 2006, 5:03 pm PDT

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Rebecca, thanks for having the guts to join the discussion here. I understand the intent of the experiment, but with somebody like Greg and his personality, it may have had the opposite effect. I am hopeful things can be worked out between Greg and Amy, but now that you and the other two "wives" have embarrassed Greg in front of millions of people, he may feel the only way to save face, at least in his mind, is to end the marriage and go his own way. Only time will tell.

Greg was a willing participant in this. If you ask me he had too much fun. We did to Greg what he does to his wife every day. Each thing that we did was what she and he told us he did. If he was not embarrassed to do these things to his wife, then he shouldn't have a problem getting it done to him. I don't think a man could have done any better at this because it's him yelling at her, so he needed to know how it feels to be treated like crap from the opposite sex. In the end what we did will not make or break his marriage. That is not why we were there. We were there to let him know how it feels to be in his wife's shoes. I don't think anyone should yell and treat each other with disrespect, but he was willing to walk in his wife shoes for a couple of days. Yeah Greg!!! I saw things click with him and he would say "yes, I guess I could do that a little different". I had heart to heart talks with Greg and he knew I was there to help him and that the yelling part was to make a point. The viewers may not get the point, but I think that Greg did. Hopefully Greg chooses to be a real man and step up and stop emotional killing his little girls and wife. If he is ashamed of himself, he has only himself to blame. I hope he takes the help offered by Dr. Phil. Thank you for your comment and have a great day.

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May 16, 2006, 5:08 pm PDT

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I think it was easy on him because he got three days to do what she does almost everyday..right?

Plus he didn't have to do it with the kids around.

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May 16, 2006, 5:29 pm PDT

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I heard them mention the ten year old girl.....how many other children do they have and what ages?

Amy has a 10 year old daughter and then a 5 year old daughter with Greg. I think there might be a son from Greg's first marriage too.

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May 16, 2006, 6:41 pm PDT

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Rebecca. I saw you on Doctor Phil Show. But as you well may know John or Jon will go right back where he is. But you did a great job on him even though it may back fire on you. Rebecca what is-

your E-Mail address in Utah? My is RBV43@Juno.Com See you in near----

future. Well I had better close now. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.-----------------------------------

I'm sorry I don't think it's safe to give out my email address on the web page.

Thank you for your comment though. I do believe in my heart that there is good in almost everyone and I think that if Greg wants to, he can do the work to save his marriage. I am the only one of the three women who thinks this way because I try to see the best in everyone. Greg is a total ass, but he is human and I did see a softer side while working the project. I still have hope. To Amy, if he does not do the work, leave. Greg's favorite thing to say was "It's not in my nature" or "I can't change, that's just my nature". I told him, animals can't change their nature but he could if he wanted to. Now it is up to Greg to step up and be a real man and save his marriage or be like an animal and lose ever thing. These are real lives and believe me all of the people involved here feel the pain. I think about Amy and Greg all of the time. It did not just end for me the day I finished my part. I think about the children every day, now lets hope Greg steps up!

***REBECCA***AKA***Spitfire*****

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May 16, 2006, 7:01 pm PDT

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they wouldn't come out in public casue they are cowards. Maybe greg is serious enough to really want help with this issue so maybe this is why he went along with it, I am sure there will be updates in time, will be interesting................

You hit the nail on the head. I can't wait to see what's going to happen too.....

Rebecca***

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May 16, 2006, 7:07 pm PDT

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This is my first time writing on the message boards. I am happy that we can comment on the shows. I feel that Greg was only saying what he wanted his wife to hear when he was on the show. I really hope that she moves on with her life (with her daughter).

I do believe people can change in life but they have to first acknowledge their behaviour and step up and do something about it one step at a time. Unfortuantly, I think that Greg would have to start by changing his job or have a lower position with no authority (as I believe alot of the way he is comes from his job). I believe part of the "wake up call" will be when his wife will file for divource & move out. I hope if she does this that he is not miserable with her through the divource.

Good luck if you are reading this & stay strong in whatever decision you make.

" Thumbs" up to the Woman that were on the show making Greg do all the work. I especially liked it when she made him do the push ups. LOL

Thanks! It's nice to be appreciated. Even if it doesn't change things, he got a shot of his own medicine.***Rebecca***

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May 16, 2006, 8:51 pm PDT

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Yes but you don't understand. She should do her job with out complaint. He works all day. He should come home to a hot meal that he likes. That is her job, she doesn't deserve thanks because that is how she earns her room and board. If you complained at your job you'd probably get reprimanded or even fired! He is her boss and he sets the rules and she is to follow them and if she doesn't then she isn't doing her job right.

Right?

So it's 5:00 and they have both went to work at 6:00. Now do they both get to clock out at 5:00 or what ever time the day ends for work? Who takes care of the kids because mom and dad are clocked out. Be Real!!! Now it's time for them both to take care of the kids and each other. Now it's time to be a husband and father, wife and mother or did every one forget that part? The day is not over just because the office ids closed!

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