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December 19, 2005, 4:16 am PST

Mississippi Gulf Coast Children

  I may be jumping the gun because I've only watched the Wednesday & Thursday shows so far.  Friday's is still on my Tivo.  

  

  I did hear you mention the "Gulf Coast" area a couple of times but most of the references were about New Orleans families and children.  I think what you & Robin and your wonderful sponsors did was amazingly generous, but more importantly, an uplifting, positive, and unforgettable experience for kids who've suffered more from the trauma and uncertainty than the loss of personal items.  It was obvious that your kindness did just as much for their mental well-being as it did to give them back much of what they lost.  

  

  What seems to have been missing in almost all of the national coverage is the fact that the hurricane came in east of New Orleans leaving the most fierce and destructive winds to hit the Mississippi Gulf Coast.  I live in a community off I-10  16 miles east of the LA state line and 50 miles east of New Orleans - about dead on in the eye of the storm.  The part of my community on the south side of I-10 is all but gone.  There is a badly damaged Comfort Inn that remains standing and has caused many out-of-staters who stop for gas at the Chevron station on the north side of I-10 to ask the clerks what happened to it.  Most are surprised that the destruction was caused by Katrina because they'd gotten the impression from the media coverage that New Orleans was the only area to suffer catastrophic damages.  Hwy 90 which runs east/west along the Gulf of Mexico beach has just been opened to traffic.  Along that 40 or so mile stretch were some of the most beautiful plantation style homes in the state.  Several were historical landmarks.  I haven't seen it myself yet but have heard from many who have that there are very few homes standing and the ones that are have been damaged beyond repair.  It's now a stretch of highway primarily lined  with lots of empty slabs or maybe a staircase here and there. 

  

  New Orleans wasn't destroyed by the hurricane - it was destroyed by decades of politicians who knew the levees and pumping stations were substandard and inadequate, talked about the situation after every hard rain and during every hurricane season but never did anything to fix it.  Now the mayor, who had the most accurate information about where flooding would most likely occur, where people lived who might not have the means to evacuate, and actually had the resources to transport many of them, wants to blame everyone but himself.  I'm not trying to lessen the impact that the levee failures caused to so many, in fact I think it makes it worse because many died or were put into life-threatening circumstances by the lack of action of the officials elected to protect them.   

  

  The problem the New Orleans situation has caused for the Mississippi coast is that the mayor and governor are asking for so much money that they've actually frightened many US congressman (which would be almost comical under different circumstances)  away from allocating help to other devastated places. So as it was from the beginning when looters took over the city and others actually fired guns at the helicopters that were trying to bring in help, all of the attention and aid has been focused on New Orleans.   Oprah was the only national figure I can remember that devoted equal coverage to our coast. 

  

  I think the happiness you've given the children on your show is phenomenal - I only hope that some of the children from the Ms coast who also no longer have homes, toys, or stability,  were included. 

  

  

   

 
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November 8, 2006, 10:37 pm PST

It's NOT the Age Difference

Sanjay & Jaqueline's problems aren't  nearly as much about age difference as they are about how & where they met & the reasons each was there in the first place. 

 

C'mon Sanjay -  watch the show and pay special attention to the self-satisfied smile and triumphant  gleam in Jacqueline's eyes when she rattles on about the places you've taken her & the presents you've bought for her.  Your friend, although a little too vocal, is soo right & if you can't see that you probably deserve this trashy 18 yr old who helps to give life to the myth that all women are out for money.  And for how long do you think you can tolerate that whiny baby-talking voice? As J's peers would say "It makes me want to hurl".  I know things have changed somewhat but even today any girl who goes on a site so aptly named, poses nearly naked in "art modeling" photos while asking men to "help" her is a slut - no more, no less..

 

Send her home with mall money, take some time & use it to trade a few lipo treatments for a psychiatrist who can help you figure out why you have such a need to "mold" women in your personal life and even in your choice of profession.  Did a light come on?  Did you say "Bingo!"  You really need to explore that issue before you get into a serious relationship with anyone, especially someone like J.

