Messages By: shemac3

People...RELAX!! 

I really don't think you should be jumping all over these people and making them out to be child abusers pushing their precious babies into a life of pain and suffering!!  Since when do you really know these people??  Kara's mom is just like a million other mom's out there who just want her child to have fun and explore a talent.  Obviously Kara loves to sing...so let the kid sing!!   

My parents followed me around to ball tournaments every weekend from when I was 7-21 years old.  It was my life and I loved it.  Don't tell me that Kara would rather be wasting time sitting on the couch than doing something she loves.  Sure...practicing sometimes sucks...and ya...critism sucks....but look at the whole picture!!   

Why does everyone assume the worst from Kara's parents???   

Kara's Mom....I support you 

Dr Phil:  I just turned on your show.  I have been watching faithfully all week, as your issues have been extremely important to me.  Today I turned off your show.  The two women you started the show with hurt me deeply.  In two years and one day, I have lost most of my family - Mother and Father within a week of each other, my baby sister, my youngest daughter, and my soulmate, my husband.  He was the joy of not only my life, but every life he touched.  His funeral was filled to capacity with people who spoke - "He was my best friend".  He was full of life and "annoying habits".  That's what made him who he was.  He died young, but he did living a FULL life.  What I 

would give to have him here - annoying habits and all.  Please tell these two women to imagine what their lives would be like without these two full-of-life men.  After intense therapy, I started to live again, accepting my lot in life.  I re-married another man to fill the void.  Six months ago, I found out he was having an affair with a younger woman (more than half his age), and he continues to go through woman after woman.  He did this to me after all my losses, and he has no regrets -- it's all my fault.  Well, Dr. Phil, I have learned that this is not my fault, it is a person who is needy and needs others to full the empty void he walks around with.  I am now back on drugs and my doctor is 

setting up further help for me with a professional, but warns me it may take some time to get "connected" with this therapist.  In the meantime, I have you, Dr. Phil, and my pills.  I wish you were 

more accessable to people like me.  I certainly come away from your shows with new insights.  I need HUGE help in my life now, and these two women are so worried about petty, and some of the fun things in life.  God help them to see the light before something tragic happens to them, and they end up like zombies wondering what happened.  Please women, lighten up and smell the roses.  They are beautiful.  They can save you from total insanity. 

Wow Matt, how fortunate for you that you were able to find someone to represent you that had the same distorted way of thinking as you do.  

Whether or not you like the fact you are a father...WHICH YOU ARE...I'm sure you enjoyed all the pleasures leading up to the conception.  Why is it that sex is okay as long as it doesn't come with any sort of responsibilities?  You were supposedly dooped...BOO HOO...shut your pity party down and start getting down to business.  Be the father that this little girl needs and deserves.    

I get so tired of the man's mentality that their responsibility and accountability ends at conception.  Your sperm...Your responsibility, simple math.  Worried about your financial future?  Well, let's see...how much would that 1 little condom have cost?  You wouldn't have had to worry about college expenses, diapers, etc.  just one little condom.    

Be a man...step up to the plate and be a father.  Anyone can be a sperm donor...it takes alot more than that to be a parent.    

I hope the judge that hears your case (if there is one that will) sees this for what it really is...another deadbeat dad who wants to walk out on their responsibility and sticks it to you BIG TIME!!!!  I think you're getting off kind of easy at $500.00/mth.  Heck, that's not even child care.  

I hope from now on you learn that if you can't keep your pants on you will splurge for that condom.  

I have been receiving a lot of help for over 20 years. You obsiously don't, or can't listen. There are also girls who have posted messages on this very site who plainly said that they were flashed and did like it, but if you paid attention to what is goin on around you, you would know that I myself have posted several messages stating that whether someone liked it, I believe that harm was still done to them and to me as well. You just thrive on conflict and destructive criticism rather than constructive criticism which serves to contribute to solutions. Also, and thanks to intelligent people like you, I feel secure knowing that the ideals on which American justice hinges, like 'once a man has paid his debt to society he is entitled to a shot at redemption' Yes, I agree. Let's start locking people up twice for crimes, or three times, and maybe four times. Hell, let's just kill them. But who could we get to run the country once we change the United States Constitution to reflect your innovative new standards for America?

Rid of my obsession without years of therapy? You must be deaf. I have said repeatedly that I have gone through years of therapy, and for your information, I am still participating in several different forms of therapy by my own personal choice to do so. No judge or any other agency requires me to do it. I do it because I want to grow as a person. I am sorry, but it you who is wrong. I guess you were so busy being sick that your ears weren't working properly. I am trying very hard to grow. You shoul grow up. As for Tasha, she works in the E.R. at a local hospital and sees more in a night than you obsiously have throughout you whole life. It is you who are completely clueless.

Why? First of all you need to understand that if you do not have this type of problem, then you are not who I am trying to reach. It should be obvious why it is important to me to convince people. Because if they hear and believe it, maybe they too will stop the behavior and this will prevent someone out there from being victimized. Is that not something you think is important. Preventing someone from being victimized? Yes I still become angry sometimes, and I curse sometimes and I smoke cigarettes sometimes, but what does that have to do with the obsession that was supposed to be the topic here? You saw me get angry and define me as "an angry man". Does that mean that you never get angry? And if you have ever gotten angry, are you also an "angry man"? I never said "Hey, I don't have that obsession anymore and as a result of that I never become angry as well, nor do have any other defects of character. Stop connecting the dots. One issue has nothing to do with the other. Anger is anger, it is not exhibitionism. I apologize that you don't understand that. God bless you.