Messages By: dianeja

If you don't want to have a baby then keep your zipper up and say  no. He agreed to have sex which meant whatever came along with it especially it was unprotected sex. If the men would have to have the baby and all that goes with it then they can make all the choices but until then the only choice they get to make is DO I HAVE SEX OR NOT? Now when this baby is born he can pay for it and there isn't a Judge anywhere thats going to allow this to fly.His job and he will tell you will be to look out for the BABY. 

    Sometimes I wish that was the problem but here is my problem: My husband and I have been married for almost 21 years. During that time he has taken money from a worker/friend to see me coming out of the shower with no clothes on. He has set up a threesome with another coworker from the next job that he went to. I told him that I wasn't interested but he picked out linguree for me to wear that night. We have four kids ages 15,17,19 and 21. Now of course the 21 year old is very seldom here but he is always with the 19 year old working he says. He doesn't sleep with me we have no llife together at all. Which is worse too much or None at all............

  My son got married in October last year 07 and they had a baby in march o8 she is 19 and he is 22. This girl is driving me crazy. I have really bent over backwards to the extreme to get along with this girl but it isn't working. She is adamant that all holidays should be spent with her relatives not his and that I always make a fuss. My husbands birthday was this month and he was able to call his dad but they took her dad out to dinner. I understand that they live there with her family but before he married her she had a car, an apartment and 2 part time jobs now she has nothing. They live with her parents so the babysitter is there. If I want to see the baby I have to pretty much make an appointment. I have been hollered at in public by this girl because I agreed to talk to her about this problem with her parents there and her parents told her that she needed to bring her voice down 4 notches that people were listening to her. I thought my son and I were close but I feel that he is either being brain washed or I was mislead by our relationship. They are holy rollers and speak in tongues. I am a Baptist and we try not to judge people on their religion but now they are deciding on the Godparents her parents that is and they decide where she is to be christened and by whom, Now she is calling the preacher of this congregation grandpa . You see she is also mad a my husband. I have put this relationship in the Lords hands but I need to know what else I can do. Sometimes I wish  they would get divorced and he would go his own way but he isn't allowed to talk to us

or just doesn't . Her theory is no matter your age except my 92 yr old grandmother if you want to see this baby you gotta come to there house. At first I thought it was money but then I learned that they go to concerts all over the state and they can go to the mountains and pay 18 a person for food but then when the baby was born I offered to buy the baby a  new baby bed and she said that she was alright with that t and then took one that someone gave her instead. If I buy her something she gives it away to someone else for a baby shower gift.

What should I do??????????????????

      I have tried everything to get along with this daughter in law and yesterday she decided to show up at my families get together and treat me and my mother like crap. I am really tired of dealing with a 19 yr old that acts like  a b****. I hate to give up my son but at this time I guess he and my granddaugher are on their own. She has made sure that we don't have anything to do with my son or granddaughter and I really hate her at this point. I give up and don't know anything else to do....Dr. PHIL if you are reading this please help me.....................................