 

Good luck!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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February 17, 2007, 3:33 pm PST

02/16 Biggest Reunions Ever

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You only saw the whistling finger you did not see Cindy asking vickey three times to do what cindy asked her to do. Cindy was only joking she puts vickey first. Vickey gets what she wan'ts when she wan'ts it. I have never known vicky to go with out. PLEASE poor 15 yr old. Do you have a teenager????????????????????????????????????????? Let me tell you i do and they are not easy to deal with!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! At least cindy is not beating her or letting her get raped by some mothers do. she is not running the streets and she is getting good grades.

It's nice of you to try to defend your friend but if the only way you can do so is to say that at least  Cindy's not beating her (she can't get off the couch to beat her if she wanted to) and not letting her get raped  & to then suggest that her daughter deserves to be disrespected & treated like Cinderella because she's a teenager & that automatically makes her the problem, does NOTHING to improve anyone's opinions of her mothering skills but it certainly makes one question yours! 

 

If Vickey gets anything she wants, maybe these 'gifts' stem from her mother's guilt for sitting on her throne & literally snapping orders at her daughter with a tone of voice that I can only describe as demeaning.  Bob weighs a thousand pounds but it looked to me like he took care of his own bodily functions.  And then she had the audacity to say how much better their relationship had gotten since Cindy moved into the living room.  I don't even want to imagine their previous relationship. 

 

I'd like to see Vickey move to her grandmother's house and let Cindy fend for herself.  If she's taking college courses she's either getting to a campus or sitting in front of a computer.  Either way that tells me she can GET OFF THE COUCH & do more for herself  And the first thing she should do is either use the toilet or empty her own bucket.   I don't really care how winded or tired THAT chore would make her.

 

I've seen many morbidly obese people on Oprah, Dr Phil & other shows and until today I've never seen a person in that situation who wasn't extremely grateful for the people who helped with the tasks they couldn't do themselves.  And although Vickey does say that her life would be easier if her mother lost weight (and who can blame her), the first thing I heard her say is that she wanted her mother back & wanted to do the things with her that most of us take for granted.

 

Maybe that's the personality she uses to cover her mental pain but she sure comes across as a selfish ***** who thinks that her daughter should happily do all the housework she can't or won't do without question or complaint.  And maybe she would if her mother could find a nicer way to ask & give up her role as COUCH COMMANDER.

 

I'm wishing Cindy the strength, courage and willingness to successfully follow the program and people Dr Phil is providing to her but I have to admit that at this point my good wishes are more for Vickey's sake than hers.

 
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January 17, 2008, 1:31 am PST

Yes a Gimmick

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They are not from Nigeria. There is no money. I had a person ask me for advise once I tried to explain to them, but they insisted that they were going to be sent money. I actually played along with a couple of these email scammers, just to see how far they would go.

 

There are many forms: One of them will send you a check for $7,500 as part of there lure to get at the fake $20 million. You are to keep $2,500 but to send $5,000 to some agent they are working with. This has to be done immediately so you need to deposit the check but send your own money.You just made $2,500. Wrong. There check is bogus and will not clear and you just lost $5,000. The amount will change based on how much they think you can be milked for.

 

Thee are no get rich plans. It requires hard work and time. You did not all of a sudden become smart. If you did bad in school, you will not get rich,unless you change the time and energy you are willing to invest.

 

Nobody, in these schemes are dying from cancer, or have relatives that left $20 million in a box. If they were sincere, they would give a name, address and phone number. If they do give this information, then you can do a search. My advise is to simply delete and don't read them. Don't waste your time.

You were correct about almost everything except that the E-MAIL SENDERS ARE FROM NIGERIA if that's where they claim to be & often they're in Nigeria when they claim to be elsewhere. 

 

They are not ashamed of their actions and the Nigerian gov't is doing little, if anything, to stop it.  They even have a word that loosely translates to "Stupid Americans" and shout it gleefully to all within hearing whenever they receive money.  There are special rooms set up where the scammers go to use the computers provided for them with full knowledge of the provider of how they'll be used. 

 

Since most of us have caught on to these, lookout for the variations.  i was offered a  job accepting foreign checks as payment for my employer's product and would then deposit these "checks", keep 20% as my salary and send the balance overseas to the employer via U.s. funds.

 

I replied that I was most interested & even included a short resume.  I also said that due to the scams that  "others"  were pulling it would be best if I sent his share  at least 14 days after I deposited the foreign check and  that since he was operating an honest business I knew it would not be a problem & I couldn't wait to start my new job. 

 

Whoever thinks I heard from him again, send me $100 & I'll let you know what happened.  (that's satire in case anyone thinks I'm serious)

 
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July 7, 2008, 10:17 pm PDT

Kim & Kristen

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 I think Dr. Phil hit the nail right on the head when he said that a lot of adult sibling rivalry is routed in old hurts that may have little or nothing to do with the current situation. Already sensitive b/c of past wounds, adult brothers and sisters react strongly to new slights, real or imagined, even though their response may be way out of proportion.

I also liked what he said about siblings making the choice not react to a sibling's nastiness. Iwould also add that one can choose to let old hurts go and start fresh (but that works best when all siblings try it, not just one). Might be easier though if sibs apologize to each other for past wrongs, regardless of the "reasons"  they had at the time. Of couirse, all this is easier said than done but probably worht it.

I totally agree.

 

Kristen, how could grow up with a sister you refer to as sarcastic & not have learned by now that she doesn't mean things the way you take them? 

 

 I'm not saying she's guiltless - the comment about your wedding and her miscarriage  was at the VERY LEAST extremely insensitive but I can't tell you the number of times I've seen a baby handed to a relative or friend with the mom saying EXACTLY what Kim said "When you get tired of her/him just give'em back"  And I've never seen anyone's feelings hurt by the comment.  If I had, I probably would have thought the person was having a super bad case of PMS or just a little bit "not right" mentally.   If you're expecting hurtful comments you can put a negative spin on almost anything Kim says and feel so right & justified in doing so that you never even consider the possibility that she meant nothing negative by what she said.

 

IKim & Kristen - Please take advantage of the help Dr Phil offered. 

 

My only sister was born when I was sixrteen and  I love & respect her  tremendously (She's the best mom I know)  But because of the age difference we didn't do the fun things I always wanted a sister for - shopping together, getting ready for dates together, going to a movie together when we didn't have a date but most of all being lifetime friends who could tell each other anything & know we'd never be judged or loved less by the other.

 

I realize that all sisters don't have my wistful version of sisterhood but I think that with the right counselor, a lot of work and and even more shared laughter that you CAN be BEST friends.  There's something very appealing and attractive about both of you & I'm betting that you can get past the old "crap".  I hope that some day not too long from now you'll be wondering why & how all the years of rivalry happened. You'll be sharing hugs, giggles and even a few tears over wasted years.

 
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July 7, 2008, 10:49 pm PDT

Shannon & Jodi

 First of all - Shannon GROW UP!!  Qiut looking for favoritism, agendas planed only to hurt you, & pleeeeze forget about the damn clothes.  If Jodi didn't "take responsibilty" maybe it's because your parents didn't think the offense (one which I've heard is rampant between sisters  and even mothers & daughters) reqiured hair shirts, a bed of nails & lifelong remorse.

 

The most ignorant thing you did was question your sister's timing for wanting to resolve your differences. 

Heelllloooo, "oh woe is me"  - your father is dying and your sister & mother have enough sense to realize

there's a reason you hear "Life is short" so often. And they also know how much it would mean to your father to see you become loving sisters. 

 

Maybe she's a good actress but I saw real pain & sadness in Jodi's eyes.  All I saw from you is an obvious enjoyment of the drama caused by being the constant victim.  I 'm not positive  what you meant about working so hard to get yourself healthy but it sounded as though you meant mentally.   Honey, if that is what you were referring to, get a new therapuist & don't repeat any of your past work 'cause it aint doin' much!

 

 

 

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